The frightening reality of being falsely accused

[Man with a garuun]

Not to victim blame or smtn

But your bro signed his life away the second he decided to go back with a CADAAN woman. Its literally an unspoken rule not to be around these lipless people.

I hope you encourage him to take legal actions IF what he is saying is right, its time for us to fight back against these false accusations

Not all cadaan women! I've been with cadaan women, but my approach has always been different than this one night stands: I got to know the women first, made sure they were mature, and never drunk my whole life. Cadaans are, by and large, good people. But it should be understood that any man who takes advantage of a drunken woman is basically committing a rape. So don't drink and don't get yourself involved with women that you don't know of.

Islamically speaking, no haram relationships. Focus on school, work, and getting married.

 

[convincation]

You only heard 1 of 3 sides to the story and there are questions in his story. I have known people who were accused of heinous things and who swore they did nothing wrong but were found guilty in court (not relating to sexual assault though). Some food for thought.

I 100% believe my friend. My boys friend knew the girl so he spoke to her while he was in cells. Apparently she doesnt remeber anything that happened that night herself but since her stepdad was on the phone he basically filled in the gaps for her report. She told his friend she didn’t even plan on reporting it because she knew it wasn’t SA. As soon as he was released and got back his phone he messaged her apologising if he made her feel uncomfortable. She then SS the chat, sent it to police and accused him of harassing her. She clearly had it out for the guy which is why I fully believe he should get her done for falsely accusing him

 

[Basra]

A friend of mine recently went through something traumatic. We both go to the same uni but we’re at different accoms so I didn’t hear about this up until recently. He opened up to me about it and about how it fucked him up mentally. I haven’t known him long but from what I know he’s a daacad person. For context, hes somali and the girl is cadaan

So one night him and his friends were going to a club. He had forgot his ID so wasn’t allowed in. While he was trying to make a case to the security guards he noticed a girl was also not allowed in. She then approached him and sparked a conversation saying since they’re both not allowed in they should go back to her accom and play drinking games. Being a ciyaal suuq thinking he scored, he left with her.

Another 2 girls and a guy were also not let in so they all left to her accom. Once they got there, the other guy left and the girl who invited them all got 3 bottles of alcohol for them to drink while playing the game. After a while of drinking and playing, the other 2 girls left and it was just him and the girl who invited him. Thinking he could make a move, he put his arm around her and she told him she had a boyfriend. Confused as to why she was flirting with him all day and invited him to her house, he was about to leave when she asked him to stay and held his arm.

So he stayed for a while and they were drinking and dancing to music when all of a sudden he blacked out and fell to the floor. While falling he fell down on her and she fell down too. Bare in mind she’s on the phone to her stepdad while this is all happening. Her stepdad, rightfully concerned told her to get out of the room and leave my friend blacked out on the floor. She left the room and called security on him to take him back to his accom. He was still blacked out by the time he got back to his accom and was so out of it that he didn’t even know security put him in a car and drove him there.

Eventually his roomates had to put him to bed after he was making noise drunk out his head and apparently broke a door and a cupboard. Before he went to sleep he noticed his phone was missing but just slept it off to look for tomorrow

Next morning he woke up and was about to leave to find his phone. Just as he was leaving he noticed a police van and a police car outside his house. 5 officers then came into his accom and asked for him. Then told him to take them to his room which he did. He initially thought it was to search his room for weed (which he did have). When they came into his room they had no interest in the weed and told him he was being arrested for an accusation regarding sexual assault. They then put him in the van and drove him to the station where he was told the girl he was with yesterday has accused him of both physical and sexual assault.

Rightfully scared and confused he tried to remeber as much of that night as possible but couldn’t since he had blacked out. Eventually after being held in cells for 6 hours they made him give a statement which he did and then sent him home as “released under investigation”. He got back to his accom to everyone judging and distancing themselves from him. He tried to tell his story but no one believed him. He eventually came to terms with it and just started being around his close friends and kept it a secret from as much people as possible (obviously including his Somali parents) and stopped drinking for a bit. After a while police got back to him and decided on no further action being taken due to lack of evidence.

Now I’m trying to convince him to pursue consequences on the girl for putting him through that, but he’s too scared and just wants the whole thing to come to an end but that don’t sit right with me. What do you guys think?

I think .........

.........your fuuto is telling a LIE.

 

[World]

That was after they were at the apartment. he was too drunk to do anything

No, the OP said he became too drunk and blacked out after the others left. Don’t stay alone with a drunk white woman who says she has a boyfriend.

 

[Lostbox]

Somali and getting drunk are the worst combo cuz of are very low tolerance

 

[Basra]

Somali and getting drunk are the worst combo cuz of a very low tolerance

 

[convincation]

I think .........View attachment 248120.........your fuuto is telling a LIE.

