Growing up without a father

[Cognitivedissonance]

If you want to talk to someone about your hardship then who's better then Allah?

This agony aunt thingy thing is not for us, Muslims, everyone is tested that's the whole purpose in life, I say embrace it.

 

[Bielsa]

I kinda see where @RoobleAlWaliid is coming from tbf.

 

[Southerner]

Not everyone deals with suffering the same, some talk and others listen. Plus others suffering is not going
to make my problems go away

The kid is venting under a nickname -wheres the harm in that.

 

[madamelioness]

@Mercury, you have a positive mindset and you turned out great despite your father's failures. He is still your waalid and as such xaq ayu kugu leeyahay. Marka xaqiisa dhowr for the sake of Allah.

Keep no grudges, harbour no ill feelings. There will come a day your father will need you and how you handle that situation will mark the beginning of a new relationship between you both.

 

[Jubba_Man]

OP, if this is the most of your problems then you have it better than most of the world. You have a lot to be grateful for. Calacaalka naga jooji. This is what women do: pour their hearts out and expect sympathy. It is not befitting of a grown man at all. Otherwise, invest in a diary my friend.

 

[Mercury]

It is calaacaling pure & simple. Allah tests those he loves best.

Isnt that what people do talk about problems instead of keeping it all in and put on a act for others?

Hell if more somali guys had balls and talk about whats bothering them instead of being scared of what others will think.

If more could learn to overcome this problem there would be a lot more saved marriages.

 

[syntax]

Isnt that what people do talk about problems instead of keeping it all in and put on a act for others?

Hell if more somali guys had balls and talk about whats bothering them instead of being scared of what others will think.

If more could learn to overcome this problem there would be a lot more saved marriages.

Sxb to be honest you weren't even calacaaling. I read your post like 3 times and to me it just seems like you were sharing a experience. Which is fine, given that this is a Somali forum and we're all here to share and contribute. Others who come from stable families can understand through your post what it's like to be fatherless. I feel like some of these niggas just seen a wall of text and were like lulz pls stop calacaalin. Thanks for taking the time and sharing your experience bro. Hopefully others here can be grateful for having two parents.

 

[Zuleikha]

@Mercury please post your story on Somalisideways.

Unless he post it as anonymous I think he shouldn't do it. It would really cause him family conflict if he post this on social media. Qof ku hadduu ku xumeeyo wanaag baa lagula dhaqmaa.

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

Isnt that what people do talk about problems instead of keeping it all in and put on a act for others?

Hell if more somali guys had balls and talk about whats bothering them instead of being scared of what others will think.

If more could learn to overcome this problem there would be a lot more saved marriages.

There's no one better to confide in then Allah, we're all here just playing the cards we're dealt, it is what it is.

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

I honestly thought you was a chick had I known earlier my responses would of been harsher.

 

[Mercury]

@Mercury, you have a positive mindset and you turned out great despite your father's failures. He is still your waalid and as such xaq ayu kugu leeyahay. Marka xaqiisa dhowr for the sake of Allah.

Keep no grudges, harbour no ill feelings. There will come a day your father will need you and how you handle that situation will mark the beginning of a new relationship between you both.

NaNah i dont have any grudges would just be a waste of time i rather be Nice to everyone cause it could be all gone tomorrow

 

[SomaliSteel]

I agree that it is definitely damaging growing up without out a father, i am lucky mine was always in my life. I remember how i felt when he went on business trips and i missed him greatly.

There is no issue in talking about it, this is a general discussion forum. If you have something to add then post if not just ignore the thread.

 

[Southerner]

@Mercury please post your story on Somalisideways.

http://www.elmimag.com/2015/01/a-day-to-remember-one-story-of-hope.html This site came up, Somali
side ways

The chicks on there . I think I got a story to share too

 

[Jubba_Man]

I honestly thought you was a chick had I known earlier my responses would of been harsher.

I thought he was the typical calacaaling xalimo for the longest time until a few threads ago. That should say something.

But, let's be honest here sxb: You are the last person to be calling someone out on this.

 

[Mercury]

I honestly thought you was a chick had I known earlier my responses would of been harsher.

And i thought u were a chick lol

 

[InaFreja]

http://www.elmimag.com/2015/01/a-day-to-remember-one-story-of-hope.html This site came up, Somali
side ways

The chicks on there . I think I got a story to share too

Xabada qabta the black and white striped jumper

 

[SOMACOON]

They say growing up with a single mother makes you more sensitive toward women.
Look on the bright side. Now you know what it means to be a man. You'd respect your wive, and will teach your daughters about self-respect.

 

[menace]

That was unnecessary menace. It doesn't matter what the mother was, a father should be in his kids lives no matter what. If you're man enough to lay down with the woman then be a man and take care of your offsprings.

Gar ilaahay bey taqaan! All I've done was raise a proper possible defense of another Muslim person who is not here to say his side of the story ...we can't be seef la bood...how do we know that the father wanted so badly to be in his kids life and eedo threatened to arrest him..man had other kids and major problems ...he had 2 families to feed..he wasn't Donald trump..he probably went crazy but kids couldn't tell that

 

[syntax]

They say growing up with a single mother makes you more sensitive toward women.
Look on the bright side. Now you know what it means to be a man. You'd respect your wive, and will teach your daughters about self-respect.

lmao thats not true bro. Most niggas in the hood are raised by single moms, and those niggas are nowhere close to being sensitive to women. Even myself I aint sensitive to no women, especially hoes i treat them like shit. A lot of hoes out there man...hala is ilaaliyo. Don't let them catch you sleeping with your feelings and shit bruhs

 

[SOMACOON]

lmao thats not true bro. Most niggas in the hood are raised by single moms, and those niggas are nowhere close to being sensitive to women. Even myself I aint sensitive to no women, especially hoes i treat them like shit. A lot of hoes out there man...hala is ilaaliyo

Well them niggahs in the hood grow up seeing different niggahs bang they mothers while they call'em, "es" and, "milfs"
Were talking about dignified men who understand the struggles of their mothers. Men who understand what it means to be fatherless.
You're addressing the madow lifestyle, I've met madows who called their mothers the B word. Its all about the community sxb