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[Jeghbamjdb]

The life of an eldest daughter.

I think miskiinta needs lots of dua and therapy. Allah has blessed her with a good husband.

 

[Goodbye ✌]

Subhanallah I read this, this morning. May Allah heal her heart and grant her everything she desires in this dunya and the akhira.

 

[Based]

Is the girl soomali

 

[HiraanBorn]

I'm telling you right now, I'm not even going to attempt to read all that.

 

[Angelina]

This is what you call true love!

I know far too many Somali girls who practically run their homes, work and parents expect them to carry their whole family on their back as they're daughters.

I'll get attacked for this, but this is the norm for our dhaqan. This has been happening for centuries. Even explorers who came to our lands would comment on how hard working the women are. Even the ajnabi commentators knew straight away the wife was Somali.

 

[empressjamila]

Typical life of a Somali eldest daughter. Everybody in the comments could tell right away it was a Somali girl, smfh

She’s lucky her husband is ajnabi and so he can see what is wrong with this dynamic. A Somali man wouldn’t care and would just expect her to continue self-sacrificing, breaking her back and ruining her health all because she is a woman

 

[sorevsa]

easy pick-mes for ajnabi.

this happens in every interracial relationship. since they dont know the person and their culture/norms they compensate by going over and beyond to impress them. but with their own they rarely feel the need to do above bare minimum due to lack of novelty.

 

[Angelina]

That is not true love If that Paki/Bengoli really loves her he wouldn't insult her family after taking her away from them like that, he would actually buy a house close to her family so they could BOTH help out the gjrls struggling family but what the ajnabi do? He insults them and here you are calling it "true love" thats very cheap and clean behaviour.

Facts are facts. Even her own Abti says the same thing about her family.

If the family are lazy and involved in illegal activities, then it is what it is. What do you want him to do? Lie about her family circumstances.

Some families are rough and bad and there is nothing we can do about it. I don't need your trolling delusions now. Shouldn't you be in the NSF filth section talking about the dirtest things?

You really want to talk about a doctor who loves his wife and wants to make her life easier when you're the type that writes sexual stuff on forums?!

 

[sorevsa]

Facts are facts.

If the family are lazy and involved in illegal activities, then it is what it is. What do you want him to do? Lie about her family circumstances.

Some families are rough and bad and there is nothing we can do about it. I don't need your trolling delusions now. Shouldn't be in the NSF filth section talking about the dirtest things?

You really want to talk about a doctor who loves his wife and wants to make her life easier when you're the type that writes sexual stuff on forums?!

didn't you say in the other thread with nigerian white couple that her leaving was smart due to toxic inlaws and now you're saying theres nothing you can do about OPs toxic family??

 

[Angelina]

didn't you say in the other thread with nigerian white couple that her leaving was smart due to toxic inlaws and now you're saying theres nothing you can do about OPs toxic family??

I said, the Nigerian girl was smart for NOT marrying into that family. What does that have to do with anything? The Pakistani guy has already married her and are her family trying to kill him?

Your point doesn't make sense in the slightest.

 

[Magan95]

I was thinking... wow what a toxic culture that she has to be both a father, a son, a daughter, and a mom. Then as the story went on I realized that's your typical Somali household... I'm so ashamed.

The most fucked up part is, even though Xalimo's are basically the bread winners, workers, electricians, handy man in their household to lazy ass men... they still don't get respected as equals and deal with extreme sexism from our culture.

Imagine women doing this being called the "weaker sex" or less intelligent.
At least other cultures when they oppress women expect them to do less work physically or financially... in the Somali households Xalimo's have to provide, work, and still get treated like Qashin.

 

[Jeghbamjdb]

Typical life of a Somali eldest daughter. Everybody in the comments could tell right away it was a Somali girl, smfh

She’s lucky her husband is ajnabi and so he can see what is wrong with this dynamic. A Somali man wouldn’t care and would just expect her to continue self-sacrificing, breaking her back and ruining her health all because she is a woman

A Pakistani man wouldn't be any better lol.

It's just that this particular Pakistani man actually cares for his wife. It's not all black and white. There are plenty of good Somali men out there who would do the same.

If I saw my wife doing DIY with everything, even the electricity, I would be concerned and then offended. Let me do my job woman!

 

[Magan95]

Typical life of a Somali eldest daughter. Everybody in the comments could tell right away it was a Somali girl, smfh

She’s lucky her husband is ajnabi and so he can see what is wrong with this dynamic. A Somali man wouldn’t care and would just expect her to continue self-sacrificing, breaking her back and ruining her health all because she is a woman

Facts have never been louder.

That is not true love If that Paki/Bengoli really loves her he wouldn't insult her family after taking her away from them like that, he would actually buy a house close to her family so they could BOTH help out the gjrls struggling family but what the ajnabi do? He insults them and here you are calling it "true love" thats very cheap and clean behaviour.

Honestly he has every right to get her away from her family. They are bleeding her dry, she needs to not be around them. They're struggling because she enabled that behaviour... unfortunately, you can tell her parents made her into a good servant, not a daughter.

