Xaruun
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I agree that women are their worst enemy. Most misogyny comes from women.I haven't watched all of it, i don't have the patience for it. But the 1st minute she has a point. I've noticed that Somali couples are not that affectionate towards each other. Maybe, if they were physically and verbally affectionate towards each other, marriages would last a lot longer.
Edit: I watched little bit more. The bit in which she said, a woman shouldn't change even if she has had 10 children isn't plausible. Physically you'll change obviously, emotionally you'll change and the time you have for your husband will obviously change. That is why marriage is about growing with each other and trying to accommodate each other.
Lastly, her advice with regards to women in polygamous marriages was demeaning. She said that a woman shouldn't be angry even if her man is talking to the 2nd wife on the phone, even if he is bed with her. My question is, where is the respect? Even if your okay with sharing, you're time is your time. How is he physically with you, but mentally and verbally giving your time to the other wife. How is that acceptable?
I've come to the conclusion that as Somali women, we are our own worst enemy. We complain about Somali men not being just in polygamous marriages, yet our older women give advice to younger women to accept subpar behavior. Most of us would be irritated if we were spending time with a friend and they were on the phone the whole time. Imagine, if your husband is in bed with you, but talking to another woman the whole time?