I agreeI agree abayo. Its just that there's a certain narrative where you can't criticize fellow sisters without having people come for your neck. There is toxicity in both genders and it would be wrong if we were to be silent on that.
Advice for men: Get to really know the girl. If that's hard, think about whether you'd want her to be the mother of your children. Your kids will spend a majority of the time with their mom and you need to know if she's responsible, mature, patient and knowledgable. Doqon moms raise doqon kids.