The higher the Mehr a woman asks you to pay, the less she valued you.

[Internet Nomad]

Meher usually reflects a man's income, big meher talk is for big money men. A lot of you guys, involve yourselves in conversations that are outside of your tax bracket.

Is your whole shtick just trying to emasculate every man?

because it’s embarrassing and no-one is taking the bait.

Go stay single and unmarried you don’t need to burden any miskeen Somali man.

Alhamdillah I’m in a field where the pay is good.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Is your whole shtick just trying to emasculate every man?

because it’s embarrassing and no-one is taking the bait.

Go stay single and unmarried you don’t need to burden any miskeen Somali man.

Alhamdillah I’m in a field where the pay is good.

If my comment makes you feel emasculated, that's a YOU problem.

 

[Abdalla]

Absolutely

She wouldn’t ask certain amount to someone else. If she sees your potential, she’ll be more than happy to be with you. She will know what’s yours is hers as well. I know girls that asked a miskeen Farah 15k (a sign of I don’t want you, he got the message and stopped pursuing her). Few months later the same girl settled for 3k when a real man asked for her hand in marriage.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Absolutely

She wouldn’t ask certain amount to someone else. If she sees your potential, she’ll be more than happy to be with you. She will know what’s yours is hers as well. I know girls that asked a miskeen Farah 15k (a sign of I don’t want you, he got the message and stopped pursuing her). Few months later the same girl settled for 3k when a real man asked for her hand in marriage.

Maybe some women use it as a tactic to get rid of a man who doesn't understand "NO". But for the most part, meher gets increased or reduced due to several factors. Back in Somalia, it's a source of pride for men and women, what the woman has been given. They understand that a man's wife is a direct reflection of him. A lot of western raised men, are infected with a penny-pinching dhaqan.

 

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Marriage requires compromise. Those who lower the Mehr price today won't abandon me tomorrow. It is the principle that counts.

 

[mohamedismail]

my reewin walaal you’re always talking about mehr why are you stressed?

No, I just like to bring these discussions to somalispot to see the opinion of my fellow Somalis.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Marriage requires compromise. Those who lower the Mehr price today won't abandon me tomorrow. It is the principle that counts.

Women who choose 'love' and 'trust' over tangible assets such as a decent meher, are foolish. Any man in his right mind, would want a wife, who can instil pragmatism in her daughters. Don't be shocked later on if low/little meher wife, teaches your daughters to get with any man with little to no meher, as long as he has the gift of the gab and is cute. And then later, you, in your old-age, have to foot the bill for your daughter and her husband.

I wonder if men think ahead about their progeny and how their decisions affect THEM?

 

[Abba Sadacha]

It is permissible to pay a big maher, but it's not advised, of course.
A man of means, will be able to afford it, but if a woman is marrying a man of humble means, she should know what to ask for. It's all relative. This is why ulema have advised that rich women marry rich men, etc.

 

[Kisame]

Women who choose 'love' and 'trust' over tangible assets such as a decent meher, are foolish. Any man in his right mind, would want a wife, who can instil pragmatism in her daughters. Don't be shocked later on if such a woman, teaches your daughters to get with any man with little to no meher, as long as he has the gift of the gab and is cute.

I wonder if men think ahead about their progeny and how their decisions affect THEM?

I heard you can get a reformed Muslimah that's struggling to get married for a PS5 at local mosque in some areas.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Another major reason why meher is important for women, is that it can serve as a safety cushion in case of a divorce or a disaster. Women need to think ahead and plan for rainy days and not be fooled by raqiis hadal. Especially if you are going to be a mother, think of your future babies. A man who doesn't think about these things, is not worthy of being your husband. You need a man who respects your needs and can assuage your worries.

Even the best husband or the richest husband can drop dead, or you can divorce him. Don't be left holding an empty purse and memories of flowery words.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I heard you can get a reformed Muslimah that's struggling to get married for a PS5 at local mosque in some areas.

