The honest tea talk criticism was fairly correct i understand preferring to have a monogamy relationship than polygamy there's nothing wrong with it. But how the sisters spoke in such hate of polygamy was the issue they never went deep into when polygamy is done the wrong
So, they clearly mentioned that they were talking about when polygamy is practiced wrong, but your issue is that they weren’t clear how exactly? Do not see how you’re nitpicking?
way but in fact the idea of polygamy was spiritual abuse and one sister said something like. " why has something allah allowed brought me so much pain" and Something about females arnt property when talking about polygamy by the african lady.
These women made it clear that polygamy practiced correctly is perfectly halal. They said it time and time again.
They were clearly talking about situations in which men abuse polygamy and it is common. They were clearly talking about polygamy in their respective cultures with one being Somali and yes, polygamy is very much abused in our culture. I think it is a perfect example as to how the words of women are micromanaged to a scary point in which they constantly have to be very concise in case a brother wants to attack them.
Once again they may have good intentions but why do they think everything allah has willed may or may not bring hardship why did they go after scholars and made it seem like what the sheikhs preach are immoral by drawing a line.
polygamy that isn’t practiced properly most definitely brings hardship and polygamy for some women is indeed a test. That is the reason why men who can’t treat women equally and those that can’t afford it are not allowed to practice it.
Even the Prophet s.a.w thought that Ali marrying again will bring hardship for Fatima even though he obviously would have given her and a co-wife their rights. There is an actual Hadith and scholarly commentary which talks about this. I will provide it for you in a bit.
That was the issue u cant attack people with no proof especially a large mass. they were very not specific and spoke on wide range of things which they shouldnt as they used no hadiths or verses to back their point
Hardly any of the men on the dawah scene like Ali Dawah and the men attacking them have in depth knowledge and they talk about a range of issues and also add their own opinions as well, yet hardly anyone attacks them? There is a clear agenda of wanting women to not express themselves if they’re not parroting what the men want.
Those women were talking about the polygamous unions they see in the community. Polygamy isn’t a pillar in Islam. When men attack monogamy in favor of polygamy why is that allowed? Men routinely talk about the issues of Mehr in the community despite Mehr for women being wajib whilst polygamy isn’t. Can I then critique them of hating Mehr?
The kufr claim was crazy tbf
The whole argument was crazy and there is no way anyone can spin it.
-women have a right to talk about polygamy being hard for them provided they acknowledge it is halal.
Men can acknowledge that paying Mehr is hard but women can’t acknowledge how hard polygamy is??! The double standards are insane.