Female's are a reflection of yourself, if the male's in your community are masculine, strong and dominant they will all tow the line and become feminine and submissive, the impact is generational.
If on the other hand the community is mostly composed of the typical liberal dayuuth spineless males we have in abundance in the west, they become the complete opposites as we find them today, and the effects of this is generational too.
It's no wonder why most of our Xaalimo's have become toxic, masculine, loud and crazed home-wrecking machines.
The shift needs to occur on a societal level in order for it to have a lasting effect on the individual level, you can't do this by yourself.
But the Ajanabi male is in a unique position with the Xaalimo, she knows subconsciously he won't take her crap nor would he show her much tolerance, he displays this FRAME to her from the START.
She also knows if she flips out on him as she would do to a regular farax, a heavy beating with divorce awaits her on the other end and her prospect for remarriage with a farax or another ajanabi is very slim, hence she will tow the line and forcefully submit herself despite her hate for it (due to her upbringing by a dayuuth spineless or absent Father)
The daughter that is raised in a house that has a strong present dominant Father figure who runs the household unopposed, will naturally become submissive by nature and crave that same masculine figure in her husband, this has a generational effect.
It becomes a self-fulling prophecy and this is why these ethnic groups have very feminine submissive females that look after themselves unlike ours that are the polar opposites.
When was the last time you met a Xaalimo in the diaspora that grew up in a stable home, with a strong present dominant Father who runs the affairs of the household unopposed???
The only Somali communities that do this are the reer-xamar ones and those that are mixed with Arab Fathers.
Whichever way you look at this, the fundamental problems lies with the masses of males in that community.
This issue is beyond fixing in this generation, even if you happen to be a dominant masculine figure the risks are simply too much (divorce, broken home, loosing access to your children etc)
The only way around this is to either go back home or find the rare Xaalimo's that grew up in the traditional households were the Father was king of that household.
