Professional Sister wondering if somali men are spoiled for choice are secretly gay [smh], since she can't find a compatible match?!

[solo_man]

Speak for yourself sxb. Education and ambition are qualities I value highly.

im speaking for majority you sound like a a simp whats next you accept gay marriage also? is this reer magal?

You are the type to think anything the gaalo do is reer magal

 

[Hargeysa]

im speaking for majority you sound like a a simp whats next you accept gay marriage also? is this reer magal?

You are the type to think anything the gaalo do is reer magal

Lool, ok Mr Pollster. I didn't expect liking educated girls to be controversial tbh.

Anyway, you could do with an educated girl. She could teach you how to use commas, and how to structure sentences.

 

[Man with a garuun]

Lool, ok Mr Pollster. I didn't expect liking educated girls to be controversial, tbh.

Anyway, you could do with an educated girl. She could teach how to use commas, and how to structure sentences.

Speaking of commas, I've added a comma that you were missing in your first sentence.

It is so fun when the grammar police gets policed.

 

[Hargeysa]

Speaking of commas, I've added a comma that you were missing in your first sentence.

It is so fun when the grammar police gets policed.

It was a tongue in cheek comment. He's mad that some guys like educated girls.

But yeah, I need educating too.

 

[Man with a garuun]

It was a tongue in cheek comment. He's mad that some guys like educated girls.

But yeah, I need education too.

I still make one more correction.

 

[Angelina]

Personally for me and all my friends and i say you in the minority of male thinking if a girl is highly educated and earing good i dont see that as a attractive trait its masculine if im actually going to marry her i prefer someone with basic education is young beautiful and can hold a house down and is caring


Girls like a guy who is working got a good job and is masculine thats attractive to them whats attractive to a woman isnt the same as whats attractive to man

Learning isn't masculine and tbh, those that have issues with educated women tend to be uneducated themselves like yourself. Since men like to be in a position in which they're more educated and wealthy then their partner, obviously you're going to have issue with women with any sort of education as you have no educational achievements and have wasted the opportunities your parents gave you. You're a failure in life, any woman that has done well for herself will remind you of your personal failings.

If education is masculine, does it mean being uneducated is feminine? Therefore do you have feminine tendencies then?

 

[Angelina]

Whilst I do agree that the education of a women will have some degree of appeal to educated men, the reason why most educated men will marry educated women is proximity.

If there's a man who is a doctor for example he is much more likely to come across a female doctor than an uneducated women.So he will have to go out of his way to find an uneducated women if he wants to marry one.

Its mostly proximity, however to argue that educated men don't care about education at all is not true whatsoever.

Even when we look at the history of females attending university in the West and female education it was mostly to be intellectually stimulating wives who could be better conversationalists and partners to their husbands. Educated men from certain classed also understand that mothers are the 1st school a child has, therefore if you want your sons to be intelligent, having a wife that understands an array of concepts ect is an asset.
Society in those days was sexist and in the beginning stages of female education in the Victorian era that was literally the sole reason why young middle/upper class women were taught different subjects ect.

Even look at this thread, I assure you, those men that say that men do not care for education at all tend to be uneducated working class men. Men regardless of their background like to have the upper hand so if a man is not educated whatsoever an educated woman, even one with limited education will have more knowledge and that isn't going to be an attractive quality for an uneducated man as such a man will simply be reminded of his ignorance or limited capabilities.

 

[Angelina]

Thats bc of envirement and social factors which allow ppl to acc be compatible, if ur from a similar background u will more likely be compatible as a couple. Men with masters dont go around asking women what degrees they have and are interested in it, its something that just happens as a result of them being in that envirement.

Men who are educated understand that an educated and smart wife will mostly ensure smarter children. Statistics prove this as well. Women that value education usually have higher achieving children. Educated men know this. Again, i'm not saying education matters to men, as much as it matters to women but to suggest they don't care whatsoever is rather erroneous, especially when we look at the origins of female education historically.

