Xaruun
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She’s not selfless, she just completely lacks self esteem/value.
Is this considered zina?
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Never. Did I not mention he’s abusive? He may kill her. This sin is between her and God. I just wanted to know if it was considered zina or not.
Perhaps. I think she’s just an extremely selfless and naive being. She always assumes the best of any person. That they only have good intentions or thoughts. I’ve tried a few times to point out when someone is clearly treating her unfairly or taking advantage of her, but she just brushes it off.
she should get a divorce
Yes. it is . There is emotional zina and physical zina. If you are asking it, u know the answer
thats beyond messed up
agreed i wish i never read that
Xaruun
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Imagine if he just got a paternity test after the first bastard was born. 33 years man. That’s straight up murder
walahi akhi i regret commenting on this thread
She sounds like she has a weak character and has chosen the wrong partner, nothing we can do about that.
If she’s staying for the kids she should also be showing them the right conduct even if she doesn’t respect herself she’s disrespecting their father by chatting up a guy in front of them and what does that teach the children ?
She should also stop working he’ll be forced to contribute more if he has anything about him. If that doesn’t work get odeeyaasha involved.
She’s not making her case by speaking to a random guy. May Allah rectify her affairs.
same
The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
wallah I'm convinced no matter what you do you can never get a woman happy
oh well what can you do but still love them really
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Desert Flower
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It’s never for the kids. Kids are better off in homes where both parents are happy, even if they’re divorced. She’s doing it for herself.
It’s not zina. The grass is always greener. A man knowingly chatting up a married woman is qashin. They need to leave both of each other alone because nobody is going anywhere (aka she isn’t leaving her man).
I know a girl she couldn't make decisions for herself this 1 guy she was in love with and they where planning to get married than her dad made her marry a guy she never met or spoke to
Now shes not as bubbly and happy as she used to be
And the responsibility is on the dads neck then, he should know his daughter and what she can deal with, but also character is built you need to have a set of principles to live by, at the end of the day the man she married is also human. I’m sure he’s by no means a shaydaan maybe just a difficult character.
Asiya was married to fircun and she’s still one of the four greatest women in the world.
Happiness doesn’t come from a situation or a spouse but rather your connection and strength of connection with Allah.
