I have noticed this for a very long time. Due to the way boys are conditioned and socialised, they seem to be much less skilled at dealing with their emotions. So when they get their hearts broken, they seem to become bitter and lash out at the entire female gender. I have seen it on this forum with male divorcees who seem to have a nasty habit of insulting and demeaning women. Heartbreak is one of life's lessons, if you process it properly, it will help you become wiser and more patient. Just like all of Allah's tests. Sometimes, it's a test and sometimes, it's your own fault
We all know men who married women, even though their wise loved ones said "Don't marry that one, she has these negative traits". You were stubborn and married a "bad girl". Accept your fault in choosing her. The worst thing you can do is become bitter, you will only get the same outcome, over and over again.
Toxic qumayo/"bad girl" traits to spot and run away from.
1. She doesn't worship Allah
2. She has no true self-love for herself or her heritage.
3. She is self-absorbed/vapid
4. She is materialistic-- she spends all her money on name brands
5. She is consumed with social media and seeking validation/attention from others
6. She doesn't have good female role models
7. Her hobbies consist of watching trashy tv and listening to poisonous music
8. She cannot discuss anything that is not "surface" level
9. She always has long acrylic nails--- ask yourself, when does she take them out to pray?
10. She doesn't value education and self-improvement, whether it's akhirah or dunya.
11. The apple doesn't usually fall far from the tree.. look at her female family members, if they all have toxic traits and she's not "saved", run.
12. Listen to your parents, even the prophet SAW had advisors.
We all know men who married women, even though their wise loved ones said "Don't marry that one, she has these negative traits". You were stubborn and married a "bad girl". Accept your fault in choosing her. The worst thing you can do is become bitter, you will only get the same outcome, over and over again.
Toxic qumayo/"bad girl" traits to spot and run away from.
1. She doesn't worship Allah
2. She has no true self-love for herself or her heritage.
3. She is self-absorbed/vapid
4. She is materialistic-- she spends all her money on name brands
5. She is consumed with social media and seeking validation/attention from others
6. She doesn't have good female role models
7. Her hobbies consist of watching trashy tv and listening to poisonous music
8. She cannot discuss anything that is not "surface" level
9. She always has long acrylic nails--- ask yourself, when does she take them out to pray?
10. She doesn't value education and self-improvement, whether it's akhirah or dunya.
11. The apple doesn't usually fall far from the tree.. look at her female family members, if they all have toxic traits and she's not "saved", run.
12. Listen to your parents, even the prophet SAW had advisors.
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