Yami
4th Emir of the Akh Right Movement
Korean female volcels
The Attack Against Marriage
- Thread starter GeeljireGenius
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From what I have seen, the attack is mainly on social media. The solution for that is clear.
Grown people (what you’re calling kids) should take responsibility for their own lives and figure it out themselves just like everyone else. Too much coddling is also what makes people unable to help themselves. Only thing people can do is set examples. No marriage is perfect. It requires effort from both parties.
Hopes of marrying a tall slim halimo in the next couple of years and islam are the only things stopping me from going to Morroco or the DR and bashaling rn
Yaraye
VIP
nah, this quite common. You need to do more research
Yaraye
VIP
I agree with what you're saying. It is uniquely a korean issue now, but due to social media it is starting to spread.
Yaraye
VIP
It better to divorce if the marriage has gone sour. Its healthier for both partners and the childrenFreedom of divorce?
That should never be an option if you pick correctly. It's not about you anymore.
Everywhere you go on social media, you see people hating on marriage, especially young Xalimos. They've been brainwashed into thinking that marriage takes away their freedom, but working under Tom, Harry and Dick is seen as freedom. Sometimes, you just think to yourself how powerful the media is; it can make you perceive black as white.
Women are easier to control. So, if you manipulate them to hate men, families, etc, then of course, it'll effect the rest of society.
Mashallah, if/when I every get married, I hope my wife and I will wear traditional outfits as well.
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@mohamedismail
Studies actually show hypergamy in the West has decreased. More and more women are in 50/50 relationships and there has been an increase in women being breadwinners but women are still doing the bulk of household labour and child rearing. Hence the picture you’re both painting isn’t accurate.
A bit of hypergamy amongst Somalis would force a lot of Somali men to up their game. Right now in our community you can be an unambitious man in a dead end job and you’ll
Find a pretty Xalimo.
@mohamedismail
Studies actually show hypergamy in the West has decreased. More and more women are in 50/50 relationships and there has been an increase in women being breadwinners but women are still doing the bulk of household labour and child rearing. Hence the picture you’re both painting isn’t accurate.
It’s interesting that us Somalis are having conversations about hypergamy when our issues unlike Arabs, cadaans and Asians is the complete opposite. We have issues with women marrying broke men who can’t/don’t fully provide for them or aren’t as educated as them and then divorcing down the line with some of them having a ‘I’m super woman, I don’t need a man attitude’ due to doing most things alone throughout their marriages.
A bit of hypergamy amongst Somalis would force a lot of Somali men to up their game. Right now in our community you can be an unambitious man in a dead end job and you’ll
Find a pretty Xalimo.
techsamatar
I put Books to the Test of Life
In the present day, heading to university often means accumulating three years of debt only to start off with a minimum wage job, essentially beginning from scratch. There are plenty of alternative paths out there, and hitting the university route doesn't automatically make someone educated or intellectual.
Now, when it comes to the financial side of things, what salary range do you think a Somali guy in the UK should aim for before considering marriage, without falling into the "broke man" category in your opinion?
This is where I believe we have failed; we know women are easy to control, so why are we letting foreign men do it instead of taking charge ourselves? Why can't we encourage them to value love, marriage, being a wife, and a mother from a young age, seeing these as valuable pursuits compared to going to university or working?
You're right but their propaganda is powerful. It's convinced a lot of them that being a "boss babe" is better than being a mother and wife. Essentially, generally, they are striving to be what successful men are. But men can get married at 40 (Imam Ahmad Hanbal), and produce healthy offspring, they most likely cannot. We're different for a reason.
There's a financial incentive to keeping men and women apart too. There's more households, (single men and single women), therefore There's two mortgages or rents, instead of one, more fees associated with cars instead of one or 2, and more.
