ReyRey
Brummie born & bred
Now she's his responsibilty.Control what you can. Your sister was your father's responsibility.
Now she's his responsibilty.Control what you can. Your sister was your father's responsibility.
all of you seem totally unbothered by the fact that I mentioned that she was PAYING FOR HER OWN WEDDING. Is that normal? Since when do women pay for their own wedding? All of it.
loool istaqfurullah. I hate potatoesI think u r a potato.
No she’s not. Her wali is now her grandfather or uncle. Doesn’t have to be brother.Now she's his responsibilty.
So my sister is getting married this weekend and I'm officially not invited. She's marrying this Jamaican dude who recently reverted and that she met at work, and I kid you not - but she's paying for her own wedding. Thats what made me so pissed off. She's getting married not only to an ajnabi, she's getting married without a mehr, and is actually paying all her wedding expenses out of her own pocket.
I tried to stop this madness. But my hooyo seems desperate to send her daughter off since she's getting too old, and seems to be more concerned with sending her daughter off to any man thats willing to marry her. My abo passed away three years ago of diabetes, his last words was to look out for my sisters.
I'm conflicted because on the one hand I don't want to make her wedding about me, and my feelings. Its her big day, and truthfully I don't have anything against the Jamaican dude. My only issue is how fast everything has transpired with virtually no checks and balances, how she's financing her own big day all by herself with absolutely no contributions from the guy who's suppose to be paying. Is mehr a Somali-only thing?
Anyways, me and my sister had an argument today about driving her to town to get her fitting done. I had plans with my boys and didn't anything to do with her pre-festivities so I digressed. She went on telling me how I'm not a decent brother and how she doesn't even want me to come to her wedding. I fell silent in total fustration. Did she think proper brotherly conduct meant bending the knee and dancing playfully along with everything she wants to do in life, even if its rational? Why do our women blame us for being to protective over them and when we don't we're also blamed for being enablers of gender based violence against them.
In short, I really miss my Abo. And my sister's wedding is fast approaching. I don't have an outfit either cause I really haven't been planning to go.
It seems like they're not around. So, yes, she is his responsibility now.No she’s not. Her wali is now her grandfather or uncle. Doesn’t have to be brother.
Indeed he should do all of that that.If your father is dead, its you the Jamaican person should ask if he can marry your sister or not. Your mother have no say in this matter. This is what Islam teaches. If you say no the marriage is illegitimate. Man up, you do not even know the guy, he is a recent revert, who was he before then, what does he do for a living? Do you even know his family, do you know his friends, have you checked his criminal record? I hope you see this and fear Allah, because it is him you should please and it is him that will question you.
I'm sorry our beautiful sisters are placed under so much pressure to get married. You're all invaluable no matter when you decide to get married. I pray you find the best spouse and your marriage be the greatest ever written!My mom told me at 13, be married or be dead.
It’s sad situation bro. But the older women get the more desperate they become. I can also see it from your mums side. Atleast he is muslim and it could be much worse. Sometimes we just have to accept the bare minimum for our loved ones and look at the bigger picture. Give her distance and dont let her use you as an excuse if things don’t work out
Why assume?It seems like they're not around. So, yes, she is his responsibility now.
True, but not everyone has that kind of relationship with their sibling or know the deen. when my sister was married she introduced the guy to me and my brother first. we researched him and then sat with him and talked to him.Anyone even if he was a born Muslim, it is the responsibility of this brother to find out who he is. The sister cannot marry without her brothers approval. She is ignorant about the deen and following her own emotions and desires not her intellect and reason.
u know how i know a hadith is NOT valid.
When it purports to say who will enter Janaah, are they God?
If that's the case his a bumWill she buy his suit as well?