You are wise and mature obviously. There is upside to everything and a down side as well. You have heard that argument of beating the clock for females to be ideal. Whilst there is some truth to that, I have seen how it is useless to have kids or marry for the sake of them. Best approach is accept fate and do things when they come your way. If they don't, that is how it is meant to be. With that logical view, I still think there is pleasure in having someone to love and be loved by them. Human nature demands it. Life is short for the most part. It would be nice if everyone experienced all they could at a reasonable time without negative consequences associated with the experience. I can tell you, most we imagine in life are not as cozy and as beautiful as we imagine them to be in the real. They can be as we imagined partially or not at all. If that made sense.
Stay focused on what makes you happy and satisfied. You come across as very reasonable and mature. Very educated. I can not nitpick your reasons for the sake of arguments. I made one observation reading your thoughts, your rules and expectations might be unattainable for those who gained brief period of your attention as suitors. So, let me list somethings common to all females who desire to have a man of their choice in some future time:
A- Education
B- Looks
C- Character
If a guy doesn't have all of the above in him, but some from all or just two in him, what would be your choice supposing you can not get a man who has all three? Additionally, not every man has the personality to have long conversations always. Some are the quiet type but full of wisdom and stories they tell only when convenient or appropriate. Others really are not into talking much unless necessary though they can love and be decent responsible men. Men are not created equal in all things. Just equal as far as humanity goes but different in what they are good at, each one is good at somethings. You may have to settle for something less ultimately when the time comes.
Speak your mind and ignore the children on here reading some old school sheeko sheeko. Also, it is kinda disability to be in early thirties and not master Somali. Hope you made up for the excuse by knowing how to cook Somali food. Otherwise would be a disaster. You can be good looking Somali female, but lacking somali social skills necessary to maintain a Somali family can be a disability.