Domestic Abuse

[Ubax45_]

I don't want to sounf insensitive but women in the west have 0 excuse to be victims tbh.

That is rather insensitive and your not taking into account the psychological aspects of abuse.

 

[Mohamud]

Do you really expect an abuser to just tell his male friend or family that he beats his wife? Or for an abused woman to just open up to a random man about possibly the worst thing that's ever happened to her? Women are more inclined to share this information with other women.

No I mean women like you. Who haven't been abused and can speak for those who have.

You can easily educate a whole generation of Somali youth about that kind of shit.

 

[Duchess]

I don't want to sounf insensitive but women in the west have 0 excuse to be victims tbh.

Tbh many of these women watch their mothers be victimised their entire lives. It would explain why they become victims. It's hard to break the cycle when that shit's normal to you.

 

[ItsHanna]

Somali women tend to be build bigger than their husbands. They need to put their men in line. A slap here and there will do.

 

[Duchess]

No I mean women like you. Who haven't been abused and can speak for those who have.

You can easily educate a whole generation of Somali youth about that kind of shit.

We need to encourage victims of abuse to speak out and use their own voices because it's not my place to share someone else's story. All I can do is correct those who think domestic abuse isn't an issue in our community.

 

[McLovin]

I wouldnt be surprised about it. We arent exactly a progressive culture

 

[dhegdheer]

It happens you just don't hear about it, I saw dozens of somali women at the shelter I worked at

I don't want to sounf insensitive but women in the west have 0 excuse to be victims tbh.

Dhimo ado qawaan

 

[Bahal]

Look, a woman is an adult. If you're getting beaten by someone like you're a child and you do nothing about it, you are absolutely retarded and proof that women might actually not be as equal as we thought.

 

[Mohamud]

We need to encourage victims of abuse to speak out and use their own voices because it's not my place to share someone else's story. All I can do is correct those who think domestic abuse isn't an issue in our community.

No you can do far more than that. You can explicitly condemn the act and vouch for the testimonials you've heard (without going in detail of course). If Somali dudes don't witness the abuse and it's kept under wraps how can you expect them to quantify the problem?

We need info. Particularly how a widespread issue like this can be quietly kept hidden when so many of our other issues are on wide display.

You guys are describing what seems to be a cultural link that not only shields abusers but also keeps domestic abuse hidden from the masses. Can't blame ignorant niggas for not knowing shit if we don't get vital information can you?

 

[MadNomad]

Somali women tend to be build bigger than their husbands. They need to put their men in line. A slap here and there will do.

Lol, what? I have yet to see a Somali woman who's physically larger than me. And i'm not even that heavy mind you, more of a medium build. Ya'll are built delicately.

 

[MadNomad]

Look, a woman is an adult. If you're getting beaten by someone like you're a child and you do nothing about it, you are absolutely retarded and proof that women might actually not be as equal as we thought.

Sxb, have some empathy :siilaanyolaugh:

Some women fear for their lives in abusive relationships.

 

[Prince Abubu]

The only cases of domestic abuse I've heard are when the husband is a raging alcoholic.

What family would tolerate their daughter being beaten black and blue?

You're right. It's usually when the husband has some kind of balwad. But in my experience it's rare. Plus, I cant speak for other Somalis but in my community the clan of the husband/wife come together to solve the issue.

 

[Bahal]

Sxb, have some empathy :siilaanyolaugh:

Some women fear for their lives in abusive relationships.

I'm not trying to be an asshole, I genuinely can't understand it.

Women crying out I love him when he's finally being hauled away by the cops.

 

[Duchess]

No you can do far more than that. You can explicitly condemn the act and vouch for the testimonials you've heard (without going in detail of course). If Somali dudes don't witness the abuse and it's kept under wraps how can you expect them to quantify the problem?

We need info. Particularly how a widespread issue like this can be quietly kept hidden when so many of our other issues are on wide display.

You guys are describing what seems to be a cultural link that not only shields abusers but also keeps domestic abuse hidden from the masses. Can't blame ignorant niggas for not knowing shit if we don't get vital information can you?

Boowe, you're incredibly naive and it makes me wonder how much contact you've had with the Somali community. I've explained why men would think this isn't so widespread, you tend to associate with the culprits. Secondly, it's men who should be condemning this, not me. It's already a given that as a woman, I oppose this vile practice. We need Somali men to come out and say the same but more often than not , they're the ones who think it isn't a big issue ( every woman in this topic so far has said it's an issue, it's the men who are ignorant) or victim blame. I can't definitively say how widespread domestic violence is in our community, but if the abuse isn't physical, it is emotional, verbal or psychological. Abuse has been normalized in our community. Only a man would argue against this.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

@Bahal gives me the abusive type vibes.

 

[MadNomad]

I'm not trying to be an asshole, I genuinely can't understand it.

Women crying out I love him when he's finally being hauled away by the cops.

Stockholm syndrome is a

 

[Lone Wanderer]

I'm not trying to be an asshole, I genuinely can't understand it.

Women crying out I love him when he's finally being hauled away by the cops.

Some form of stockholm syndrome

 

[Bahal]

@Bahal gives me the abusive type vibes.

I have repeatedly stated my desire to find a woman in the mold of Halyeeyad Claire

 

[dhegdheer]

No you can do far more than that. You can explicitly condemn the act and vouch for the testimonials you've heard (without going in detail of course). If Somali dudes don't witness the abuse and it's kept under wraps how can you expect them to quantify the problem?

We need info. Particularly how a widespread issue like this can be quietly kept hidden when so many of our other issues are on wide display.

You guys are describing what seems to be a cultural link that not only shields abusers but also keeps domestic abuse hidden from the masses. Can't blame ignorant niggas for not knowing shit if we don't get vital information can you?

You could I guess but then again no one will listen to u or believe u.They'll just mock you and tell you it's very rare and never happens

 

[Mohamud]

Boowe, you're incredibly naive and it makes me wonder how much contact you've had with the Somali community. I've explained why men would think this isn't so widespread, you tend to associate with the culprits. Secondly, it's men who should be condemning this, not me. It's already a given that as a woman, I oppose this vile practice. We need Somali men to come out and say the same but more often than then, they're the ones who think it isn't a big issue ( every woman in this topic so far has said it's an issue, it's the men who are ignorant) or victim blame. I can't definitively say how widespread domestic violence is in our community, but if the abuse isn't physical, it is emotional, verbal or psychological. Abuse has been normalized in our community. Only a man would argue against this.

well i can't confidently condemn something i'm only now being told is a consistent problem now can i? they'll ask "how do you know this?" and my retort can't be "some girls online told me". that wouldn't go over very well, would it? and what you described is why men wouldn't divulge their sins to others thereby making specific transgressors difficult to pinpoint. the bold is why this is a problem. only women know the scope of the problem, and generally speaking only you guys can educate us on the problem. we're ultimately cut off from the victim as a whole so how can we even empathize. we don't know who's getting beat.

and the connotation of domestic abuse primarily begins with battery before anything else. physical violence. psychological abuse is probably more prevalent than physical violence i will admit that; however, abuse has been normalized around the world. the question is whether we're worse off than the rest. i'd shutter to think we're anywhere near as garbage as those North Africans. they have socialized the idea of walking around with a shiner on your face.

if we don't know what exactly can we do? we at least need to know the scope before we go condemning an act.