Epidemic of single Somali women

[Odious Delirium]

Mismatch of what men and women want.

Guys want a traditional wife that does most of the cooking and cleaning. But the biggest elephant in the room, is that many can’t afford that lifestyle. The average UK professional earns 45k and that’s after a number of years of experiences and it’s around 40k after tax. The cost of living is also rising. So logically speaking, how can these guys achieve that, without their wives at least chipping in a bit, and them helping their wives?

Women on the other hand want more of an equalitarian marriage in which the husband helps out with the house and kids. Those women also work and have been raised to be educated and take their jobs seriously. Many men see this as being inspired by feminism, yet those men don’t have issues with their wives paying for themselves, kids ect as it saves them money.

I really do think the Somali and Muslim community are living in LaLa land, especially the men. Call be bias, but if you’re well aware of the economic situation, you’d know that’s probably the biggest issue. But most of these kids, especially the little boys and girls who have a lot to say have never paid house rent in their lives and have no clue how much rent is in their city. Rent in big cities takes up like 70% of peoples pay check!

The British Economy is the problem in your example. Wages should be rising with the cost of living but they aren't so a lot of men aren't able to provide.

The uk will implode sooner or later unless they change things up

 

[Angelina]

Better than epidemic of Single Somali females, if Some Males are losers and not willing to get married, up to others to pick up the slack and get multiple wives and not waste reproductive ability of these females

For women it isn’t. Women aren’t going to want to marry under those circumstances nor is it good for societies. The consequences aren’t going to be much different to single parent homes. The father is not only not around most of the time, but he doesn’t even provide! How is that fair on the kids?! How is it that we demonise single mother homes, but your solution is more of it?

 

[mohamedismail]

Its a consequnce of the ignorance of your immediate forefathers to select an arbitary quality such as the random selection of the name of their 7th grandfather to bias, attack and discriminiate against others that didnt have the name (which they might as well have been picking shoe size as the arbitary quality) leading to most people having to give up their 40 acres to live in worse then indebtured servitude to others who forefathers didnt pick such arbitary qualities as their motivation for life. Hence thereforth their offspring have been lamented to not being able to afford any property, any wealth, a home, any independence and lastly any children or wife and husband. Now if they didnt pick such a silly arbitary quality that even cavemen you see on national geographic would consider a dumb decision making tool each one of you would today have inherited free land, a free home, no eviction tenancies, a healthy immigrant underclass to do your laundry, drive you and clean your roads, fast track to the best jobs and management, and marriage rates of 99%.

Hit the nail on the head!

 

[Angelina]

The British Economy is the problem in your example. Wages should be rising with the cost of living but they aren't so a lot of men aren't able to provide.

The uk will implode sooner or later unless they change things up

Not just the UK, but various other Western countries along with even wealthy ME countries which are in fact even worse.

But let’s let these men feel better by attacking women for not being traditional enough. I stops them from seeing the stark reality of the world around them.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Not just the UK, but various other Western countries along with even wealthy ME countries which are in fact even worse.

But let’s let these men feel better by attacking women for not being traditional enough. I stops them from seeing the stark reality of the world around them.

I agree with you but I think most men know this hence the whole self improvement and grind culture that has come about aswell as the fact men ain't getting married since it takes longer to get to that point which is the reason xalimos are out here saying there are no somali men to marry around there age. Most are attempting to build up to the point where they can live on there terms with a spouse or die trying. Or they have clocked out all together. Xalimos are also doing this aswell.

There not all in prison like dangerbadan was suggesting

 

[KaiMarvin]

Get on your grind

Yessir!

 

[Odious Delirium]

@Angelina do you do match making for your single friends in your network?

Don't you all come from big familes why not connect people instead of waiting on parents to do it?

 

[Angelina]

@Angelina do you do match making for your single friends in your network?

Don't you all come from big familes why not connect people instead of waiting on parents to do it?

Friends introduce each other all the time. Husband’s friends ect.

