If your a smart masculine male that cares highly about his offspring on top of being somewhat religiously conscious, you would never settle for something that you have absolutely no control over.
You have no control over your children, you can't even discipline them without the threat of them being taken away from you (provided you haven't been divorced already and barred from them)
Even worse your wife the moment you decide to marry her is given a 12 gauge shotgun to beat you with and financially castrate you whenever she desires with no repercussions.
The old days of consequences is gone because the new millennial's are not satisfied by Nikah or the Shariah of Allah, they also want a civil marriage, the same marriage that destroyed much of Europe.
There is absolutely nothing in your hands or control whatsoever if you decide to marry in the diaspora, hence a man that goes along with this knowingly is a pure moron and imbecile of the highest order.
What's even worse is that same moron would then shamelessly spends 10-20k for this privilege violating the sanctity of the religion as well destroying all barakah, truly the lowest of the low of scums you will find.