Ladies, if you work full-time. How much of the house duties will you do?

[Basra]

Basra, I'm not a tomboy. I'm more a nymph that wears a crown of lilies on her head that is carefree and bad with chores. My small and delicate hands were not made for hard labour I would wither. That's why I'm allergic to broke.

Yes u r Miss Independent. Stay that way. Twerk a little.

 

[Sophisticate]

Yes u r Miss Independent. Stay that way. Twerk a little.

 

[__08]

How much of the how duties will you do if married and work full time?

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50% that seems fair. But say I’m home & free I’ll cook and clean. And I prefer a man that would do the same & be thoughtful.

 

[sagegreen]

Wait....what are u saying? Is my vote public? View attachment 222693

Yeah and you're a member since 2018 how did you not notice it

 

[Magan95]

How much of the how duties will you do if married and work full time?

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Here's the equation for me:

If he pays 100% of the bills, Wife will do 80% of the chores. Husband will still do his own laundry but wife will cook and clean the house. He's more than welcome to help around the house as well, an ideal man will provide you a maid or house help if he doesn't want to do much himself. When kids come into the equation he will contribute just as much to help, kids are for both parents to raise.

If he pays 50% of the bills, then it's an even split between the two. 50/50 split between chores and every other thing in the house. Especially childbirth, he will have to pay you your missing salary when you're pregnant and after giving birth. He will also pay 50/50 for all medical bills, childcare expenses, and better take care of the child evenly (staying up as much as you) For a relationship like this, you'll probably need a 20+ page contract that he signs.

If he pays less than 50% then he's a scrub and you need to do better for yourself (excluding extenuating circumstances).

 

[Qahwe]

Is this even a question?

This is not about feminism.

No woman who has a brain would accept such unfair conditions. When she will rest? She will work full time then return home to take care of children and do housework.

She will have rough hands and back pain before she is even 35.

 

[Hodan from HR]

All I hear is extra responsibilities, giving up my freedom and a thankless job. Why any woman will willingly sign up for this esp when the divorce rates are an all-time high is beyond me.


Me? I am opting out of this rat race.
Plan is to focus on my career for the next 25 yrs. Then, marry a 50yrs old widower and play "mummy" to his college-aged children..

 

[Molotoff]

 

[Qeelbax]

Somali men feel embarrassed sharing house duties when they look at how their fathers etc used to live

Feel embarrassed? No they are just lazy. What’s embarrassing is that their fathers sat around and had time with tea and crumpets while his wife was slaving away with them 11 kids

 

[Qeelbax]

What is embarrassing is making a woman pay and then getting her to do most of the cooking and cleaning.

That is worse than a maid. At least a maid gets a salary and doesn't pay rent. That is simply using a woman.

This nigga is tryna make you both the field n*gger and the house n*gger,

as the generations goes on the audacity goes on.

 

[Qeelbax]

I used the maid as an analogy.

But my point is, taking a woman's money to pay rent and then making her do most of the cooking, cleaning, child rearing, child birth, breast feeding is straight exploitation. I'm NOT talking about situations in which they both share duties.

I see why divorce rates are high as the husband is taking and taking.

The thing is this is a lot of somali households in Minnesota. Mother and Father both work, yet mom does all the house and children duties by herself whilst still paying bills.

I do be very nosey around my aunts. I can’t count the number of somali ladies who go through this. They think going back home will stop this, so they are eager to go back.

 

[Juliet]

@Angelina- quite sad how these guys are so used to seeing their moms being treated like overworked dameers, they really haven’t got a clue on how to treat a woman. Like father, like son

 

[Angelina]

Feel embarrassed? No they are just lazy. What’s embarrassing is that their fathers sat around and had time with tea and crumpets while his wife was slaving away with them 11 kids

The thing is this is a lot of household in Minnesota. Mother and Father both work, yet mom does all the house and children duties by herself whilst still paying bills.

This is an issue amongst most Westerners regardless of ethnic backgrounds and then men wonder why divorce rates are high or why women would rather postpone marriages.

 

[Qeelbax]

This is an issue amongst most Westerners regardless of ethnic backgrounds and then men wonder why divorce rates are high or why women would rather postpone marriages.

Well we are muslims…this isn’t common for middle easterners or South asians.
Their moms be pampered while somali hoyos look rough.

 

[Cajiib]

You didn’t give any good options… A man who wants a wife that works full time and does all of the housework is living in fantasy world. The woman who agrees to this is foolish. Or a you know what.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Enough with the autistic gender war bollocks. Whoever brings in less money probably had more free time on their hand and therefore does more of the housework, it's not really a difficult concept.

 

[NordicSomali]

weaponized incompetence is only something somalis would talk about

 

[Saredo]

Whoever brings in less money probably had more free time on their hand and therefore does more of the housework, it's not really a difficult concept to grasp

If only it were this simple. Studies show that mothers even when they earn more, do more.
You can read this :

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/09500170211069780

 

[Lostbox]

Enough with the autistic gender war bollocks. Whoever brings in less money probably had more free time on their hand and therefore does more of the housework, it's not really a difficult concept.

I'm here see people fighting for my entertainment. I don't care about the answers. I would add fire to the fuel but I'm to lazy

 

[Bundasliga]

If only it were this simple. Studies show that mothers even when they earn more, do more.
You can read this :

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/09500170211069780

2nd Feminism got yall F***ed up