Haram vs halal relationship

[Jake from State Farm]

Arent u in Minnesota toO??? R u from Amarillo Texas original? Did u go to some Pao something called high school?

Basra take your medication again. Your tripping again.

Have you actually been to a renaissance fair?

 

[Basra]

Basra take your medication again. Your tripping again.

Have you actually been to a renaissance fair?

LOL why r u lying??? u r from Amarillo Texas right??

 

[Jake from State Farm]

I mean if I met someone in person and there was an attraction and he spoke to me via messages and we got to find out what the other expects of their spouse and we were perfect match. I’d tell him if you’re serious about this please make this halal and speak to my father so we can continue this with their blessings and Allahs

So with the way the guy portrays himself to you through the message at the time and based on his looks that gives you enough to determine you want to marry him?

 

[Jake from State Farm]

LOL why r u lying??? u r from Amarillo Texas right??

Uuf I’m not. That place is so hideous. Uuf. Don’t disrespect me.

 

[Basra]

Uuf I’m not. That place is so hideous. Uuf. Don’t disrespect me.

BUSTED LOOOOOOOOOOL

 

[Jake from State Farm]

BUSTED LOOOOOOOOOOL

Do you in the twin cities

 

[Basra]

Jerome


I even know your site usenames

 

[Aderfi]

So with the way the guy portrays himself to you through the message at the time and based on his looks that gives you enough to determine you want to marry him?

Expect everyone to be superficial even a tad bit
Ofc your potential spouse will be on their best behaviour. And I believe that even after dating them you’ll just see that

 

[Buraanbur911]

So with the way the guy portrays himself to you through the message at the time and based on his looks that gives you enough to determine you want to marry him?

No way. I want to see how he acts with his friends, siblings and parents and ofc with strangers

 

[Jake from State Farm]

No way. I want to see how he acts with his friends, siblings and parents and ofc with strangers

So what’s the borderline on what makes it halal and haram.

You want to get to know how he interacts with others. How will you find that out?

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Expect everyone to be superficial even a tad bit
Ofc your potential spouse will be on their best behaviour. And I believe that even after dating them you’ll just see that

When you date a person you can see there flaws and decide if you want to stay or break up with them

If you realize you really just hate the person and they were the opposite of what you thought than you would have to go through the divorce process or be stuck with them.

 

[Basra]

 

[Buraanbur911]

So what’s the borderline on what makes it halal and haram.

You want to get to know how he interacts with others. How will you find that out?

Hang out with him with the approval of my abo and accompanied by either my siblings his siblings or a cousin so we’re not alone of course

 

[Wardheere]

Uuf I’m not. That place is so hideous. Uuf. Don’t disrespect me.

They have some cars burried half way beside the freeway.

 

[ColloquiallyFluent]

They were stinking people yes, but they tried their best. They made pretty dresses and cloths, magnificent castles, great class order traditions, and thy were genius in writing the English languages.


as opposed to blacks who were tree hopping monkeys

Ouch. Although there are barely any trees in somalia.

 

[esmailxxx]

I support dating,its a good way to get to know each other before you decide to marry,and if your intentions is marring then no sex,never have sex with a girl you are planning to marry it taints your marriage,
I am currently dating someone i am planning to marry,waiting for her to finish her school,its very hard if you both like each other but i wont go too far
But dating i support and if tou get a girl who dnt want to wait and you are both ready its great

 

[CangeeroBear]

I haven’t checked twitter that much today so after work I hopped on and saw people tweeting about this chick who ended up getting married to a serial cheater. People saying it’s haram but others are saying the relationship she had prior to the marriage was known to her parents. Overall after seeing the debates it seems like the chick married the guy in a halal way but still ended up with a serial cheater.
I still can’t find the main thread seems like she deleted it. Anyone here see the thread.

That thread just created disputes between people defending haram relationships and halal relationships.


Imma say this 100% being completely honest. Even though I’m abstaining I still feel iffy on approaching a chicks father first before I talk to her.

I’m imagining like this.
Me: bro nigga your daughter looking like a 10 piece honey bbq wing combo with a large vanila milk shake on a Saturday afternoon god damn. May I please marry your daughter

Her dad: no

Me:

Bro when you go on dates you got to bring a wali there with you the entire time. You can’t even fully be yourself. Whole time the nigga gonna be judging you.

This how I imagine it
Me: ay so future dropped some of that new heat my nigga you listen to beastmode 2 that..

Wali:

Me: ....that stuff was terrible I overheard someone listening to that haram stuff at the grocery store while I was getting grocieries so I can uh..... cook for the homeless.

Wali:

*married two weeks later



Before I planned on abstaining and taking my religion seriously I always assumed I would go the haram relationship route to find my spouse.

Haram seems like you can honestly get to know the person over a period of time. Whereas halal relationships most people only know about their significant other only for about a couple of months. I know dudes that even tell me their parents barely interact with each other. They just stayed together because of kids. If a relationship starts out haram you can make it halal by just getting married

Most of the criticm people say about haram relationships is STDs. Everything can happen in a halal relationship. You can still marry a cheater, an abuser, a alcoholic, a dude that’s gonna have a secret wife, and etc.



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how y’all plan on tackling this issue. Are y’all going the halal or haram route. If your going the halal route than how are you going to make sure it stays halal.

If you are going haram route are you going to have sex or be like others who “date” but don’t have “sex”.

Dont trust anyone! If she has a body count of more than one dont marry her.Ask around , if she has a high body count she is comparing you to her exes and thus you must constantly prove yourself in all matters of ways.

This is why virginity in women is prized , virgin women arent constantly shit testing you over the smallest thing.They respect you and you are her "best".

 

[Basra]

I support dating,its a good way to get to know each other before you decide to marry,and if your intentions is marring then no sex,never have sex with a girl you are planning to marry it taints your marriage,
I am currently dating someone i am planning to marry,waiting for her to finish her school,its very hard if you both like each other but i wont go too far
But dating i support and if tou get a girl who dnt want to wait and you are both ready its great

 

[esmailxxx]

This is how i see you in my mind too @Jerome in the house by the way i love martin too

 

[MariaMaria]

I know myself and trust myself , so I guess it's the "haram" route for me but I really don't consider going to dinner and hanging out in public with a guy I am interested in haram. If I make it clear that out interactions are staying halal until marriage and if he still tries it then byeee.
Obviously meeting in certain settings and times is off limitless still