Being submissive to your husband.

[Inquisitive_]

It's amazing that we have xalimos in this century who can't understand the basic concept of men authority in a family. Like my old boss used to say 'everyone got an opinion but at the end of the day i have got to make a decision'

I agree with you.

The fundamental point of contention I have with most deluded male's in the west is the concept of authority itself.

I don't believe the Somali male who is planning to marry today in the west or is already married has any authority whatsoever over his marriage or household without the mercy and blessings of his wife.

A terrible risky position to be in because everything could change for you at any moment in time on a mere whim and she has absolutely nothing to lose by pulling that trigger.

This is not the case back home, the consequences for walking out are dire and thus she is incentivized to work things out with you and not run from the problem as they do in the west leaving behind a trail of destruction in the process.

 

[angelplan]

Pardon?



Who said anything about 'do'?

You have to do seven years of hard labour in a Laogai to be granted permission.

 

[Figo]

Xaaskaga hadey ku ixtiraamto why do some of y’all ladies think it’s her being submissive?

 

[Waaqo of Punt]

Neither of them is black and she says "nigga" like 30 times.

 

[PhySom]

I often find that men who look weak and frail always want a submissive wife/spouse. It arises from an internal narcissistic insecurity.

A balance of agreeableness and combativeness is the best for a long term healthy relationship.

Submissiveness just leads to boredom and eventual cheating .

 

[Sophisticate]

Being submissive is a feminine trait. Being dominant is a masculine trait. It's very simple because masculine energy is about governing the relationship and feminine energy is only submissive in the presence of masculine strength, not weakness.

By submissive woman, I am referring to the more traditional type of woman. She might have a job and even do financially well, but she prioritizes her family and her relationships. In the relationship she tends to defer more to her man, be less opinionated and, overall, be more submissive.

Healthy submissive relationships are conscious and consensual. In other words, one party has agreed to hold more power of one kind or another. The other party has agreed to submit which is Islamically encouraged.

Thank you, huuno for your well-crafted response.

But this submissiveness sounds like hard work. Tis' easier being a sovereign lady. And relinquishing freedoms toward the end of the reproductive life cycle.

 

[Sophisticate]

7 years of internment would be lovely. I'm the most merciful of prison guards.

No verbal, physical or psychological abuse.

 

[Saadambe]

Be exploratory in the reading materials you digest and willing to put on different thinking caps. Also, if there is a word or phrase that you see artfully written by an author, take note of it. We learn from observing the masters and then adopting elements of their wordplay that speak to us.

That's all the advice I have.

Interesting advice. I remember pondering on the following sentence in a book once:

But this clarity was deceptive, lending treacherous verisimilitude to what was largely a fabular whole, for in other places the story was worn nearly transparent, radiant but somehow featureless, as the lives of saints sometimes are.

As far as I'm aware, this is the only place where the phrase "treacherous verisimilitude" was ever used.

Digging up this quote I've now learned the author actually went on to win a Pulitzer for another novel...

 

[Halimo-2018]

Every elder whether they're women or men always tell newlyweds that the wife should be submissive. For what? Why does she have to be submissive for their husbands? Why can't he treat her like a Queen, his Queen. Imagine being submissive to men like @R.Kelly @Ferrari or @Abdalla they will totally walk all over you, and eventually break your spirits and make you go mental because that's how men are.


@Knowles how should we change this mindset that our elders have?

We should only submit to God. No man or woman deserves that. If by submission you mean respect that should go both ways.

 

[Factz]

Thank you, huuno for your well-crafted response.

But this submissiveness sounds like hard work. Tis' easier being a sovereign lady. And relinquishing freedoms toward the end of the reproductive life cycle.

Being submissive to your husband doesn't mean you can't be yourself or have any freedom. It just means you trust and accept him as your leader, protector and provider. You're making him feel manly by obeying him and treating him like a king. What's wrong with that?

There is a lot of misconception about submissive women. Truly submissive women are strong women, not weak women. The so called "independent" ones are actually the weak ones because they are insecure since feminism brainwashed them.

 

[Saadambe]

So this thread is about dish-washing duties. Disappointing after a promising title.

 

[AussieHustler]

So this thread is about dish-washing duties. Disappointing after a promising title.

@Saadambe

Nope, this thread is about “submissive wives with patriarchal husbands Vs. equitable married couples”. Awoowe Guuleed’s generation Vs Millennials and Gen Z.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

You can be feminine and still don't have to be submissive. Kulaha you've to be submissive inorder to come off as a feminine. Stop lying to yourselves.

 

[Hybrid()]

xalimos in Somalia are fulltime housewives. they cook and clean but they're far from being feminine or submissive. xabesha women are feminine as they are very quiet and respectful

 

[HalimaJ]

xalimos in Somalia are fulltime housewives. they cook and clean but they're far from being feminine or submissive. xabesha women are feminine as they are very quiet and respectful

Western raised Faraaxs are delusional. They think women back home are meek. Far from it.

 

[Hybrid()]

Western raised Faraaxs are delusional. They think women back home are meek. Far from it.

I manage a grocery store in Hargeisa once in a while. female customers talk just like a men

 

[RICH]

I don’t think that there nothing wrong with being submissive to your husband. If he is a god fearing person, he wouldn’t abuse his role as a leader of the family. Your husband will cater to you if you show him the respect. The man may be the head of the household, but the woman is the neck

 

[Abdisamad]

Damn crazy .. She needs to get body slammed.

 

[Saadambe]

@Saadambe

Nope, this thread is about “submissive wives with patriarchal husbands Vs. equitable married couples”. Awoowe Guuleed’s generation Vs Millennials and Gen Z.

I see. You see the first thing that comes to my mind when I hear the word 'submissive' is kinky stuff. I want to add my two cents, though. Firstly, to me the idea of a wife submissive by nature or duty is very boring. You may as well buy a doll or something. Secondly, equitable married couple sounds equally boring. There's no... spice. You see I come from a long line of geeljires that spent the day hobbling, whacking, and yanking the ropes while the camel splutters and drools. So while being mindful of individual rights, equality and all the rest of it, I'd still like to feed these tribal, ancient urges in doses, within reason of course - while using the word asparagus as a codeword, perhaps.

 

[Hybrid()]

I don’t think that there nothing wrong with being submissive to your husband. If he is a god fearing person, he wouldn’t abuse his role as a leader of the family. Your husband will cater to you if you show him the respect. The man may be the head of the household, but the woman is the neck

Welcome back Hodan. we havent spoke in ages. what you being up to ?
any plan on visiting borama this summer ?