 

[JJ300]

Mismatch of what men and women want.

Guys want a traditional wife that does most of the cooking and cleaning. But the biggest elephant in the room, is that many can’t afford that lifestyle. The average UK professional earns 45k and that’s after a number of years of experiences and it’s around 40k after tax. The cost of living is also rising. So logically speaking, how can these guys achieve that, without their wives at least chipping in a bit, and them helping their wives?

Women on the other hand want more of an equalitarian marriage in which the husband helps out with the house and kids. Those women also work and have been raised to be educated and take their jobs seriously. Many men see this as being inspired by feminism, yet those men don’t have issues with their wives paying for themselves, kids ect as it saves them money.

I really do think the Somali and Muslim community are living in LaLa land, especially the men. Call be bias, but if you’re well aware of the economic situation, you’d know that’s probably the biggest issue. But most of these kids, especially the little boys and girls who have a lot to say have never paid house rent in their lives and have no clue how much rent is in their city. Rent in big cities takes up like 70% of peoples pay check!

Im going to have to disagree here. Women in the analysis here have not come out smelling of roses. In a situation where a husband has lost his business it is on the wife to stand by her husband atleast for small while and not bemoan it. Here the men have lost the business. They were yesterday millionaires and today have lost the business. You should as a wife endure and quietly so remaining exclusive and loyal to your husband. Can you say you have done that as women? That already without the eclipse of even a full generation you arent bemoaning your husbands, bemoaning their lack of fortune, seeking alternative avenues, looking out for yourselves only, and in doing so perfoming lower then other similar ethnicities that have to wait 600 plus years to do so or am i wrong?

 

[Angelina]

Im going to have to disagree here. Women in the analysis here have not come out smelling of roses. In a situation where a husband has lost his business it is on the wife to stand by her husband atleast for small while and not bemoan it. Here the men have lost the business. They were yesterday millionaires and today have lost the business. You should as a wife endure and quietly so remaining exclusive and loyal to your husband.

Those men haven’t lost businesses, so I don’t understand what you’re getting at. They work 9-5 and are still in employment.

Can you say you have done that as women? That already without the eclipse of even a full generation you arent bemoaning your husbands, bemoaning their lack of fortune, seeking alternative avenues, looking out for yourselves only, and in doing so perfoming lower then other similar ethnicities that have to wait 600 plus years to do so or am i wrong?

Those men haven’t lost anything. They merely aren’t getting paid well due to the economy so I don’t understand your point.

 

[attash]

Im going to have to disagree here. Women in the analysis here have not come out smelling of roses. In a situation where a husband has lost his business it is on the wife to stand by her husband atleast for small while and not bemoan it. Here the men have lost the business. They were yesterday millionaires and today have lost the business. You should as a wife endure and quietly so remaining exclusive and loyal to your husband. Can you say you have done that as women? That already without the eclipse of even a full generation you arent bemoaning your husbands, bemoaning their lack of fortune, seeking alternative avenues, looking out for yourselves only, and in doing so perfoming lower then other similar ethnicities that have to wait 600 plus years to do so or am i wrong?

English 100

 

[El Nino]

From corona to singleness!!! We cannot catch a break!!

 

[JJ300]

Those men haven’t lost businesses, so I don’t understand what you’re getting at. They work 9-5 and are still in employment.


Those men haven’t lost anything. They merely aren’t getting paid well due to the economy so I don’t understand your point.

Im using it as an example. 30 years ago somali men owned all society (as far as the women were concerned). The owned all the wealth, all the business, all the important roles, the roads, everything, they were what white ownership and privilage is to you today. In other words they had the business. Today obviously they dont own all society. You live in the west and as far as you can see whites and others own everything and somalis dont. To somali women they (somali men) lost the business. This calls for in other setting a reprieve for a period. A grace for one to get their business back. African american women gave theirs from 1863 -the emancipation date to the 2020 i.e their swirl period, chinese gave it from 1815 the first chinese migration to the U.S to the late 90s (their swirl period). These are periods of 100 years plus. Do you not think we deserve a similar reprieve?

