Yes.In most households it’s the women that buys what is needed and knows what is running out and knows more about what the kids also needs as well so I see the wisdom In it. Generally speaking, men don’t calculate because it’s usually the mother running the household, whilst the father is working outside. But I agree with you. It’s extreme and allocating money is better
anything other than that I disagree with, even if other cultures did it in the past present or future it is irrelevant to me, a man should be the overall maintainer and manager of the household finances
All these cultures are not the example for me, for starters I believe a man should know everything going on in his childrens lives, he should be up to date with all the problems in the household and also be able to run it if the wife is not there, this is kind of a problem of relying on the women to do everything while the man just works and then comes home and does nothing all day, here more strain is put on the women and women are the sole caretakers of everything, then complain the man isn't helping
So, I believe a man should know what his family is eating every day, how much we are spending on food, all of the food prices, quality of food, go in the store with his wife to see whats going on, know which child likes what food etc.. then the man can decide what amount of money they are using each week for food, and make decisions like that, the wife will always be consulted obviously but the man is charge of finances,
A man should be able to do this with his wifes cleaning products, decorations, vaccuums cushions laundry clothes to buy future gifts to buy for children etc..
I basically see most men nowadays as lazy and forcing women to do all of the work for the family while they do other stuff, he must be able to organise everything in the family, even if he lets his wife decide things, he should ALWAYS know what is going on and why, he should not be a ghost in his own household like alot of men
I believe any good leader, should always know what is going on in his kingdom, he doesn't need to always make decisions as thats impossible, but he should always be well informed, make the important decisions, take on advice, part of that is he has the finances, he knows where the money is going and how, he gives his wife the money she needs for the week and he knows how much money he is giving and what it is being spent on, that way he can budget for the household and make any big decisions according to finances.
Now, this for me is the ideal household, in my own personal opinion, some of the stuff I get from Islam though, examples of this in the sunnah would be
The Prophet ﷺ when he had time dealt with the necessary things in the household and repaired his own stuff, this shows he always knew what was going on in his house and what needed fixing and also took part when neccesary
The Prophet ﷺ would always check on his wives, even when it was one wifes day, he would go to all his wives houses to check if everything was good in the night, as opposed to men today who rely on there wife to lock the doors turn the gas off and everything while they go sleep, a ideal man is the one doing the checking aswell and making sure everyone is ok
The Prophet ﷺs daughter came to him because she wanted a maid, this is clear that the Prophet ﷺ was the leader and when his daughter needed help due to financial trouble he was their, in this way every man should know his families needs and give money to them based on what they need.
The Prophet ﷺ decided which house he lived in, he decided what decorations would be up and what wouldn't, he was the one who told his wife Aaishah RA to give away all their money before he died to charity, he was the one who lived in a certain way and dealt with the problems of the ummah and his own household
Ofc if you want to give your finances to your wife thats your own choice, but I prefer to give it to my wife knowing exactly what is going on and being fully informed, you can only be a leader in your household if you are like that.
Anyway enough of my rant.