The issue is that men want to be the more educated person in the relationship, therefore if a man isn't particularly intelligent or educated, an educated wife will most likely ruin in his eyes the relationship dynamics.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

Men who are educated understand that an educated and smart wife will mostly ensure smarter children. Statistics prove this as well. Women that value education usually have higher achieving children. Educated men know this. Again, i'm not saying education matters to men, as much as it matters to women but to suggest they don't care whatsoever is rather erroneous, especially when we look at the origins of female education historically.

The issue is that men want to be the more educated person in the relationship, therefore if a man isn't particularly intelligent or educated, an educated wife will most likely ruin in his eyes the relationship dynamics.

The problem isn’t the education but the kibir that comes with many so called educated women

 

[Angelina]

The problem isn’t the education but the kibir that comes with many so called educated women

A lot of men are intimidated by educated women if they are not as intelligent or educated. Men are socialized to have the upper hand in relationships example: be the ones that have more money, education, higher status ect. If the wife is more educated, or more wealthy, or of a higher class or qabil, for some men that will cause issues. The issue isn't just education, even a woman seen to be of a higher lineage can incite those feelings of inadequacy in some.

I even saw a tiktok video clip of that Jordan petterson guy all of those trad/redpill men love and he even talks about it as well. He mentions how men are intimidated by highly competent and intelligent women. Therefore, this isn't a 'feminist' point.

 

[Bundasliga]

Men who are educated understand that an educated and smart wife will mostly ensure smarter children. Statistics prove this as well. Women that value education usually have higher achieving children. Educated men know this. Again, i'm not saying education matters to men, as much as it matters to women but to suggest they don't care whatsoever is rather erroneous, especially when we look at the origins of female education historically.

The issue is that men want to be the more educated person in the relationship, therefore if a man isn't particularly intelligent or educated, an educated wife will most likely ruin in his eyes the relationship dynamics.

Agree its basic hypergamy

men don't pursue woman who are significantly more educated than him.

Its opposite for women they don't select men who are less educated than them.

 

[En_Sabah Nur]

A lot of men are intimidated by educated women if they are not as intelligent or educated. Men are socialized to have the upper hand in relationships example: be the ones that have more money, education, higher status ect. If the wife is more educated, or more wealthy, or of a higher class or qabil, for some men that will cause issues.

I even saw a tiktok video clip of that Jordan petterson guy all of those trad/redpill men love and he even talks about it as well.

You’re not wrong we have fragile ego’s.also women don’t respect a man if she feels she’s better than him. Education doesn’t always mean higher income though. You can have someone who works in the trades as a contractor who makes more money than a social science grad. For most relation, it’s usually finances that’s more important to women and looks for men.

 

[Angelina]

Agree its basic hypergamy

men don't pursue woman who are significantly more educated than him.

Its opposite for women they don't select men who are less educated than them.

Yep, we're socialised to believe that husbands need to have the upper hand in terms of wealth, education and in many cases: lineages and qabil.

If the wife has a higher qabil, social status and or education, some men may feel intimidated, whilst many women would feel as though they're marrying someone not on their level.

 

[Bundasliga]

Yep, we're socialised to believe that husbands need to have the upper hand in terms of wealth, education and in many cases: lineages and qabil.

If the wife has a higher qabil, social status and or education, some men may feel intimidated, whilst many women would feel as though they're marrying someone not on their level.

They definitely feel emasculated.

It's crazy if we think about it.
We can push equality however we want & abolish gender roles, but at the end of the day nature is stronger than nurture.

All this incels & femcels are a byproduct of the ideology they pushed .

 

[senor chang]

I go my first offer for married just months after turning 20.

I much as we like to talk about Deen, education, femininity and the other comments from this post. My second oldest sister who won the genetics lottery. Had more marriage of thrown her way in one year compared to all my sister combined.

