Confused and dont know what to do right now

[Kudhufo Kadhaqaq]

Somali girls dont ever initiate anything with a guy. Dont expect her to be the first to call, text or ask you out. If she does that shes not serious about you and sees you as a fling or someone to finesse. Its in our programming to be awkward and unapproachable, esp to abdis.
Sounds like shes a typical xaliimo. You have to pursue until youre engaged. Somali girls are shit at giving signs no need to feel hurt about it. She probably likes you.

I feel like u would have approached me irl

 

[Jinchuriki]

I am lost too bro, tryna find that map yo.

 

[Blade1]

Where yall live? I always get more than I give. But then again I know how to deal with a xalimo, and how to manipulate her.

The UK but trust me men are way more invested usually and don't show it to eveyone else but usually do these type of stuff on the low.
I'm sure you must be texting her hi and good morning today aswell. Tell that xalimo I said hi ahahahhahaah
Whilst she's answering five guys good night's now and answers the same thing to each of you guys.

Don't kill I'm just kidding

 

[Ferrari]

The UK but trust me men are way more invested usually and don't show it to eveyone else but usually do these type of stuff on the low.
I'm sure you must be texting her hi and good morning today aswell. Tell that xalimo I said hi ahahahhahaah
Whilst she's answering five guys good night's now and answers the same thing to each of you guys.

Don't kill I'm just kidding

lol my rule is I'll text the first day, and if she's really hot the second day also and that's where me texting first ends. If she doesn't start texting me, then that's the end of it. no time wasted, no drama and no feelings involved at all, so it is easy to let go. women are easily malleable.
More than half of the time, they text me first.

 

[Hybrid]

The UK but trust me men are way more invested usually and don't show it to eveyone else but usually do these type of stuff on the low.
I'm sure you must be texting her hi and good morning today aswell. Tell that xalimo I said hi ahahahhahaah
Whilst she's answering five guys good night's now and answers the same thing to each of you guys.

Don't kill I'm just kidding

Good morning texts are beta af. I wouldn't even text that to my wife. You must've been messing with poor farahs who were brought up in a single-mother household.

 

[Mercury]

Idk why though people

Idk why though people would assume it's the girl but I had one guy who I didn't even know like that say good morning good night everyday we weren't even in the same country so I was confused as to what to reply with. Even my friends conversations were like that wjere the guys kspt daying it first idk why they love doing that. I'd love to know is it easier to start convo that way idk

Good day good night who got time to text that

 

[Omnya]

Thank you for your reply abaayo! May I ask if you were the one who was paying all attention to the other or if a guy was interested in you but not vice versa.

And do you think that this is something that is best handled IRL in 12 days when i return back home or can I handle this by phone before?

I wasn’t paying all the attention but at times I felt like he wasn’t investing time and effort in this relationship as much as I was. I mean when we talk on the phone I feel like he’s serious but his actions are not saying that. Anyways I realized he was just another 30 year old man who doesn’t know what they want in life. So I told him nugo kala wad. I would advice you to address this issue in person. Meet up with her let her know how you feel. Communication is a key.

 

[AussieHustler]

What does the stereotypical Somali man do.

What is wrong with dating multiple women at the same time just like the guys on the bachelor

The guys on the bachelor date 50 Basras for the price of a Kuuseey..Xaaaax.

The stereotypical Somali guy is looking for a second wife after 5 years of marriage. He becomes an angry moron who spews “Allah gave me the right”, online.

 

[FendiFanatic]

Life hack: buy female viagra and smash it in her drink and take her home. She finally get horny and let you f*ck. Worked with me plenty of times young bull

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Life hack: buy female viagra and smash it in her drink and take her home. She finally get horny and let you f*ck. Worked with me plenty of times young bull

Abdi Cosby stop drugging up this females

 

[The Cushitic One]

I meet a xalimo in my age (somewhere between 20-22) in a new job i started in late January this year and I found her very beautiful and interesting. Two weeks later I added her on Facebook and started to chat with her there. From there I took her Snapchat and number. In late february I asked her out for a cup of coffee and we sat in a starbucks from like 6 pm to 11 pm and I really enjoyed talking with her and felt like we had good chemistry. We ended the date by taking the metro to our stop and me following her home and giving her a hug.

