Epidemic of single Somali women

[cooli3o]

Your jaded that's why you don't I'm talking about if guys had it there way there isn't a single guy who doesn't want to get married including you unless your gay or asexual. All straight guys whether they have low libido or not would like to get married.

if I had it my way I would have multiple women but I would never be married

 

[Sophisticate]

actually in certain places I believe it to be 0% of men. but if we look at the entire population it could b around 0.001% of men, ofc there are different frequencies depending on if they have a girlfriend or not or in the army etc.. but everyone I know growing up does it, all the grown men do it, in fact, most men still do it during marriage because thats how excessive their desire is

I personally know a few brothers who do not do it but I do not have 100% guarantee they never did it and I dont know i they still dont do it but i am confident they have stopped for a long time and these are the cream of the crop.
I do not actually know anyone who doesnt do it tbh other than ppl who have not exposed it and I would assume the best of them if they are righteous ppl but hey cannot be used in data as they cannot expose their sins.
the other ppl who do not do it are ppl with very low sexual desire. like javelin
I had nuerodivergents I grew up with and they all told me about how they mastur****.
its just a natural desire in all men, as a women you wouldn't understand.

I would prefer to take their word for it. Not everyone is the same and it isn't fair to think those that abstain are automatically (qanis, asexual or blatantly lying). I don't like this line of reasoning. I think there are more nuances.​

Some of the guys can't fathom others being different from themselves or jump to the worst conclusions like being gay/asexual etc there is no point having this argument with them.
I already had this argument on multiple occasions on here. You can't reason with them only one or 2 people can avoid sinning in there opinion everyone else is addicted to masterbating

Apparently, they all lack impulse control.​

 

[cooli3o]

I would prefer to take their word for it. Not everyone is the same and it isn't fair to think those that abstain are automatically (qanis, asexual or blatantly lying). I don't like this line of reasoning. I think there are more nuances.

I know too much about life to believe a guy in his 30s who has never touched a women in his life and isn't interested in being married that he has never engaged in degeneracy in his entire life.

that entire line of thinking is absurd and highly improbable.

therefore the most logical reason is that they are lying to protect their dignity, I would do the exact same thing as them and I commend them for not exposing their sins, in fact any brother you ask who is Muslim and is a good successful guy and not married will never expose his past sins because that is not something they would ever do. but I know brothers like this in real life and what actually happens behind closed doors, so there is no nuance for me to detect I already know the truth, now, since you and javvy have a low sex drive and do not understand what a normal healthy man is like, I would expect you guys to say yh I believe these guys.

But me believing these guys, is like you telling me, that you have never told a lie in your life, and me believing you

 

[cooli3o]

Apparently, they all lack impulse control.

if only you knew how little self control men had you would be crying not laughing, but as they say ignorance is bliss

 

[Yaraye]

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[Xoxoxo]

if I had it my way I would have multiple women but I would never be married

Saqajaan

 

[cooli3o]

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your a nurse so it would be worrying if you didn't know

 

[cooli3o]

Saqajaan

SIster, if you had it your way, I am sure you would have a harem of men to do everything for you.(If Allah allowed you to do everything you want, thats what this scenerio is)

 

[Xoxoxo]

they are and I observe it everyday, all the guys I talk to do the dishes cleaning and child caring and working, I see on their faces they want to commit suicide, marriages nowadays everyone has equal responsibilities, I know many married ppl and the men are not what everyone says online, the men just do all the work they are supposed to, picking up dropping off kids spending time with them washing etc, everyone is doing work nowadays and that is what is expected of them, and I am seeing this even in the ghetto areas, it isn't even just a middle class thing, men literally stroll their babies on walkers while talking to their friends,
men have been forced to be women now

noone ever said birth is a fun experience,
also do you realise women since the beginning of time have been giving birth to 5+ children with no healthcare at all and more complications, yet they still would go back to their hard labour after that due to the nature of life, that is just the way it works, ofc women should get a break after pregnancy and it is unfair to force them into the workforce, but modern women have it easier compared to women in the past to a certain extent. pain is part of life and women have always had to go through those things.

if women want to stay single I have no problem with it but as we know a society of all people being single equals destroyed society. I don't believe it is fair to force women to do everything and overwork them but that is a symptom of our society not having any real family support especially for helping women raise children they have to do it by themselves.

And since the beginning off time men weren’t being jackasses and actually provided for their female counterparts instead off expecting them to be pampered & taken care off

 

[Xoxoxo]

SIster, if you had it your way, I am sure you would have a harem of men to do everything for you.(If Allah allowed you to do everything you want, thats what this scenerio is)

No I wouldn’t. If I was allowed to do everything I wanted I would have other priorities

 

[cooli3o]

And since the beginning off time men weren’t being jackasses and actually provided for their female counterparts instead off expecting them to be pampered & taken care off

I agree.
but in this economy is it practical to expect a man to provide fully for you?

 

[Yaraye]

your a nurse so it would be worrying if you didn't know

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[cooli3o]

No I wouldn’t. If I was allowed to do everything I wanted I would have other priorities

ok your a weirdo what is wrong with you.
Also why did you qaashin me or saying I would have multiple women and not be married, what is wrong with that(I Allah allowed me to do everything I want)

 

[Xoxoxo]

I agree.
but in this economy is it practical to expect a man to provide fully for you?

If he expects me to take care off children and give birth to 3+ then yes.

If not the work is split even, 50/50 or I’ll find a guy that would do it for me!

 

[cooli3o]

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ummmmm idk. u probs shouldnt know how it works. but its obvious where it is located

 

[Xoxoxo]

ok your a weirdo what is wrong with you.
Also why did you qaashin me or saying I would have multiple women and not be married, what is wrong with that(I Allah allowed me to do everything I want)

If I was allowed to do everything I would have different priorities personally, the first thing in my mind wouldn’t be anything sexual or

 

[cooli3o]

If he expects me to take care off children and give birth to 3+ then yes.

If not the work is split even, 50/50 or I’ll find a guy that would do it for me!

I agree.

 

[Sophisticate]

The ones who went thru domestic abuse, not necesserily for me, but for other faaraxs. You are right no point crying over spilt milk.

but lets be honest. How can a civil engineer whos 6’2 still havent found a wife, never got in to trouble, did everything by the book? Thats worrying if you ask me. I know of too many examples right now.

I know examples of that too. There are plenty of nice young Halimos so I'm sure if your friend was truly serious he could talk to his mother and find someone within his community who is as religious, attractive and with a nice enough temperament. Parents can do a great job at finding out information. Also, sometimes the right package is delivered to the wrong address. So don't take how people respond too personally. From what I've read people often relive their childhood dramas through relationships.

 

[cooli3o]

If I was allowed to do everything I would have different priorities personally, the first thing in my mind wouldn’t be anything sexual or

yh so why did you qaashin me

 

[Yaraye]

ummmmm idk. u probs shouldnt know how it works. but its obvious where it is located

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