Hijabi refuses to take off hijab in front of trans-woman in women-only bridal shower - is ostracized & called transphobic

She should take this as a wake up call. They were testing her and set her up. She can’t keep her convictions and be friends with these pigs
 
I’m always amazed by hijabis who try to have the best of both world like Hannah Montana. If you’re upon deen why you even in spaces where a transgender is a bridesmaid like you? :mjlol: She should have just taken it off and enjoyed her night
 
She should take this as a wake up call. They were testing her and set her up. She can’t keep her convictions and be friends with these pigs
T-minus 5 years until we see "Hijabis" advocating for the khanis community en mass sxb. Most women hate going against the grain and don't like the way they're perceived being tarnished, or oztracization in general :francis:
 
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T-minus 5 years until we see "Hijabis" advocating for the khanis community en mass sxb. Most women hate going against the grain and don't like the way they're perceived being tarnished, or oztracization in general :francis:
Women are mentally weak and don’t like confrontation. These weirdos know they can bully women
 
I smell 🧢 but if it turns out to be true I wouldn't be shocked.

Last weekend my cadaan neighbours were having a little backyard get-together celebrating the daughter's pregnancy. They invited me over and we were having a good time until I asked a pertinent question " are you even married'.
 
Everyday, the leftist attitudes of the day prove that the Unabomber was right. Ya hate to see it.

I don't blame the sister. She wasn't going to a bridal shower for Tori, so she didn't think this would happen.

But you have to ask yourself a few simple questions:

1. Why did her friends keep bringing up her hair when she was clearly uncomfortable?

2. If they were her friends, why didn't they respect her religious freedoms?

3. Does being trans give you the right to take another person's autonomy because you feel sensitive?

It's clear that she needs to look inward and ask if these people are really her friend.
 
I smell 🧢 but if it turns out to be true I wouldn't be shocked.

Last weekend my cadaan neighbours were having a little backyard get-together celebrating the daughter's pregnancy. They invited me over and we were having a good time until I asked a pertinent question " are you even married'.
Are you socially ill? Why would you ask that question? :dead:
 


AITA for not lying about why I could not remove my headscarf?
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I have not been able to sleep over this, so I made a reddit just for a judgement! Thanks!
I(24F) am a bridesmaid for one of my closest friends, Jackie(24F). Ive been so excited to help! I was in charge of the bridal shower: the games, decorations, menu, I left the guest list to Jackie’s sister
Due to religious reasons, I wear a headscarf. I love and am proud of it. In the groupchat with other bridesmaids, I was talking about how excited I am to attend a girls only event. I recently dyed my hair and wanted to show it off. I even paid extra to ask for a girls only staff that day
Day of, as guests arrive I realize that one of them is Tori(26F). I know Tori as a family friend of Jackies, but the few times I met her, it was before her transition to female. I was aware of it but unaware she was coming to the shower. I dont mind at all ofc and shes a lovely person but I decided to keep my scarf on
As everyone’s eating later, Im passing by the tables to make sure everyone’s good and one of the bridesmaids mentioned that they hadnt gotten to see my hair and theyd wanted to see the change in person. I tried to dismiss it at first or say oh I’ll show you later. But the other girls at the table got curious. I got uncomfortable and I just said “Oh I’m actually not really comfortable taking it off right now” When pressed as to why, I said theres guests I don’t feel comfortable taking it off in front of. There was a collective “ohhh” and I thought cool thats over. But one girl got aggressive and asked if Im referring to Tori. Shes loud and other tables turn to look. I dont answer. the girl asks if I wear one around men, so I say yes. She says theres no men here so “clearly you should take it off”. I tell her again that Im keeping it on
Another bridesmaid defends me and tell the girl to chill out. Tori comes over and says me not taking it off is a slap in the face to her identity. Im just shocked and had no clue what to do
Eventually Tori and a few girls left saying they felt it was disrespectful. I feel awful that this ruined a beautiful day for my friend. Its causing more trouble with people threatening to leave the wedding over discrimination towards me or towards Tori
I dont think I was in the wrong. Just as Tori can be Tori, I can be me. I feel like it would be the equivalent of me making Tori or someone else adjust for me. I feel like we should just accept and respect each other, rather than be woke onesided
My question is more about being honest as to why I couldnt. Jackie is on my side, but Jackie’s sister is giving her hell for it. Saying she purposely left out that detail in the guest list to test me. Jackie says I shouldve brushed it off and said i was having a bad hair day or avoided giving an answer
I didnt ever mention Toris name in my answer, and I dont think my answer was rude, but seeing how much stress its causing Im thinking I should have made up a lie? AITA for how I handled the situation?
INFO: A lot of people are having an issue with the *woke onesided” comment. When i said no, Tori and a few others pushed it and Tori gave the ultimatum that I have to take it off as a sign of respect or they would leave. I said no. They ridiculed me, my faith, and even the bride and others for defending me. They were blatantly hateful towards my religion, and Jackie’s sister purposely arranged for this to happen.
For the religious standpoint, I am not aware of where she is in transitioning or what her sexual preferences are. I would never ask either, as that is personal. But that is information I would like before making a decision on how comfortable i feel with exposing my hair.

People are calling her transphobic and bigot in the comments.

Lmao good, that's what happens when you befriend gaalo, especially the super ones. It's funny how she calls him her yet wont treat him as such, cant pander to gaalo half way, either admit he is a man or join the kuffar and take of your hijab coz it's a woman according to their logic.
 

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But on a real, it looked some of the people at the party were waiting for this showdown and set this lady up for it. I am going to be generous and say most of the people there probably did not sh*t on the hijabi for her conundrum.

Tbh it is not transphobic for a hijabi to not be comfortable taking her hijab off in front of someone she up until very recently knew as a man.

That's not transphobia, its common sense.

:hayewaryah:
 
T-minus 5 years until we see "Hijabis" advocating for the khanis community en mass sxb. Most women hate going against the grain and don't like the way they're perceived being tarnished, or oztracization in general :francis:

5 years? Bruh, it's already happening. Just go on tiktok, I got blocked by a Somali hijab coz I dared to speak against gays.
 
Lmao good, that's what happens when you befriend gaalo, especially the super ****** ones. It's funny how she calls him her yet wont treat him as such, cant pander to gaalo half way, either admit he is a man or join the kuffar and take of your hijab coz it's a woman according to their logic.
Lets be real people call them by their pronouns just to be polite but no one actually believes they are that gender
 

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