So, I had more suitors when I was struggling with depression and broke.

[CALMONE20###]

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Ameen walaal may Allah grant you a wife who is kind and loving towards you. You are honestly a very kind person and you deserve the best in life.

 

[Bundasliga]

The prophet s.a.w wasn’t a prophet when he married Khadijah. Sorry that was a highly irrelevant point.

@Omar del Sur can surely correct me .

I always thought khadija r.a was one of those people who saw the signs of prophethood in Muhammad, but I could be totally wrong.

For example, when the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to the city of Busra in Syria, he stopped in the shade of a tree, and one of the monks said to Maysarah, “No one ever stops under the shade of this tree but a Prophet.” And Maysarah used to see two angels shading the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when the heat of the sun grew too intense.

Your last point is a good one. Although the idea that men aren’t interested in education and or intelligence is a redpill myth. It goes against general data. Most successful men are married to women who make less than them- that is true, but their wives are still educated and have projects of their own. Also, most professionals are also married to fellow professionals ect.

Thats not even the general stance of red pill itself ,rather of their spreachers who do a very bad job interpreting it.

Anyone that says men don't want an educated or intelligent spouse is spreading nonsense.

Problem only occurs when when the woman is significantly more intelligent & educated than majority of men ,since it means hypergamy is hard to practice .

 

[Reuelle]

When it comes to marriage sister, ethnic parents have always been right. As women we should prioritise it in our early 20s.

Men will say otherwise, but truth of the matter is, they do not care about a woman’s job prospects, or financial status.

A successful Somali man isn’t going to look down on a beautiful woman because of her education or work. Whereas the reverse isn’t true unfortunately.

Wish you the best of luck sister!

 

[j&jenterprises]

Seriously though, a good explanation could be: Most women are generic, anyone who has been on a dating app can attest to this (foodie, loves to travel, bubbly personality, loves deep emotive conversations, cosmetology). Therefore, a girl that has gone through some challenges has more to talk to with a man than a shielded and typical girl. Its kinda similar to when these Kuffar always say that hoes have the best personalities (I am making an analogy not comparing! Please do not say I am comparing).

I’ve saw this first hand. The best marriage prospect sister was a sister who had issues with her MIL and kicked her out. Wallahi she was so feminine and obedient, wore the Niqab, just wanted to be taken care off and do domestic tasks while her man works. Its minor though, my future wife is in Somalia right now emaciated and waiting for my provision & protection. I love me an obedient girl I can step in and fix.

 

[Hodan from HR]

Thank you so much guys for taking the time to share your ideas and thoughts in my thread.

I appreciate all the insightful posts. They have provided me with different perspectives and are indeed, thought-provoking

 

[Kane]

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