Somali feminist back at it again

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

It was serious I wanna know what girl in here right mind truly believes that a Somali man is gonna lively happily ever after with her with zero children. That nigga is gone the instant you tell him that.

My guy. Somali men were never in the equation. They were also not mentioned in that women's tiktok. Why are you turning this into a Somali men's problem? She was specifically addressed to the women who don't want children. In what way is this gonna affect you?

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

This thinking is why cadaan people's birthrates in the West are taking a colossal fucking nose-dive. What's more fulfilling and rewarding than children? Mindless consumerism and hedonism?

When you're on your death bed, you're not going to be thinking about how much money you saved by not having children or about that holiday you took to Greece 50yrs ago.

Why do you care if a woman doesn't want a kid? That's not your problem even if she regrets it. Are you gonna raise the child for her when she does? If not then its not your issue and never will be.

 

[AbdiS]

I think she may be giving a great advise. Why on earth would one go through the hell of bearing children if they're unprepared? Bearing children is rafaad, one must be ready to go the hardships staying up all night taking care of infants; changing their diapers, nurse feeding them, etc. It is not easy at all. And it is also incredibly expensive if you're financially destitute. I'd rather you not go through such pains and induce yourself with such distress. Tread cautiously when it comes to such matters.

However, one thing she must recognize is that the chances of her getting married to a Somali man is rather narrow. Many Faraaxs (majority) are not sound with the idea of not bearing children. It's mentally ingrained for some to see women as a source of production of children. This was very much the case back home, as women living traditional lifestyles of bearing many children was encouraged and, at many times, a compulsory for some.

One way you could solve this debacle is to marry a man who only satisfies your sexual desires. If your Muslim, fornicating is prohibited with men who you're not married with.

Good luck on finding him, though. Like I said, most Abdis want to have 10-15 children. And the ones that don't probably have parents that do not find the concept of bearing children acceptable.

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

He's right though, the vast majority of men would not stay with a woman who refuses to bear children.

Good for those men then. No one was suggesting that men HAVE to stay with a woman that doesn't want children.

 

[Jaale]

Cope of a miserable hippo disguised as addvice.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Why do you care if a woman doesn't want a kid? That's not your problem even if she regrets it. Are you gonna raise the child for her when she does? If not then its not your issue and never will be.

Because the rugged individualism shit doesn't work. If did , the avg cadaan wouldn't want to hang themselves in a toilet cubical at work. I care about the well-being of my people's future.

It's not too bad if it's the odd person, but things will be catastrophic if this mindset is widely adopted. Best to nip it in the bud now wallahi.

 

[dr.leorio]

90% of non-Somali men still want children, it's only those cosmopolitan, "wowzers the wife got me a nintendo switch after my vasectomy" soy-guzzling manchildren freaks who don't.

 

[digaagjecel]

Good for those men then. No one was suggesting that men HAVE to stay with a woman that doesn't want children.

Ajanabi men come in all shapes and sizes. They’re is a match for every girl. Laakiin somali men are pretty much the same. If you don’t want to be lonely have children. Other option ajanabi way

 

[Sloane Ranger]

He's right though, the vast majority of men would not stay with a woman who refuses to bear children.

She can find a man who is infertile.

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

Ajanabi men come in all shapes and sizes. They’re is a match for every girl. Laakiin somali men are pretty much the same. If you don’t want to be lonely have children. Other option ajanabi way

Good for Somali men then, but I still don't see how Somali men were even relevant in the first place in this discussion. This was about women who don't want children after all.

 

[Sloane Ranger]

What difference does it makes if a childless Somali woman marries an ajnabi or not if she's not having kids ?

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

Because the rugged individualism shit doesn't work. If did , the avg cadaan wouldn't want to hang themselves in a toilet cubical at work. I care about the well-being of my people's future.

It's not too bad if it's the odd person, but things will be catastrophic if this mindset is widely adopted. Best to nip it in the bud now wallahi.

Being pressed about what other people want to do with their lives ain't it. There will always be women who want children, and women who don't. Same with men. You're overthinking this. It's not a big deal, and it will never be one either.

 

[Caaro]

I agree with everything she said except for the “don’t let your husband pressure you”.

Why tf would you marry a man who wants kids when you’re adamant on not having kids? I can get behind not letting parents and stuff pressure you. But your husband should have a say.

Something like this should have been discussed before marriage. You don’t marry someone and only tell them you’re not interested in having kids when you’re already married.

Find a man who’s ok with not having kids. If you told him you didn’t want kids BEFORE you married and he was ok with it before but now is pressuring you. Then I don’t blame you.

 

[digaagjecel]

Good for Somali men then, but I still don't see how Somali men were even relevant in the first place in this discussion. This was about women who don't want children after all.

The point is not having children comes with consequences, No children=weird/no husband. I brang up somali men because majority of Somali woman are looking to marry them. If your a somali woman who doesn’t want children your most likely looking for a Somali man who wants the same. But that won’t happen.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Being pressed about what other people want to do with their lives ain't it. There will always be women who want children, and women who don't. Same with men. You're overthinking this. It's not a big deal, and it will never be one either.

"Don't worry about it and just mind your own business. This mentality/attitute wouldn't lead to devastating consequences if it becomes the norm"

Declining birth rate in Developed Countries: A radical policy re-think is required - PMC

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

"Don't worry about it and just mind your own business. This mentality/attitute wouldn't lead to devastating consequences if it becomes the norm"

Declining birth rate in Developed Countries: A radical policy re-think is required - PMC

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

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Throwing a tantrum won't change anything little boy.

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

The point is not having children comes with consequences, No children=weird/no husband. I brang up somali men because majority of Somali woman are looking to marry them. If your a somali woman who doesn’t want children your most likely looking for a Somali man who wants the same. But that won’t happen.

I'm sure Somali women who don't want kids are already expecting not a lot of men especially Somali men would to be ok with that, but ok.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Throwing a tantrum won't change anything little boy.

You're right big girl, let's all become genetic dead-ends

 

[Gladiolus]

The Somalis I personally know or heard of who do not want children are Somali men. One married a woman much older than he is and almost in her fifties and the other one never told his wife about not wanting children until after they got married, of course the last couple ended up in divorce cuz the wife wanted children.

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

You're right big girl, let's all become genetic dead-ends
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Go fight and die in a war like a real man instead of being pressed about a woman not wanting kids.