Nope all this actually happened eedo

 

[Prince of HS]

Somali and getting drunk are the worst combo cuz of are very low tolerance

It’s true. Somalis can’t handle alcohol or drugs

 

[hinters]

This is why I'll never really f*ck with cadaan chicks, they constantly victimize themelves and use tears in order to villify black men.

Also, he shouldn't have been drinking and clubbing in the first place, but I'm glad he stopped and learned his lesson. Also that woman needs to be jailed.

 

[Nak-Muay-Femeu]

Going after her isn't going to repair his reputation. He should just be glad he's not getting kicked out of uni or in any serious legal hot-water. You're doing him a disservice by encouraging him to try and hold this girl accountable, he's only going to dig himself a deeper hole sxb. Let sleeping dogs lie.

You can meet people and go back to theirs, but that's normally after you've been grafting for half the night. You're meant to gauge their interest and see if they're game that night lol. Your rookie mate put himself in a situation he had no prior experience with. I'm not encouraging his behaviour, but this is exactly why you need older bros around you if you're going to be doing saqajaan shit.

Going back home with someone's without things being crystal clear, especially with she-zoomies, is the fastest way to ruin your life wallahi. It's a dangerous game and you have to know the rules of that game if you're going to play it. Or just don't commit zina

 

[Shimbiris]

Prism of race? More like prism of maleness. Actually, I don’t know you. You could very well have a charitable view even if the genders were swapped. Who knows.

Abaayo, macantay! Calm down. He's never even been involved in the gender jihads before. You are in a state of constant dagaal. I don't blame you after dealing so much with provocateurs like Tekniko, kkkkkkkk, but chill.

 

[convincation]

This is why I'll never really f*ck with cadaan chicks, they constantly victimize themelves and use tears in order to villify black men.

Also, he shouldn't have been drinking and clubbing in the first place, but I'm glad he stopped and learned his lesson. Also that woman needs to be jailed.

He’s still clubbing and drinking. He just took a break from it after the incident lol

 

[Angelina]

Abaayo, macantay! Calm down. He's never even been involved in the gender jihads before. You are in a state of constant dagaal. I don't blame you after dealing so much with provocateurs like Tekniko, kkkkkkkk, but chill.

LOOOOOOOOL. You caught me. I was being a bit of a qumayo.

 

[Aurelian]

A friend of mine recently went through something traumatic. We both go to the same uni but we’re at different accoms so I didn’t hear about this up until recently. He opened up to me about it and about how it fucked him up mentally. I haven’t known him long but from what I know he’s a daacad person. For context, hes somali and the girl is cadaan

So one night him and his friends were going to a club. He had forgot his ID so wasn’t allowed in. While he was trying to make a case to the security guards he noticed a girl was also not allowed in. She then approached him and sparked a conversation saying since they’re both not allowed in they should go back to her accom and play drinking games. Being a ciyaal suuq thinking he scored, he left with her.

Another 2 girls and a guy were also not let in so they all left to her accom. Once they got there, the other guy left and the girl who invited them all got 3 bottles of alcohol for them to drink while playing the game. After a while of drinking and playing, the other 2 girls left and it was just him and the girl who invited him. Thinking he could make a move, he put his arm around her and she told him she had a boyfriend. Confused as to why she was flirting with him all day and invited him to her house, he was about to leave when she asked him to stay and held his arm.

So he stayed for a while and they were drinking and dancing to music when all of a sudden he blacked out and fell to the floor. While falling he fell down on her and she fell down too. Bare in mind she’s on the phone to her stepdad while this is all happening. Her stepdad, rightfully concerned told her to get out of the room and leave my friend blacked out on the floor. She left the room and called security on him to take him back to his accom. He was still blacked out by the time he got back to his accom and was so out of it that he didn’t even know security put him in a car and drove him there.

Eventually his roomates had to put him to bed after he was making noise drunk out his head and apparently broke a door and a cupboard. Before he went to sleep he noticed his phone was missing but just slept it off to look for tomorrow

Next morning he woke up and was about to leave to find his phone. Just as he was leaving he noticed a police van and a police car outside his house. 5 officers then came into his accom and asked for him. Then told him to take them to his room which he did. He initially thought it was to search his room for weed (which he did have). When they came into his room they had no interest in the weed and told him he was being arrested for an accusation regarding sexual assault. They then put him in the van and drove him to the station where he was told the girl he was with yesterday has accused him of both physical and sexual assault.

