We all need some encouragement in this world full of malevolence
You never said I love you to your mother
I felt it was insincere. She was saying it cause she thought thats what I wanted to hear. And was expecting same things from me
I get that......but imagine if I kept bombarding you with compliments. At some point you would say hey ok I get it. Also like most somalis I get uncomfortable with too much niceness. Real men dont operate like that. I give you one compliment a day and thats more than enough
I say I love you to my mother every day. That’s the least I can do
Encouragement breeds complacency. You must challenge, undermine and mentally scar your offspring. Always call into question their capabilities in overt and implicit ways. Dangle the promise of compliments that never materialize from your mouth. From this, the truly superior ones will grow and become great; all in order to turn this treatment back on you. They will live their lives with a drive to subjugate and overpower, just as they should. They will, as a result, be far more successful.
Now I know why Samira is @Knowles favourite member.
Sophisticate
Somalis and in particular mothers do encourage their children. Haven’t you seen a guy who looks dhuxul like Yoweri Museveni and his mum calling him Cali Cadde?
I think he’s exaggerating a little bitPreach!
It's surprising. Not even once?
So, you feel she did not mean it?
I get that. Anything in abundance is often underappreciated except for air. You take it for granted now but when submerged under water you'll need it to survive.
Also, how do real mean operate?
That's great.
It’s how I was raised it doesn’t mean that I don’t love her. I grew up back home in poverty. I used to see kids getting whopped badly by their parents, kids getting bullied/beat up on the streets. You gotta be tough when growing up in that sort of environment. There’s no excuse though for any western farah to not show his love to his family.You never said I love you to your mother
Lol that sounds like an excuse. So how are you going to show any love to your future children?It’s how I was raised it doesn’t mean that I don’t love her. I grew up back home in poverty. I used to see kids getting whopped badly by their parents, kids getting bullied/beat up on the streets. You gotta be tough when growing up in that sort of environment. There’s no excuse though for any western farah to not show his love to his family.
I guess I’ll try to change and become westernized. Most Somali fobs have this issue, it’s not only me.Lol that sounds like an excuse. So how are you going to show any love to your future children?
Hahah where do you live?I guess I’ll try to change and become westernized. Most Somali fobs have this issue, it’s not only me.
California originally from DjiboutiHahah where do you live?
Oh that’s nice. Is there a lot of Somalis in California ?California originally from Djibouti
There’s a sizable Somali community in San Diego. Somali population in other major cities in CA is very small.Oh that’s nice. Is there a lot of Somalis in California ?
Now I know why Samira is @Knowles favourite member.
Sophisticate
Somalis and in particular mothers do encourage their children. Haven’t you seen a guy who looks dhuxul like Yoweri Museveni and his mum calling him Cali Cadde?
I swear, half the members of this forum have severe mommy and daddy issues. How about you lot just grow up, and quit being the emotional wrecks you lot are.
I don’t think that’s fair to say?it isn't in somali culture to show your love to friends/family members. I never told my parents and siblings I love them. western Somalis are OK though.
Reiko, were your uncles raised in Somalia?It is in the culture well the reer magaal ones. My uncles in Somalia always tell me they love me when I speak to them and I tell my cousins in Nairobi I love them when we speak. Or maybe it's just my family. Who knows.
I know very well about waqooye Somali culture because I was born and raised there. Not once have I heard families saying they love each other. When I first moved over here, I found quite surprising seeing my Mexican friends hugging, showing respect and love for their siblings.I don’t think that’s fair to say?
Reiko, were your uncles raised in Somalia?
It has to be a personality thing, because my parents encouraged us and we tell each other we love each other. I think it’s going too far to say it’s antithetical to the culture. I would sooner say it depends on the family.
I know very well about waqooye Somali culture because I was born and raised there. Not once have I heard families saying they love each other. When I first moved over here, I found quite surprising seeing my Mexican friends hugging, showing respect and love for their siblings.