If your ex and your first love got divorced and runs back to you?

[Sophisticate]

Never been married.
Never been in love.

I am reluctant to auction off my mental restate which would divest from passion projects.

Like or maybe accustom to would suffice when it comes to specimen but no 4 letter words.

 

[NotMyL]

Masha Allah you have an amazing husband. May Allah preserve your marriage.

Amiin sis, thank you!

 

[Abdalla]

Don't be a back up plan. If two married people divorce, it's a race between them to see who can get remarried first. She wants to use you to get back at her ex husband and father of her children.

As someone who has been through a tough break up, nothing is more delicious and satisfying than an ex doing worse than you. Enjoy the moment and don't be a rescuer.

 

[TekNiKo]

Don't be a back up plan. If two married people divorce, it's a race between them to see who can get remarried first. She wants to use you to get back at her ex husband and father of her children.

As someone who has been through a tough break up, nothing is more delicious and satisfying than an ex doing worse than you. Enjoy the moment and don't be a rescuer.

You have a great point, I have made my decision already and won't be marrying her. I couldn't bring this up anywhere else, thank you Reer SSpot.

 

[Abdalla]

Not sure if there's a study done on this. If not, it should a be a great PhD topic. I have a feeling that people, especially females, contact their exes after a break up. Some do it to catch up, vast majority do it to explore the possibilities of getting back together.

 

[TekNiKo]

Not sure if there's a study done on this. If not, it should a be a great PhD topic. I have a feeling that people, especially females, contact their exes after a break up. Some do it to catch up, vast majority do it to explore the possibilities of getting back together.

They realized they messed up, its too little to late. I used to treat her like a queen, she'll never find a guy like me.

 

[Degmada waaberi]

They realized they messed up, its too little to late. I used to treat her like a queen, she'll never find a guy like me.

Sxb is your ex aware of sspot



Wish her the best InshaAllah just as you have found a good xaas iyada neh ilaahay nin wanagsan ha u sahlo

 

[Sakiin]

Too many pages. Just skimmed the first two pages and my man was getting attacked for bringing up a genuine dilemma he faces smh

@TekNiKo

I would like to ask you several questions

How recently did you get married and how many kids do you have back home in Somalia?

Are you thinking of bringing your family to the West or keeping them in Somalia?

If you're not bringing them to the West then are you planning to go back home? Or are you planning to work in the West and send money back home?

How you answer is key to your situation.

 

[TekNiKo]

Too many pages. Just skimmed the first two pages and my man was getting attacked for bringing up a genuine dilemma he faces smh

@TekNiKo

I would like to ask you several questions

How recently did you get married and how many kids do you have back home in Somalia?
2 years ago, 1 kid
Are you thinking of bringing your family to the West or keeping them in Somalia?
No never, I want my kid to live and die in their homeland not be refugee like me.
If you're not bringing them to the West then are you planning to go back home? Or are you planning to work in the West and send money back home?
Yes i am currently in the works of moving back home permanently, I am saving money right now.
How you answer is key to your situation.

 

[arawelo 2.0]

Sxb qooqa Iska daa and stick with your family

On a serious note though, you married someone and brought a child into this world. Stop thinking about your selfish desires and put your family first.
There’s always a new thread on this site about how our community can become better and this is exactly the root cause of all the problems. It’s easy to give in to those ‘feelings’ you have for your ex but at what cost.

Just take care of your family man and stop with this nonsense

 

[Sakiin]

@TekNiKo

I know you already made your decision...and based on your answers I think you made the right one.

If your plan is to save up and move back home permanently then there is no point in you getting married again in the West.

If you got married again then you would have to use most of your wages in providing for the second wife that lives in the West. Plus if you want to move back home and raise your kids in Somalia then there is a high chance that the second wife who is westernised will object to it.

I would advice you to build up your foundation first. Save up money, move back home and put your focus in building up your first family. Don't rush with second wife until you have your bases covered. When you are very financially stable, have a lot of kids with first wife....then feel free to explore your options.