The woman you marry, determines the quality of your offspring. Marry cheap now, have a headache later on, when your daughter wants to marry Abu Jailbird with no meher and then you have to raise her babies, adigoo waayeel ah.

Low-standard woman= low-standard children.

 

[Hodan from HR]

Marriage requires compromise. Those who lower the Mehr price today won't abandon me tomorrow. It is the principle that counts.

That's why I said this:

I prefer asking the guy what his budget for mehr is and judge for myself. If he offers something unreasonable, I'm walking away..

 

[Abdalla]

Maybe some women use it as a tactic to get rid of a man who doesn't understand "NO". But for the most part, meher gets increased or reduced due to several factors. Back in Somalia, it's a source of pride for men and women, what the woman has been given. They understand that a man's wife is a direct reflection of him. A lot of western raised men, are infected with a penny-pinching dhaqan.

Just because he’s refusing exorbitant amount of meher doesn’t mean he’s penny-pinching. A lot women don’t even get the promised meher. Even in the case of divorce, the men usually gives her the Talaq on the condition she distances herself from the meher. A major reason of delaying meher is because the men simply can’t afford it. In the UK the average saving per household is 6k, immigrants are even below the average. Be easy on the men, make things easier rather than difficult.

Disclaimer: Fellow men, in the great scheme of things, money shouldn’t be an issue. If you pay 20K and your (ex)wife births you children, that’s 20k well spent. So think great.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Just because he’s refusing exorbitant amount of meher doesn’t mean he’s penny-pinching. A lot women don’t even get the promised meher. Even in the case of divorce, the men usually gives her the Talaq on the condition she distances herself from the meher. A major reason of delaying meher is because the men simply can’t afford it. In the UK the average saving per household is 6k, immigrants are even below the average. Be easy on the men, make things easier rather than difficult.

Disclaimer: Fellow men, in the great scheme of things, money shouldn’t be an issue. If you pay 20K and your (ex)wife births you children, that’s 20k well spent. So think great.

That's why Meher should make financial sense, it has to match a man's earnings.
And it should be paid up-front to avoid these disasters.

 

[Abdalla]

I’ll only pay big meher if I’m 65 years old and want to marry a young 18 year old gazelle. That’s when money should matter, but don’t use money as a means when you’re still young and healthy. InshAllah in 2075 @Hodan from HR granddaughter will make a thread about me and my young bride while she calls me all kind of things

 

[Kisame]

The woman you marry, determines the quality of your offspring. Marry cheap now, have a headache later on, when your daughter wants to marry Abu Jailbird with no meher and then you have to raise her babies, adigoo waayeel ah.

Low-standard woman= low-standard children.

The reformed ones know how to take care of niggas though

As long as you don't ask what she was doing during the ages of 18-25 you should be straight. Don't ask why she got a tattoo on her neck either.

 

[Abdalla]

I prefer asking them what their budget for mehr is and judge for myself. If they offer something unreasonable, I'm walking away.

What’s unreasonable? Let’s say he makes 45k a year, what should his meher budget lookalike?

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I’ll only pay big meher if I’m 65 years old and want to marry a young 18 year old gazelle. That’s when money should matter, but don’t use money as a means when you’re still young and healthy. InshAllah in 2075 @Hodan from HR granddaughter will make a thread about me and my young bride while she calls me all kind of things

Just as I thought, the meher conversation is based around what you deem a woman is worth, not affordability. You think in your youth and health, women are replaceable and a dime a dozen.

I hope you sisters are taking note, this is how they think. Don't make their lives easy, it's not appreciated.

 

[Revolutionarry]

If you need to wait until meher day to find out whether she values you or not, you're just stupid.

Also, don't take marriage advise from losers online.

 

[Kisame]

Just as I thought, the meher conversation is based around what you deem a woman is worth, not affordability. You think in your youth and health, women are replaceable and a dime a dozen.

I hope you sisters are taking note, this is how they think. Don't make their lives easy, it's not appreciated.

I'm not a misogynist like that abdalla fellow that bases a women's worth based on her mehr.

I'm just saying all these hoes are the same with or without an expensive mehr.