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Inquisitive_

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Generalissimo said:
Yes that sounds reasonable sxb, the red flag as I’ve mentioned before is that she doesn’t initiate any contact with me and takes hours for her to answer when I write or send a snap to her but she is still active and online on the social media apps.

I’m gonna have a serious discussion with her and be upfront with how I perceive the situation and that it’s better to not waste Each other’s time if we don’t feel each other that strongly
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Sxb your behaving the same way that women do, serious discussions, pouring out your emotions and feelings are things that women do, these are feminine characteristics.

Masculine characteristics are to dominate, lead and decimate your opponents never showing any emotions or fear, while always being outcome independent in all situations especially when it comes to women.

This is how you incorporate these characteristics to your current situation, always remember less is more.

You: Let me know which weekend your parents are free to meet (a direct order, say nothing more after this)

Her: *blah, blah, useless emotional rant to get you to acquiesce and break your frame" (done subconsciously by women to test you)

You: (totally ignoring everything she said) " I need to go, dad is calling me, bye" (hang up)


That's it, you totally ignore every other message, snapchat or anything else she says other then "my parents are free on this particular weekend".

This is how you order and lead by action, if she's into you, she will follow you until the end of the world, if she isn't (which is likely the case because of how you behaved)

She will grow a lot of respect for you which she currently doesn't have and rightly so. You will not sit around waiting for an answer (outcome independent)

You continue meeting more women in a halal manner not repeating these same mistakes that we all have been brainwashed with through films/movies etc.
 
FendiFanatic

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Knowles said:
You would like it if someone spiked you or your female relatives.
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Shieet if my sista ever try doing that dating bullsit she deserve that considering she married

As for me i aint dumb enough to get spiked my g i usually do the spiking :gucciwhat:
But if you want to drug me and take advantage im all for it baby :manny:
 
Abdalla

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Generalissimo said:
Always as sharp and eloquent in your thoughts my MJ mentor :salute:

You reckon that this relationship has come to its end now or is there any chance of building on this foundation?

Her explanation when we went one month without any communication is that she thought I was not serious with her and just seeing her as an temporary thing. Could her passivity when it comes to initiating be some sort of “testing” to see if I will be “serious” with her and try to make her a priority?

I swear this is taking to much of my energy and time ilaahay baan ku dhaarshay
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How's your dad doing? Say hi to him for me.

Bro let's say she likes you, what will that change? Because chances are that she does like you to an extent, or else she wouldn't go on 5 hour dates with you. Her like or dislike isn't the problem. Look beyond that. She doesn't show affection, she probably plays mind games, and she's way too passive. She doesn't return the attention, the love and affection. Liking someone and being good partner are two different things.
 
0117

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@Generalissimo

One thing that I want to add to this discussion is how your dates went?
Here in the UK if you were to go on date with a xalimo multiple times it would suggest you two are courting.PERIOD.The fact that she's not serious about the marriage discussions shows to you she's not ready or she's using you. The next time you're courting someone, perhaps you should brush up on your seduction/dating/communication skills to get a girl to be more interested in you. There are many youtube videos and Reddit posts if you wanna improve. Lastly, people have said that the girl maybe shy but I don't think that's true. She openly hugged and held hands with you in public right? No shy xalimo that I know would do this :shookgabre:
 
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@Generalissimo

One thing that I want to add to this discussion is how your dates went?
Here in the UK if you were to go on date with a xalimo multiple times it would suggest you two are courting.PERIOD.The fact that she's not serious about the marriage discussions shows to you she's not ready or she's using you. The next time you're courting someone, perhaps you should brush up on your seduction/dating/communication skills to get a girl to be more interested in you. There are many youtube videos and Reddit posts if you wanna improve. Lastly, people have said that the girl maybe shy but I don't think that's true. She openly hugged and held hands with you in public right? No shy xalimo that I know would do this :shookgabre:
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Hugged and held hands. What is this world coming to? :ohdamn: Shot gun wedding time.

Courtship is supposed to be sheeko, no digit action, zero embraces no bases.
 
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Muji

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Inquisitive_ said:
Sxb your behaving the same way that women do, serious discussions, pouring out your emotions and feelings are things that women do, these are feminine characteristics.

Masculine characteristics are to dominate, lead and decimate your opponents never showing any emotions or fear, while always being outcome independent in all situations especially when it comes to women.

This is how you incorporate these characteristics to your current situation, always remember less is more.

You: Let me know which weekend your parents are free to meet (a direct order, say nothing more after this)

Her: *blah, blah, useless emotional rant to get you to acquiesce and break your frame" (done subconsciously by women to test you)

You: (totally ignoring everything she said) " I need to go, dad is calling me, bye" (hang up)


That's it, you totally ignore every other message, snapchat or anything else she says other then "my parents are free on this particular weekend".

This is how you order and lead by action, if she's into you, she will follow you until the end of the world, if she isn't (which is likely the case because of how you behaved)

She will grow a lot of respect for you which she currently doesn't have and rightly so. You will not sit around waiting for an answer (outcome independent)

You continue meeting more women in a halal manner not repeating these same mistakes that we all have been brainwashed with through films/movies etc.
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Lol if someone tried to strong arm me into mariage
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World

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Generalissimo said:
Yes that sounds reasonable sxb, the red flag as I’ve mentioned before is that she doesn’t initiate any contact with me and takes hours for her to answer when I write or send a snap to her but she is still active and online on the social media apps.

I’m gonna have a serious discussion with her and be upfront with how I perceive the situation and that it’s better to not waste Each other’s time if we don’t feel each other that strongly
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There is no need to have a serious discussion with her AGAIN. She doesn’t text you for hours on end, you should have gotten the memo after a few days texting. You probably text her straight away as well right? Dude, just end it with her. Don’t even tell her you’re ending it. Just stop talking to her and keep conversations between one another in real life short and fast. Don’t initiate any conversations with her on SC. She will eventually ask you about your relationship with her and that’s when you should tell her that you’ve moved on and that you’re no longer interested.
 
The Cushitic One

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Abdalla said:
How's your dad doing? Say hi to him for me.

Bro let's say she likes you, what will that change? Because chances are that she does like you to an extent, or else she wouldn't go on 5 hour dates with you. Her like or dislike isn't the problem. Look beyond that. She doesn't show affection, she probably plays mind games, and she's way too passive. She doesn't return the attention, the love and affection. Liking someone and being good partner are two different things.
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:drakelaugh:Haaaye
 
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