Btw sxb I know how you feel. There is this chick who I was in a long relationship with and thought I would marry and spend my life with....however I screwed things up with her. If she came to me now and was willing to be a second wife...it would be impossible for me to reject.

 

[TekNiKo]

@TekNiKo

I know you already made your decision...and based on your answers I think you made the right one.

If your plan is to save up and move back home permanently then there is no point in you getting married again in the West.

If you got married again then you would have to use most of your wages in providing for the second wife that lives in the West. Plus if you want to move back home and raise your kids in Somalia then there is a high chance that the second wife who is westernised will object to it.

I would advice you to build up your foundation first. Save up money, move back home and put your focus in building up your first family. Don't rush with second wife until you have your bases covered. When you are very financially stable, have a lot of kids with first wife....then feel free to explore your options.

Btw sxb I know how you feel. There is this chick who I was in a long relationship with and thought I would marry and spend my life with....however I screwed things up with her. If she came to me now and was willing to be a second wife...it would be impossible for me to reject.

Yeah I made the decision, I feel you man! Love is very hard to forget, Xalimos think that us Faaraxs dont fall in love we usually don't but when we do we love hard... i think that is a geeljire trait.

 

[Factz]

@TekNiKo You need to read women. She is manipulating you. Don't be her plan B option. If her relationship was healthy then I guarantee you that she wouldn't care about you. She wants to ruin your marriage because she's jealous of you and is desperate since she hopeless and got nobody else.

If she backstabbed you then move on. Don't let come into your life and bring another upset.

Stay away from that satan.

 

[Hassan Garguute Buldanana]

Accomodate the sister, thier is room for 1-4

 

[halwa]

Get her back. After all, you’re allowed 4. People break up and get back together a million times.

 

[Zahra]

What should I do? I have already moved on and got married and now my ex wants me to marry her after being divorced. She wants me to make her second wife? What should I do?

Dont do it. Exes are exes for a reason. Dont open that door again. It will only cause problems and may possibly ruin your marriage.

 

[Louis Vuitton Don]

These women have a lot of nerve. They've gone out into the world, they've shared their minds and body with another man, and then they've become nostalgic about you when their plans didn't work out. They completely ignore the fact that you've had a life since them, and they assume that just because "they're back" they're supposed to immediately regain some sort of position in your life.

You have to have more respect for yourself than that.

“f*ck that ” is a anthem I need you to get behind bradar.

 

[NotMyL]

These women have a lot of nerve. They've gone out into the world, they've shared their minds and body with another man, and then they've become nostalgic about you when their plans didn't work out. They completely ignore the fact that you've had a life since them, and they assume that just because "they're back" they're supposed to immediately regain some sort of position in your life.

You have to have more respect for yourself than that.

“f*ck that ” is a anthem I need you to get behind bradar.

It sounds like you’re speaking from experience who hurt you? Do go on

 

[Louis Vuitton Don]

It sounds like you’re speaking from experience who hurt you? Do go on View attachment 77834

I’m allergic to dumb hoes. I don’t fall in love with them. And definitely not one that got her back blown out and tries to get back to me.

 

[Sophisticate]

These women have a lot of nerve. They've gone out into the world, they've shared their minds and body with another man, and then they've become nostalgic about you when their plans didn't work out. They completely ignore the fact that you've had a life since them, and they assume that just because "they're back" they're supposed to immediately regain some sort of position in your life.

You have to have more respect for yourself than that.

“f*ck that ” is a anthem I need you to get behind bradar.

It's just your turn to feed it, the kitty never belonged to you.

Sorry but I've been listening to the rantings of MGTOW.

I feel your pain, son. Really I do.

What if the scenario was reversed? Except the girl never was married and remained pure. She might have talked to a brother and things didn't transpire.

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He marries shortly. Fastforward and dude is divorced. Then tries to hit up her line out of the blue. Especially since she's always been fine but her Instagram Live shows a remarkable lady more beautiful and with a higher confidence quotient.

She's really commited to someone else. That has been with her since the jump. From the dark night of the soul to the Apex of the sun at noon.

Someone that wants more for her than anyone can offer. And because of this somebody she would feel shortchanged by talking to this extinguished flame.

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