Even though she be married for a few years. People still ask me of she's single lol

I'm the only male sibling of 5 sisters

Ur 20? U seem older than that

 

[Angelina]

You’re not wrong we have fragile ego’s.also women don’t respect a man if she feels she’s better than him. Education doesn’t always mean higher income though. You can have someone who works in the trades as a contractor who makes more money than a social science grad. For most relation, it’s usually finances that’s more important to women and looks for men.

It really depends. Women care more money as money=security. However, there is a subsection of men and women who highly value intellect and can only really connect with those that are well read and are what they consider rather cerebral and quick. People like that don't have to necessarily be university graduates. One of the smartest people I know didn't even bother with university, instead they started their own business, but they're still well read and book smart.

 

[solo_man]

Learning isn't masculine and tbh, those that have issues with educated women tend to be uneducated themselves like yourself. Since men like to be in a position in which they're more educated and wealthy then their partner, obviously you're going to have issue with women with any sort of education as you have no educational achievements and have wasted the opportunities your parents gave you. You're a failure in life, any woman that has done well for herself will remind you of your personal failings.

If education is masculine, does it mean being uneducated is feminine? Therefore do you have feminine tendencies then?

Few corrections here

You dont need a high phd level education to be successful you can have a basic education and be successful( actually many of them make no money lol) and having a business and have good money i much prefer that then haveing high education and have loads of debt!

The main reason why people go crazy for education anyway is so they can have better income thats a lie that you been told since you was a child itsa anther way for the government to conrtroll you.... be free and create your own opportunities and get in business. Most of my friends who went for higher education are in debt and not making money the ones like me and some others who went into business live a far better life.with freedom.

Going back to the point a successful man who makes a good living( note being successful doesn't imply having a high level of education for me its someone who is financially free) making good money doesn't really care if his wife is career mined and making lots of money because his good anyway what he looks for his a wife who can hold down the house and is feminine


I have a basic education but have 2 different streams of income coming each month i can go holiday when i want no one tells me i can not pray and when to pray or when to go to the toilet i am my own boss alhamulilah this is what i call a successful man.

 

[solo_man]

Speaking of commas, I've added a comma that you were missing in your first sentence.

It is so fun when the grammar police gets policed.

i may not add commas but i dont have a boss telling me what to do lol successful man is someone who makes very good money and is financial free of course before that is fear of allah

Men with money are not looking for the wife to have money lol they dont even care about that because they have the money.

Men with phd level may want a woman with same level of education because they have so much debt they can live good finically so need help lol

Clear difference between a rich man and a man with high level education they not same

 

[Man with a garuun]

The problem isn’t the education but the kibir that comes with many so called educated women

To expand about the "kibir" or being snubby part, many Somali men, irrespective of whether they're "educated" or not, see women who usually brag about their "education" and diss Somali men online to have skeletons in their closet or life-styles that don't meet with what we (Somalis) consider to be marriage-worthy.

Such women, even when they wear the hijab in order to obscure people from knowing their true nature and lifestyles, have engaged in decadent lifestyles; so, when they couldn't find any Somali men who are accepting those "norms" - which are outside of what we consider decent - that is when they become frustrated.

It is this frustration that is turned into a rebellion; and the result is women going online bashing Somali men in general. More like you don't accept us and what we stand for, we're going to assassinate your character and dis you online consistently. It is within this context that we should understand the girl quoted in the OP's original comment. More like you won't accept who we're, you won't catch a break!

 

[Man with a garuun]

i may not add commas but i dont have a boss telling me what to do lol successful man is someone who makes very good money and is financial free of course before that is fear of allah

Men with money are not looking for the wife to have money lol they dont even care about that because they have the money.

Men with phd level may want a woman with same level of education because they have so much debt they can live good finically so need help lol

Clear difference between a rich man and a man with high level education they not same

Even when you get money, you don't brag about it bro! That is my brotherly advice. You say alxamdulillah, pay sadaqa and zakat from it, and be thankful to Allah (swt) who afforded you those resources.

Are you in Murica? If yes, do you have a home healthcare business? I've asked because self-made Somali millionaires that I see are in the home-health care industry.