@Roorigeg
Definition:
Use the phrase
wine and dine to mean "entertain with good food." If you
wine and dine someone, you usually take him out to dinner at a fancy restaurant.
According to the English definition it simply means to go to a fancy restaurant. Before marrying, did you not take your wife out to a restaurant? Or was it completely arranged? For all we know it could have been with her Mahram present. Before getting married, my husband took my family and I to really nice places.
You on the other hand said you had cadaan women over and they used to cook for you or you them. So tell us, was YOUR family present in the house?
Also, what's worse going to a public restaurant or a house where its just YOU a gaal woman and thirdly the shaytaan?