 

[Ozymandias]

From corona to singleness!!! We cannot catch a break!!

Dadka qooqsan ba meeshan ku batay, tolow gabdhan gus may rabaan, mar kasta bay calaacalaan? . Ha isoo raadiyaan si fiican baan u dhoweyn lahaa

 

[Mr steal your naag 2]

TikTok - Make Your Day

I cant believe people actually go to those meetings
The meeting has to be 80% fobs

 

[Dualke]

Good. Lower standards for me

 

[Mr steal your naag 2]

Really? Prisons ask for ethnic data? Stop lying. It is clear there is barely Somali men around and they are not participating in society. I see Somali women I don't know all the time in public. Where all the Somali men except for the young ones and the old ones? I don't see 25-45 Somali men in public. They are obviously in jail or enjoying their addiction indoors.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Im using it as an example. 30 years ago somali men owned all society (as far as the women were concerned). The owned all the wealth, all the business, all the important roles, the roads, everything, they were what white ownership and privilage is to you today. In other words they had the business. Today obviously they dont own all society. You live in the west and as far as you can see whites and others own everything and somalis dont. To somali women they (somali men) lost the business. This calls for in other setting a reprieve for a period. A grace for one to get their business back. African american women gave theirs from 1863 -the emancipation date to the 2020 i.e their swirl period, chinese gave it from 1815 the first chinese migration to the U.S to the late 90s (their swirl period). These are periods of 100 years plus.

The issue is that women didn't have those Same opportunities back then and it was easy to live off a single wage. The difference is the time we are in. If all those groups came today they would be complaining all the same. The men could provide and buy houses with what little they had. You can't do that with the same lvl of ease in today's economy and women have basically equal rights in the west and are fully in the work force. Basically the difference is that women now have there own money so that loyality and waiting on a guy doesn't exist any more they will just do it themselves.

Women are rather logical in this department why wait or care for 45k abdi when they can go for anyone who will be making the same as them them and more. The only reason they ain't is cause hoyo and abo told them not to.

 

[Angelina]

Im using it as an example. 30 years ago somali men owned all society (as far as the women were concerned). The owned all the wealth, all the business, all the important roles, the roads, everything, they were what white ownership and privilage is to you today. In other words they had the business.

No only a minority of Somali women. Many men were indeed poor Nomads looking for grazing land. Using the ownership of a minority of men for all men is a weak analysis.

Today obviously they dont own all society. You live in the west and as far as you can see whites and others own everything and somalis dont. To somali women they (somali men) lost the business.

Nope, we don’t see it that way. We see them as people who can’t let go of the relics of tribal feuds and hatred.

This calls for in other setting a reprieve for a period. A grace for one to get their business back. African american women gave theirs from 1863 -the emancipation date to the 2020 i.e their swirl period, chinese gave it from 1815 the first chinese migration to the U.S to the late 90s (their swirl period). These are periods of 100 years plus. Do you not think we deserve a similar reprieve?

And don’t Somali women still mostly marry Somali men? Aren’t lower socioeconomic Somali men still able to marry their women? Who has given up on them?

The issue is that society has changed. Women don’t need men just for financial gain, hence young men need to smarten up and understand that marriage is a union that both need to work together. Why would you expect a woman to marry you and be wholly dependent on you financially when you can’t? Surely the best solution is to help your wife with the domestic work and she’ll chip in money wise as well.

 

[Dualke]

Really? Prisons ask for ethnic data? Stop lying. It is clear there is barely Somali men around and they are not participating in society. I see Somali women I don't know all the time in public. Where all the Somali men except for the young ones and the old ones? I don't see 25-45 Somali men in public. They are obviously in jail or enjoying their addiction indoors.

The Somali men in prison have a similar proportion of their population compared to other ethnic groups. What data are you referring to?