From there on we continued chatting with each other on snapchat and went out on a date once every 3-4 weeks (mostly restaurants and going for a walk). When we went on dates it always felt as amazing and the hours would just fly. By the third date I felt like I was sure that she was a person I wanted to go in a relationship with and by the end of the date when i was walking her closer to her home I told her that I had developed feelings for her, but either I talked to low outside or she choose to ignore it since she didn't respond to that. And when we got to her neighborhood I just gave her a hug and said that it was nice being with her tonight.

On the forth date the family car was available so instead of using the metro we took my car to a restaurant and on the drive home I started jokingly say "lets talk about some serious things now" and then I just laid it out that I liked her and had developed feelings for her. She said that she also felt the same thing as me and we more or less ended the discussion there that night.

By now we were in early May and by now i realized that I initiated more than 95% of the conversations on snapchat and I guess I got insecure and since I had a big uni exam by the end of the month I decided to not initiate anything on snapchat and see how long it would take for her to write something to me. All of May passed with her not initiating anything and since her Birthday was in the end of the month i wrote her a happy birthday on snapchat and she said thanks.

By now I was more or less certain that she had forgot about me and I had a couple of sleepless nights but accepted that she wasn't interested in me and that it was better for me to move on. I was also going to travel to a lot of different countries this summer with friends. So in the beginning of june I uploaded a story on snapchat with me on a airplane. She responded quite quickly and asked me how I was doing. I replied that I was good and i guess that we have been both quite busy with our lives the last month. And then before I saw her reply to that on snapchat the plane lifted and when we landed i realized that the country i traveled to had blocked snapchat and heavily restricted internet access. Instagram and Facebook was legal though and i uploaded a couple of pictures there.

And as the idiot i am i didn't realize that i could just write to her on instagram or Facebook that i can't see her answer on snapchat. So i waited 12 days till i got home again and when i got access to snapchat saw that she wrote 12 days ago that she was wondering what had happened to me and why I was not writing anything to her. I asked if we could meet and talk about this.

We went to some place for food and went on a long walk where we talked a lot. She said that she had thought it was weird that i didn't make any sound from me in a whole month and that she had thought that i was not serious and just playing with her. I told her that I had been busy and also unsure if we had the same goals in this relationship. I then told her that i wanted to be serious and not waste time playing games and she said that she also wanted the same thing.

We talked a lot after and among other things she said she felt i was only texting her up when I wanted to meet her and not otherwise like calling her or things like that. I hadn't realized that I also could call her and not snap her only. So i have since then called her like once a week.

But we have known each other for like 6 months now and I still feel like I'm the only one who initiates contact on text messages and snapchat and the one who asks if she can talk right now on the phone. She isn't also the fastest one to answer messages and sometimes it takes hours for her to answer but thats not a big problem if that was the only issue.

When we talked on the phone last week I told her that I wanted to share a mustaqbaal with her and then she said that she wanted the same thing. I asked her how she wanted to us to take the next step but she asked how I meant with next step. I suggested for her to maybe talk to her parents about me or me introducing me to them. She said that she wanted to wait with that.

I love this girl and really want to share a future with her but I dont really know what differs our thing between a friendship and a romantic relationship since we mostly just talk about casual things and not intimate and emotional topics. And it really feels weird when the act of writing her or asking if she has time to talk on the phone feels like a hard choir and not something easy and fun to do. She says that she feels the same thing as i do but her actions don't show that.

Be blunt with me SSpotters and tell me where I can improve since this is my first serious time dating and I guess her first time too. Is it too late to recover by now or can I still save this?

It shouldn’t be this hard tbh, but than again I
Don’t text or call ppl first

Be honest with her and tell her how you
Feel, if nothing changes than move on

 

[The Cushitic One]

Tbh I don't even ask my coworker for permission i just grab her ass and titts when ever I feel like it

That’s sexual assault, I am surprised ur skinny
Anorexic ass hasn’t been fired yet

 

[FendiFanatic]

That’s sexual assault, I am surprised ur skinny
Anorexic ass hasn’t been fired yet

It is not sexual assault if she orgasms

 

[The Cushitic One]

It is not sexual assault if she orgasms

Orgasm from someone slapping a bum?

