𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈
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No, that might be more regional.
I wish remarriage with children wasn’t so common in our culture…
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Garaad Awal
Zubeyri, Hanafi Maturidi
This is only common in some regions of Somaliweyn specifically in Somalia. Women remarrying multiple times is basically non-existent in SL
If woman and a man divorced, the children would be raised by the fathers side and the woman would move on. Thats how our culture was, I don’t personally agree with it but it is much better then then whatever bullshit we do these days. Men just abandon their kids, no accountability.
If they are mean towards you then cut them out of your life and the old man who married 20 is legend walhy I want to be like him.I resent Somali parents who get remarried especially the ones who get married multiple times and have children with different partners. I remember I lived with this lady who had 3 kids with 2 fathers and was looking for a third husband
She was a struggling nurse who’s ex wouldn’t financially help at all and she was talking about going to the Middle East to find a husband. I also saw a old man on TIktok who had married 20 WOMEN in his lifetime. Do they not think how messed up the family dynamic might be? Do they not think of how they might neglect some of their children?
I’m the only kid of my mom and dad and everyone else is just a half sibling. It feels divided into teams walahi and Im just a one man bandIt’s really a mindfuck growing up with 4+ siblings with the same mom and dad and also having a huge age gap + war trauma ptsd kids who fucking hate my dad and cuss him out all the time.
They treated me well when I was a kid because they like kids but once I grew older and they saw my fathers face I think that’s when the bitterness and harsh treatment really hit even though they still tried to support me and we’re kind but it was not the same as with each other.
Whenever I would argue with one of my siblings, the rest would band together to defend them as if I were an outsider arguing with their family
They all live with each other peacefully even my mentally ill brother who causes so much harm, but I barely graduated high school from how many times I was kicked out of the house
Anyway I wish I could order a rule in Somalia culture that you CANT remarry with more than 2 kids!!!! and cap at only 2 MARRIAGES!!!!!!!
AbdiFreedom
Staff Member
Many people should be banned from getting married.
What I've noticed in the past couple of weeks is that the line between what gaalos do in terms of dating and having sex with multiple partners and what Muslims do in getting married before sex is getting blurred. Men with multiple divorces but has lots of kids, women multiple divorces a lot kids... day by day these people are making the importance of marriage dwindle as they treat it like a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Getting married just to have a man or getting married just to be able to have sex and not comitting zina, that's all people see marriage as these days. No wonder the divorce rate is stupidly high... treating marriage as a high school relationship then wonder why both men and women are broken regarding the subject of marriage
my cousin in somalia is about to marry a reer badiye chick who got divorced 4!!! times. both in their 20s
back home if the girl you want gets married you just have to wait for your turn
Yaraye
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I like the fact the remarriages is common in our culture, and that our women are still considered desirable after divorce/kids. However having kids in each remarriage is stupid. My mother remarried 4 times and my father twice. Both of them never had kids with the other remarriages for different reasons.
Whenever my mother would tell us that she's getting remarried again, I would hella excited!
New furniture replacing everything, gifts, new stepfather to bother.
Me and my sisters had a blast! 
and when my mother told us, "We got a divorce." My siblings and I would also be excited for the possibility of a new man to drain
Whenever my mother would tell us that she's getting remarried again, I would hella excited!
New furniture replacing everything, gifts, new stepfather to bother.
Me and my sisters had a blast!
and when my mother told us, "We got a divorce." My siblings and I would also be excited for the possibility of a new man to drain
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Yaraye
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Remarriages are fun for the kids as long as the parents know how to do it right
It was watching my mother that I've learned:
1- love is not forever
2- Don't have too many kids
3- Never stay in a that requires too much shaqo relationship.
4- Women never lose value
5- There is always a new man in the horizon
Once shit hit's the fan, you hit the road!
And when you get old, weak and wrinkly, forget men and their shit. Play with your grandkids, go out to brunch, gossip with friends, try new hobbies, and take up garden
you should do this while young too
Remarriage is BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!~~~~~
It was watching my mother that I've learned:
1- love is not forever
2- Don't have too many kids
3- Never stay in a that requires too much shaqo relationship.
4- Women never lose value
5- There is always a new man in the horizon
Once shit hit's the fan, you hit the road!
And when you get old, weak and wrinkly, forget men and their shit. Play with your grandkids, go out to brunch, gossip with friends, try new hobbies, and take up garden
you should do this while young too
Remarriage is BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!~~~~~
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I think it’s your siblings that got the issue for treating you like an outsider and your mom for marrying someone that her kids don’t like and not condoning the actions of your siblings. Because that’s not normal family behavior. Some of my siblings don’t share the same father with me or the same mother but I never noticed it or were closer to others because I was full siblings with them. I can even argue that I’m closer to some of my half siblings more than my full sibling just because of personality differences. To be honest, I don’t even called them half siblings when I talk about them simply because I don’t notice it.
A mother is still a human , she deserves the warmth of a man especially in these cold winter days.
I’m sure all your half siblings at least have one full sibling, the dynamic is different I’m sure. I didn’t even think of them as my half siblings until I noticed they started making the distinction with their actions when I was a teen.
They treat me good and I’m sure they care in their own way just not the same as they do each other, and it’s painfully obvious.
R u the only half sibling to them or do they as well have different father pairings?
Yeah I’m their only half sibling to my moms side all of them have the same dad.
And it’s divided into 4 different moms on my dads side
This would make an adult feel like crap, imagine a teen dealing with this.
I always assumed siblings from the same mother had some unbreakable bond. If my mom gives birth to any child... I can't say the same for my dad.
Three Moons
Give Dhul-Suwayqatayn not an inch of the Sea!
I’m certain my grandfather was responsible for at-least a full percentage of the annual Somali General Fertility Rate in different periods of the last 40 years. Now all of his kids, who are adults, sent him money, from across the world, on a monthly basis. The man is living large. A while back he put my aunt in her feelings because he didn’t remember who she was because she is one of a dozen daughters 🥹
I could never be this way. I have to know my son(s) and daughter(s), see them grow up and positively contribute to their existence on this planet.
I could never be this way. I have to know my son(s) and daughter(s), see them grow up and positively contribute to their existence on this planet.
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