A friend of mine recently went through something traumatic. We both go to the same uni but we’re at different accoms so I didn’t hear about this up until recently. He opened up to me about it and about how it fucked him up mentally. I haven’t known him long but from what I know he’s a daacad person. For context, hes somali and the girl is cadaan
So one night him and his friends were going to a club. He had forgot his ID so wasn’t allowed in. While he was trying to make a case to the security guards he noticed a girl was also not allowed in. She then approached him and sparked a conversation saying since they’re both not allowed in they should go back to her accom and play drinking games. Being a ciyaal suuq thinking he scored, he left with her.
Another 2 girls and a guy were also not let in so they all left to her accom. Once they got there, the other guy left and the girl who invited them all got 3 bottles of alcohol for them to drink while playing the game. After a while of drinking and playing, the other 2 girls left and it was just him and the girl who invited him. Thinking he could make a move, he put his arm around her and she told him she had a boyfriend. Confused as to why she was flirting with him all day and invited him to her house, he was about to leave when she asked him to stay and held his arm.
So he stayed for a while and they were drinking and dancing to music when all of a sudden he blacked out and fell to the floor. While falling he fell down on her and she fell down too. Bare in mind she’s on the phone to her stepdad while this is all happening. Her stepdad, rightfully concerned told her to get out of the room and leave my friend blacked out on the floor. She left the room and called security on him to take him back to his accom. He was still blacked out by the time he got back to his accom and was so out of it that he didn’t even know security put him in a car and drove him there.
Eventually his roomates had to put him to bed after he was making noise drunk out his head and apparently broke a door and a cupboard. Before he went to sleep he noticed his phone was missing but just slept it off to look for tomorrow
Next morning he woke up and was about to leave to find his phone. Just as he was leaving he noticed a police van and a police car outside his house. 5 officers then came into his accom and asked for him. Then told him to take them to his room which he did. He initially thought it was to search his room for weed (which he did have). When they came into his room they had no interest in the weed and told him he was being arrested for an accusation regarding sexual assault. They then put him in the van and drove him to the station where he was told the girl he was with yesterday has accused him of both physical and sexual assault.
Rightfully scared and confused he tried to remeber as much of that night as possible but couldn’t since he had blacked out. Eventually after being held in cells for 6 hours they made him give a statement which he did and then sent him home as “released under investigation”. He got back to his accom to everyone judging and distancing themselves from him. He tried to tell his story but no one believed him. He eventually came to terms with it and just started being around his close friends and kept it a secret from as much people as possible (obviously including his Somali parents) and stopped drinking for a bit. After a while police got back to him and decided on no further action being taken due to lack of evidence.
Now I’m trying to convince him to pursue consequences on the girl for putting him through that, but he’s too scared and just wants the whole thing to come to an end but that don’t sit right with me. What do you guys think?
So one night him and his friends were going to a club. He had forgot his ID so wasn’t allowed in. While he was trying to make a case to the security guards he noticed a girl was also not allowed in. She then approached him and sparked a conversation saying since they’re both not allowed in they should go back to her accom and play drinking games. Being a ciyaal suuq thinking he scored, he left with her.
Another 2 girls and a guy were also not let in so they all left to her accom. Once they got there, the other guy left and the girl who invited them all got 3 bottles of alcohol for them to drink while playing the game. After a while of drinking and playing, the other 2 girls left and it was just him and the girl who invited him. Thinking he could make a move, he put his arm around her and she told him she had a boyfriend. Confused as to why she was flirting with him all day and invited him to her house, he was about to leave when she asked him to stay and held his arm.
So he stayed for a while and they were drinking and dancing to music when all of a sudden he blacked out and fell to the floor. While falling he fell down on her and she fell down too. Bare in mind she’s on the phone to her stepdad while this is all happening. Her stepdad, rightfully concerned told her to get out of the room and leave my friend blacked out on the floor. She left the room and called security on him to take him back to his accom. He was still blacked out by the time he got back to his accom and was so out of it that he didn’t even know security put him in a car and drove him there.
Eventually his roomates had to put him to bed after he was making noise drunk out his head and apparently broke a door and a cupboard. Before he went to sleep he noticed his phone was missing but just slept it off to look for tomorrow
Next morning he woke up and was about to leave to find his phone. Just as he was leaving he noticed a police van and a police car outside his house. 5 officers then came into his accom and asked for him. Then told him to take them to his room which he did. He initially thought it was to search his room for weed (which he did have). When they came into his room they had no interest in the weed and told him he was being arrested for an accusation regarding sexual assault. They then put him in the van and drove him to the station where he was told the girl he was with yesterday has accused him of both physical and sexual assault.
Rightfully scared and confused he tried to remeber as much of that night as possible but couldn’t since he had blacked out. Eventually after being held in cells for 6 hours they made him give a statement which he did and then sent him home as “released under investigation”. He got back to his accom to everyone judging and distancing themselves from him. He tried to tell his story but no one believed him. He eventually came to terms with it and just started being around his close friends and kept it a secret from as much people as possible (obviously including his Somali parents) and stopped drinking for a bit. After a while police got back to him and decided on no further action being taken due to lack of evidence.
Now I’m trying to convince him to pursue consequences on the girl for putting him through that, but he’s too scared and just wants the whole thing to come to an end but that don’t sit right with me. What do you guys think?
these cadaan women have a history of locking up melanated men with false rape/sexual assaults (I do acknowledge that there are true ones but I'm talking about their false historical accusations) She probably didn't even know he was somali, to her he was just black and she wanted to have fun. But yeah, he needs to put down the bottle. May allah make it easy for him.