Her mother tolerating the father even though he's a khasaro taught her to have bad standards. When you lower your standards, that's an example you're giving your children.

On the other hand, her husband is enabling the behavior as well. Why didn't he cut off his toxic mother? Does he cater to her siblings the way she does to his family?

 

[Angelina]

A Pakistani man wouldn't be any better lol.

It's just that this particular Pakistani man actually cares for his wife. It's not all black and white. There are plenty of good Somali men out there who would do the same.

If I saw my wife doing DIY with everything, even the electricity, I would be concerned and then offended. Let me do my job woman!

Lets be honest with ourselves. Every culture has positive and negatives. Misogyny is high in their culture and their women deal with issues we don't Alhamdulilah, however they don't deal with overly lazy men who expect women to do everything. Their men are very family orientated. This naag nool dhaqan in which women are expected to do everything isn't a thing. For goodness sakes our great grandmothers had to be the ones that build the areesh (Somali house).

 

[Jeghbamjdb]

Facts have never been louder.



Honestly he has every right to get her away from her family. They are bleeding her dry, she needs to not be around them. They're struggling because she enabled that behaviour... unfortunately, you can tell her parents made her into a good servant, not a daughter.

Her mother tolerating the father even though he's a khasaro taught her to have bad standards. When you lower your standards, that's an example you're giving your children.

On the other hand, her husband is enabling the behavior as well. Why didn't he cut off his toxic mother? Does he cater to her siblings the way she does to his family?

Her standards don't seem low lol. She married an amazing man.

 

[sorevsa]

I said, the Nigerian girl was smart for NOT marrying into that family. What does that have to do with anything? The Pakistani guy has already married her and are her family trying to kill him?

Your point doesn't make sense in the slightest.

I find it hilarious that you lot are trying to say that the husband is insulting the family when it was the Somali wife's own UNCLE who told him the reality.

you don't see the hypocrisy do you. both stories have toxic inlaws that don't want each other getting married yet you cheered the nigerian when she left the guy, but here you say theres no point talking about the hate against their interracial marriage because 'it is what it is'.

I didn't make that point you claim in the 3rd paragraph. idrc whos at fault, just doesn't make sense for him to go through all that hassle of your family and hers hating each other when you can just marry your cousin bk home and your fams happy.

I was thinking... wow what a toxic culture that she has to be both a father, a son, a daughter, and a mom. Then as the story went on I realized that's your typical Somali household... I'm so ashamed.

The most fucked up part is, even though Xalimo's are basically the bread winners, workers, electricians, handy man in their household to lazy ass men... they still don't get respected as equals and deal with extreme sexism from our culture.

Imagine women doing this being called the "weaker sex" or less intelligent.
At least other cultures when they oppress women expect them to do less work physically or financially... in the Somali households Xalimo's have to provide, work, and still get treated like Qashin.

i'd be happy if xalimos all married a desi like the one in the post. please do so, i'm tired of hearing you and other women on here continuously talking bout marrying nonsomali men but not doing it

 

[sorevsa]

Lets be honest with ourselves. Every culture has positive and negatives. Misogyny is high in their culture and their women deal with issues we don't Alhamdulilah, however they don't deal with overly lazy men who expect women to do everything. Their men are very family orientated. This naag nool dhaqan in which women are expected to do everything isn't a thing. For goodness sakes our great grandmothers had to be the ones that build the areesh (Somali house).

where do you think this comes from? genuine question.

 

[Angelina]

you don't see the hypocrisy do you. both stories have toxic inlaws that don't want each other getting married yet you cheered the nigerian when she left the guy, but here you say theres no point talking about the hate against their interracial marriage because 'it is what it is'.

I didn't make that point you claim in the 3rd paragraph. idrc whos at fault, just doesn't make sense for him to go through all that hassle of your family and hers hating each other when you can just marry your cousin bk home and your fams happy.

i'd be happy if xalimos all married a desi like the one in the post. please do so, i'm tired of hearing you and other women on here continuously talking bout marrying nonsomali men but not doing it

Are you okay? They are married already, the family did not oppose the marriage?!

How are they remotely similar. You're making yourself look dumb as you're trying to find a non existent link.

 

[HiraanBorn]

didn't you say in the other thread with nigerian white couple that her leaving was smart due to toxic inlaws and now you're saying theres nothing you can do about OPs toxic family??

Bro don't try and argue with her on women's issues, she's not like other women she actually uses her brain in her arguments. You won't win kkkk.

 

[Jeghbamjdb]

Lets be honest with ourselves. Every culture has positive and negatives. Misogyny is high in their culture and their women deal with issues we don't Alhamdulilah, however they don't deal with overly lazy men who expect women to do everything. Their men are very family orientated. This naag nool dhaqan in which women are expected to do everything isn't a thing. For goodness sakes our great grandmothers had to be the ones that build the areesh (Somali house).

You make a good point.