 

[Starscream]

That’s sexual assault, I am surprised ur skinny
Anorexic ass hasn’t been fired yet

If female finds you attractive you can get away with anything
Tbh you kids are missing out back in my middle school days we would have contest on how many female ass we slap
What do you know about nonchalantly putting your arm behind some fine honey and grabbing hand full
This me two shit fucked up everything
No homo but dudes would slap each other on the ass two in my school Brett Favre started that shit
Only white females snitch I had the luck of being in schools with very small whites so no snitching occurred everybody stayed on code

 

[World]

If female finds you attractive you can get away with anything
Tbh you kids are missing out back in my middle school days we would have contest on how many female ass we slap
What do you know about nonchalantly putting your arm behind some fine honey and grabbing hand full
This me two shit fucked up everything
No homo but dudes would slap each other on the ass two in my school Brett Favre started that shit
Only white females snitch I had the luck of being in schools with very small whites so no snitching occurred everybody stayed on code

You guys got latinas in Minneapolis or what? Wish we had them instead of dirty pakis. What was the main demographics in your school?

 

[Abdalla]

@Generalissimo In every relationship there's one that gives more than the other. I am a giver too. However from your story it seems that you give 90%. She is just not that into you bro or she has issues that occupy her mind. You shouldn't be exhausted to save the relationship. She will drive you crazy, take your distance.

Don't be too much of a gentleman. She is not your female relative. Aint nothing wrong with grabbing a tit or two. If you don't show your affection physically, she will think that you're not into her.

It shouldn’t be this hard tbh, but than again I
Don’t text or call ppl first

Be honest with her and tell her how you
Feel, if nothing changes than move on

 

[Hybrid]

If female finds you attractive you can get away with anything
Tbh you kids are missing out back in my middle school days we would have contest on how many female ass we slap
What do you know about nonchalantly putting your arm behind some fine honey and grabbing hand full
This me two shit fucked up everything
No homo but dudes would slap each other on the ass two in my school Brett Favre started that shit
Only white females snitch I had the luck of being in schools with very small whites so no snitching occurred everybody stayed on code

you remind me of the best days. middle/high school is the time when girls sex drive is at its most rampant. we used to meet at the beach when classes get canceled and god knows what happens over there. I even went in raw the first time I had sex.
But only the good looking and confident guys were able to get laid.

 

[Starscream]

You guys got latinas in Minneapolis or what? Wish we had them instead of dirty pakis. What was the main demographics in your school?

Minneapolis not alot certain neighborhood yes
Most of them are Mexicans which is basically the Somali women version good looking before kids ugly after
If you lucky you might find some Colombians I have
Watch el chapo/narcos
https://www.schooldigger.com/go/MN/schools/2124002297/school.aspx
Am not white like @Reiko my schools were the trenches
Throwing up gang signs, drugs, teacher passing out condoms

 

[Generalissimo]

@Generalissimo In every relationship there's one that gives more than the other. I am a giver too. However from your story it seems that you give 90%. She is just not that into you bro or she has issues that occupy her mind. You shouldn't be exhausted to save the relationship. She will drive you crazy, take your distance.

Don't be too much of a gentleman. She is not your female relative. Aint nothing wrong with grabbing a tit or two. If you don't show your affection physically, she will think that you're not into her.

Thanks sxb for your reply! How do you suggest me to proceed now? Do I just accept my L and stop writing to her? Or do I talk with her and tell her how I feel and what I want and move on if we don’t share a common goal?

The thing is that I have already talked with her about how I wanna move to the next step with her and she said that she wanted to wait. It feels kind of needy to approach again with the same topic one month later.

It might be like you said that she ain’t that much into me or that she is just busy with other issues that occupy her mind. Or just that she is just as inexperienced as me in relationships and have some idea that the guy should initiate 100% of all the times.