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Can Guys and Girls be just friends?

Sophisticate

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If a guy has very close friend he will refer him to a good girl that he knows and has no feelings for.
This is ok.

But a guy will never ever refer his friend to a girl that he couldn’t crack. That is insulting to the male ego
Hypothetically, what if the guy doesn't stand a chance? And his friend is the better match. Or is that too much for the male ego to handle? :icon lol:
 

Desert Flower

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Hypothetically, what if the guy doesn't stand a chance? And his friend is the better match. Or is that too much for the male ego to handle? :icon lol:
Its too much for the ego. Even if he doesn’t stand a chance, he will never introduce you to another man. Most single guys won’t even mention another single guy in your presence, because they fear you asking too many questions and you may become interested in him (could be or not). This is with Somali guys I’ve seen.
 

Sophisticate

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Its too much for the ego. Even if he doesn’t stand a chance, he will never introduce you to another man. Most single guys won’t even mention another single guy in your presence, because they fear you asking too many questions and you may become interested in him (could be or not). This is with Somali guys I’ve seen.
Sis, you have so much insight. I'm learning a lot. TBH, my friend told me about this phenomenon. There was a guy she knew for years and not once did he ever introduce his more eligible friends. Instead he would give her the runaround.
 

BoqorkaChess

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Hypothetically, what if the guy doesn't stand a chance? And his friend is the better match. Or is that too much for the male ego to handle? :icon lol:
It is way too much. You’re admitting defeat, and setting yourself up for more comparison of your “better looking friend”. Eventually all you’ll do is look up to him and ruin your self-esteem. This is exactly what women do, sometimes having an ego that you protect is better than a crippled self-esteem.
 

Sophisticate

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It is way too much. You’re admitting defeat, and setting yourself up for more comparison of your “better looking friend”. Eventually all you’ll do is look up to him and ruin your self-esteem. This is exactly what women do, sometimes having an ego that you protect is better than a crippled self-esteem.
Why does it have to be an appraisal thing? The guy the girl knows might be good looking with something going for himself but he might have a totally different lease on life. Hence, why he's not in the running. While his friend could be more compatible. It's just a thought.
 

BoqorkaChess

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Why does it have to be an appraisal thing? The guy the girl knows might be good looking with something going for himself but he might have a totally different lease on life. Hence, why he's not in the running. While his friend could be more compatible. It's just a thought.
Not a thought that comes to mind when you have any semblance of self-worth. No one thinks “oh I’m not good enough for her, I know someone that’s more worthy of him. I’ll try and match them up!”
 

Sophisticate

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Not a thought that comes to mind when you have any semblance of self-worth. No one thinks “oh I’m not good enough for her, I know someone that’s more worthy of him. I’ll try and match them up!”
That sounds very ego encapsulated. Why does an introduction mean trampling over one's sense of self-respect? It doesn't have to be that deep. The girl might not be a match for the guy. It doesn't make him less worthy just different. :bell:
 

Desert Flower

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Sis, you have so much insight. I'm learning a lot. TBH, my friend told me about this phenomenon. There was a guy she knew for years and not once did he ever introduce his more eligible friends. Instead he would give her the runaround.
Absolutely. It’s because he wants you for himself. Even if you never gave him signs that you’re interested, he still might think there’s a chance between you two.
 

BoqorkaChess

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Absolutely. It’s because he wants you for himself. Even if you never gave him signs that you’re interested, he still might think there’s a chance between you two.
Exactly. If a guy’s a “close friend” with you, then most likely he would rather be more than just friends. Especially if you’re pretty.

If you’re ugly then you he just wants to stay as friends
 

Jimmer

Negro Nunca Papi X Hooyo Matalo
No, you can be friendly acquaintances but anything more than that means dude wants to smash.
 

Lostbox

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Exactly. If a guy’s a “close friend” with you, then most likely he would rather be more than just friends. Especially if you’re pretty.

If you’re ugly then you he just wants to stay as friends
Na, I can separate women from women who I'm attracted to. I find it easy to make those conscious decisions. Plus, attraction fades
 
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