How to avoid marrying a "bad girl"

Nothing but pure facts, same would go for men tbh minus obvious ones like #9

Absolutely, the inappropriate man and woman have very similar traits.
For the man, Instead of spending all their time applying makeup, all they do is workout and preen in front of a mirror. Their hobbies are just "gym" and "Shisha" etc, etc.
 

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jUst keeping it REAL homie
I have noticed this for a very long time. Due to the way boys are conditioned and socialised, they seem to be much less skilled at dealing with their emotions. So when they get their hearts broken, they seem to become bitter and lash out at the entire female gender. I have seen it on this forum with male divorcees who seem to have a nasty habit of insulting and demeaning women. Heartbreak is one of life's lessons, if you process it properly, it will help you become wiser and more patient. Just like all of Allah's tests. Sometimes, it's a test and sometimes, it's your own fault

We all know men who married women, even though their wise loved ones said "Don't marry that one, she has these negative traits". You were stubborn and married a "bad girl". Accept your fault in choosing her. The worst thing you can do is become bitter, you will only get the same outcome, over and over again.



Toxic qumayo/"bad girl" traits to spot and run away from.

1. She doesn't worship Allah
2. She has no true self-love for herself or her heritage.
3. She is self-absorbed/vapid
4. She is materialistic-- she spends all her money on name brands
5. She is consumed with social media and seeking validation/attention from others
6. She doesn't have good female role models
7. Her hobbies consist of watching trashy tv and listening to poisonous music
8. She cannot discuss anything that is not "surface" level
9. She always has long acrylic nails--- ask yourself, when does she take them out to pray?
10. She doesn't value education and self-improvement, whether it's akhirah or dunya.
11. The apple doesn't usually fall far from the tree.. look at her female family members, if they all have toxic traits and she's not "saved", run.
12. Listen to your parents, even the prophet SAW had advisors.
very informative abaayo. 🙏🏾
 

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jUst keeping it REAL homie
What about undercover and ‘reformed’ ****s
I heard This is a very large percentage of xalimos nowadays 😬 sooo many undie th*ots, I just assume a xalimo has history if she’s good looking, dressed provocative and is over 20
I’m so glad my girl was very young when I married her and a Virgin 🙏🏾🙏🏾
 
Men who use women are terrible people who will likely end up with a woman who is their mirror image.

Allah doesn't distinguish between a male sinner and a female sinner and they both have equal consequences.

In a Muslim country, both the male and female would be flogged.
like it or not the community values a female being modest that we cant deny
 
If you commit zina and have 'fun' with girls before marriage, what makes you think you have a right to be with a decent girl?

Chaste girls are for chaste men.

Men that have their fun, also deserve women who also have their fun. You don't deserve better because you're a 'man'.
thats true but thats not how the world works unfortunate for some men get away with it if a woman sleeps around its a bad look compared to a guy we cant deny this so for this reason girls should be careful with who they give it up to
 
thats true but thats not how the world works unfortunate for some men get away with it if a woman sleeps around its a bad look compared to a guy we cant deny this so for this reason girls should be careful with who they give it up to
But in Akhira the sin is valued the same for both men and women. It should be avoided completely regardless if people think your behaviour is okay. :ufdup:
 
But in Akhira the sin is valued the same for both men and women. It should be avoided completely regardless if people think your behaviour is okay. :ufdup:
Exactly in ahkira its same im not denying that

All i am saying is these types of girl dont deserve marriage and thankfully most guys dont fall for it
 
That is taking it too far. Everyone loves travelling and if most of us could, male or female all of us would be travelling every year.
Thats a turn of for majority of guys if they want to marry you sure if you just dating with no intention of guur then no problem
 
Thats a turn of for majority of guys if they want to marry you sure if you just dating with no intention of guur then no problem
Yes, its a turn of for misogynistic men who forget women are human beings with hobbies that they too want to see different parts of the world.

Everyone loves holidays. Why are you lot so sick minded that you assume that a girl on holidays is going to get up to no good.
 
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