The problem with you is you’re already thinking of leaving and strikes. Why wouldn’t I respect you, if I respected you in the first place? How can someone have kids with someone who thinks of fleeing at the thought of my having resources and success.I look at the issue purely from a biological/psychological standpoint because human behaviour is easy to predict this way.
It has nothing to do with threats or insecurity because these are all secondary/tertiary issues.
We know the types of relationships that blossom the best is were the male brings more to the table then the female, your programmed to seek such males, this is biological, we can't fight this.
The moment this equilibrium is disturbed in your favour, regardless whether I feel threatened or not, YOUR behaviour will CHANGE towards me on a psychological and emotional level, it happens either fast or gradually over time.
In the end you will EITHER push me OUT or reduce me to a toothless ceremonial figure you no longer admire or respect.
If I happen to be in such a relationship, why wait for the natural biological/psychological process to kick off? and suffer unnecessarily for many months or years to come ?
I would leave without feeling insecure, because I understand that Rizq comes from Allah only, and you can't compete in all areas.
Of course I will not do so immediately and wait for the justifications which will come quick as her attitude begins to change, I will give her a warning which will fall on deaf ears, and it will be 3 strikes and out for me.