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Fiancé Asks Reddit If She Should Reveal How Much Money She Makes to Her Future Husband

Yet another Somali with a transactional relationship mindset.
Some of you lot don’t even make sense. She has 7 figures, doesn’t need the husband financially and is even going 50/50 with him. This man has nothing to offer her financially. She’s clearly in it for love but simply wants to protect herself due to the advise of her uncle.
 

Nin123

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Young troll, there is a reason why I hardly reply to you. Don’t bother @ing me. I’m convinced you’re a bored 14 yr old and I’m not going back and forth with a kid.
Don’t deflect my question naya I asked you why you always negative? You Always trying accusing other of being in the wrong by creating fake scenarios 😂
 

AbrahamFreedom

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Some of you lot don’t even make sense. She has 7 figures, doesn’t need the husband financially and is even going 50/50 with him. This man has nothing to offer her financially. She’s clearly in it for love but simply wants to protect herself due to the advise of her uncle.

She has little to no feelings for him. If she did, she would have told him 6-9 months ago. It's likely she wants to marry him due to family pressure to settle down or because everyone else is settling down and she should too. She may have baby fever, who knows. But to say she's in love is laughable. Hiding assets from your spouse is not considered normal behaviour.
 
Some of you lot don’t even make sense. She has 7 figures, doesn’t need the husband financially and is even going 50/50 with him. This man has nothing to offer her financially. She’s clearly in it for love but simply wants to protect herself due to the advise of her uncle.
You dont hide potential generational wealth from someone you love and gonna share life with

If it was decent or small inheritance than makes more sense
 

Gacmeey

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As long as she is a good hous wife and cooks and cleans and takes care of the children, I wouldn’t want a cent of that money. I’d still like to know tho
 
She has little to no feelings for him. If she did, she would have told him 6-9 months ago. It's likely she married him due to family pressure to settle down or because everyone else is settling down and she should too. She may have baby fever, who knows. But to say she's in love is laughable. Hiding assets from your spouse is not considered normal behaviour.
Not true. The fact that she is torn shows she has a lot of feelings for him. Also, we both know you wouldn’t say a man that wants a prenup doesn’t have feelings for his wife. Using the ‘love’ argument is a bit childish and sort sited. Firstly they’re not even married and as Muslims, why would we be head over heels in love before marriage? Why should love get in the way of protecting one’s self?
 

AbrahamFreedom

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Not true. The fact that she is torn shows she has a lot of feelings for him. Also, we both know you wouldn’t say a man that wants a prenup doesn’t have feelings for his wife.

You don't hide wealth from someone you love.

She only cares about herself. She only cares about how this will look on her and the consequences she may have to face. She's self serving, self interest driven, narcissist, and is paranoid. His marriage with her will have major problems. Put the inheritance story aside. It shows her personality. If you're not willing to share this vulnerable information, you won't share future ones. That's not love.

Prenups are different. Information is not hidden in a prenup.
 
You don't hide wealth from someone you love.

She only cares about herself. She only cares about how this will look on her and the consequences she may have to face.
She’s not married to him yet so clearly the love isn’t going to be deep. I don’t know why you keep on talking about love when they’re not even hitched yet. Any decision she makes shouldn’t soley be based on love. It should be a logical one based on her self-protection, that of her future marriage ect which is why I’d argue that hiding the house would be stupid. You’re also talking from a place of extreme as well. One can genuinely like someone and still have a sense of fear with regards to their assets which is why I brought up pre-nups.

She's self serving, self interest driven, narcissist, and is paranoid.
I don’t understand as to how that shows she’s self-serving or a narcissist. You’re just throwing words around now lol.
His marriage with her will have major problems. Put the inheritance story aside. It shows her personality. If you're not willing to share this vulnerable information, you won't share future ones.

Prenups are different. Wealth is known.
Wealth is known, but it’s still on the premise that you don’t fully trust your partner and it stems from the idea that your partner could take you to the cleaners. The intentions are exactly the same. One can argue if you’re not willing to fully trust why marry? We can easily throw words around when it comes to prenups.

Personally, I think she should be honest. She’d get a better idea of how he’d really behave and it would be a good indication of his character.
 
@AbdiFreedom

Look at this story of a Somali couple:

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This is a common phenomenon.

This is the reply:

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Lol, you’re a perfect case study as to why women shouldn’t reveal.
If we go by the fake Reddit post she said 7 figures. So if we say she got 2m then at 5% she is making 100k a year just off the compounding returns without touching the initial capital. That means last 5 years since inheriting she would've made an additional 500k. In this scenario they can retire. Neither needs to keep working.

That's how I know it's fake. Most people would stop working if they got a large windfall like that.
 
Imagine you slaving away 10+hours a day & provide fully for your family just to find out your wife was a millionaire the whole time
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AdoonkaAlle

Ragna qowl baa xira, dumarna meher baa xira.
You can never have a long-standing healthy marriage with that kind of mindset. It's her money, but once the man finds out in several years, he will re-evaluate his opinion of her with a distrustful perspective, and later, things will potentially spiral from there. She will demand trust while hiding one hand. It speaks of greed, and she does not fully trust his character.

I do believe that this is what it boils down to, the potential that he may be untrustworthy in the possible future being the deciding criteria of not disclosing her finances. Having one foot in and one foot out mentality isn't going to end well at all.

What makes it more problematic is that the guy was upfront and even disclosed his savings etc and explicitly stated that being transparent was important to him. He trusted and was open with her but she's still hesitant

If she had a good grasp of his personality then she would’ve reciprocated his actions of being transparent. Sxbka is going to think that she thought nothing of him other than being untrustworthy when it relates to her assets etc


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@AbdiFreedom

Look at this story of a Somali couple:

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This is a common phenomenon.

This is the reply:

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Haha when you marry an emotional man this is what happens, angelina you can't keep giving examples of when sisters marry bad men because the problem here is that the sister chose a man who is a freeloader and wants an easy life.
if a sister is getting married she has to get married to someone she trusts and knows will be a man, this sister clearly married a man doesn't value being a sole provider
 
Haha when you marry an emotional man this is what happens, angelina you can't keep giving examples of when sisters marry bad men because the problem here is that the sister chose a man who is a freeloader and wants an easy life.
if a sister is getting married she has to get married to someone she trusts and knows will be a man, this sister clearly married a man doesn't value being a sole provider
She didn’t know this prior to her getting 6 figures back from her investment. He was a normal husband. My point is, even after years of marrying, you’ll never know. The man wasn’t a bad man before this at all so that’s a cop out argument.
 
Muslim men are not entitled to their womens money so why would she need to tell him? He would still get nothing and that passive income is for her family and kids NOT him.

He’s already shameless for making her work after marriage and not be a housewife. How do men these days want to be called a leader when your chasing after a woman’s money?

Also she should add a prenup just in case, cause if they divorce and the property is split he’s going to use the income on another woman and new family.
 
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