Rightfully scared and confused he tried to remeber as much of that night as possible but couldn’t since he had blacked out. Eventually after being held in cells for 6 hours they made him give a statement which he did and then sent him home as “released under investigation”. He got back to his accom to everyone judging and distancing themselves from him. He tried to tell his story but no one believed him. He eventually came to terms with it and just started being around his close friends and kept it a secret from as much people as possible (obviously including his Somali parents) and stopped drinking for a bit. After a while police got back to him and decided on no further action being taken due to lack of evidence.

Now I’m trying to convince him to pursue consequences on the girl for putting him through that, but he’s too scared and just wants the whole thing to come to an end but that don’t sit right with me. What do you guys think?

I remembered the Danish movie of the a teacher accused of sexual assualt on minors, after his life was ruined, it was found out that this sexual assault never happened. Everyone tried to make up for him, and went for hunting, and then he was targeted by one of the hunters, it anonymous person from his group, it was kept as anonymous to single that, they hate him still even though he was innocent, and he will never know who it was.

 

[hinters]

He’s still clubbing and drinking. He just took a break from it after the incident lol

BRUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

 

[jemappelle]

Not all cadaan women! I've been with cadaan women, but my approach has always been different than this one night stands: I got to know the women first, made sure they were mature, and never drunk my whole life. Cadaans are, by and large, good people. But it should be understood that any man who takes advantage of a drunken woman is basically committing a rape. So don't drink and don't get yourself involved with women that you don't know of.

Islamically speaking, no haram relationships. Focus on school, work, and getting married.

Yh, its white trash he should be weary of, not classy white women

 

[jemappelle]

Going after her isn't going to repair his reputation. He should just be glad he's not getting kicked out of uni or in any serious legal hot-water. You're doing him a disservice by encouraging him to try and hold this girl accountable, he's only going to dig himself a deeper hole sxb. Let sleeping dogs lie.

You can meet people and go back to theirs, but that's normally after you've been grafting for half the night. You're meant to gauge their interest and see if they're game that night lol. Your rookie mate put himself in a situation he had no prior experience with. I'm not encouraging his behaviour, but this is exactly why you need older bros around you if you're going to be doing saqajaan shit.

Going back home with someone's without things being crystal clear, especially with she-zoomies, is the fastest way to ruin your life wallahi. It's a dangerous game and you have to know the rules of that game if you're going to play it. Or just don't commit zina

Your pfp makes all your posts better

 

[Kalsoon]

Why did he also not give up qamro completely? You wrote that he quit for just a short bit afterwards.

The individual who falsely accused him was looking out for herself. It would be wise for him to do the same. He will only make things worse for himself by pursuing a criminal case. The shame (even more than now) that would come to him by publicizing this would be worse than the vindication he would get. He should take note of those who quickly believed accusations without proof and distance himself from them. He really got a good opportunity to see who truly cares for him and who doesn’t.


For some people, it takes them being involved in multiple similar scenarios for them to learn their lessons. He shouldn’t become like that. Does he realize how lucky he is that he didn’t incur more harm from this? It would be in his best interest to make tawbah and fix up his ways.

 

[Man with a garuun]

I 100% believe my friend. My boys friend knew the girl so he spoke to her while he was in cells. Apparently she doesnt remeber anything that happened that night herself but since her stepdad was on the phone he basically filled in the gaps for her report. She told his friend she didn’t even plan on reporting it because she knew it wasn’t SA. As soon as he was released and got back his phone he messaged her apologising if he made her feel uncomfortable. She then SS the chat, sent it to police and accused him of harassing her. She clearly had it out for the guy which is why I fully believe he should get her done for falsely accusing him

He was an idiot. He just came out of jail and still messaged her? That is insane. He should keep his distance from her. Apology can be taken as an admission of guilt.

This is why it is important to consult with a lawyer. In the West, if you ever run into trouble, first consult with a lawyer before you even talk to the people. And even when they question you, make sure you have your lawyer present. If you want to speak with people who accused you of a crime, where it is true or not, first consult with a lawyer.

My take on that guy is he is very immature. He still wants to go after a white woman and accuse her of falsely accusing him? How is he gonna prove that she was falsely accusing him if he slept with her? It is better that he stays quiet if the police is not pursue a rape charge and be thankful to Allah (swt) that he was not charged. In the West, whether it is personal issue or work-related, stay clear from fighting women, especially if the woman is cadaan. All she has to do is cry in the court and dumb jury and redneck judge would believe her. Somali youth should stop being naive. A black and a Muslim man shouldn't pursue a legal fight with a white woman, especially a case that has something to do with rape or sexual assault.

 

[mrsretard]

He’s still clubbing and drinking. He just took a break from it after the incident lol

Lol your friend wants to be in the same situation again, but be actually convicted this time. Tell him to at least drink less so he doesn’t black out.