Being submissive to your husband.

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  1. Qoordeer

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    It'd be funny if they did.
     
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  2. Qoordeer

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    I'm tired now.I'm leaving sspot for some days now,so if any of u answer back make sure your the type that has patience.
     
  3. Dr.Xayawaan

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  4. Nostalgia

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    I don't like the word submissive it makes it seem like the wife is a slave or something. Obviously the husband expects the wife to cook, clean, take care of the kids make him shaah and massage sometimes. But he should also do the same for his lady. I believe in equality but these xalimos now a days dont work and sit home all day and they expect their working husbamd to come home to cook for them. No wonder many are getting divorced.
     
  5. Abdisamad3

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    Knowles doesn't care.. She's currently planning to become a side piece for her Chinese professor :mjlaugh:
     
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  6. AussieHustler

    AussieHustler Incels need help not derision Staff Member Moderator

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    @VixR

    If only seeing you is in exchange for a dinner date, what are the rates for the other stuff? Interesting.

    Jokes aside, I only date girls that I met in previous social settings and dinner dates only follow when I know her well and gathered enough information on the particular chick and thought that she is worth the call. Since we know one another, most of these girls refuse me to pay alone and insist in dividing the bill. Maybe it’s the Aussie way and you Yankees are different. My policy is never to date an unemployed or a student chick, otherwise, they might call me daddy and expect me to pay for everything.
     
  7. Knowles

    Knowles Staff Member Moderator

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    The elders will die soon and you just have to ignore them for the time being
     
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  8. Factz

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    Being submissive and obeying his desires is a way to treat your man as a king and shows your high level of femininity. This way he can treat you like a queen. A relationship is like I scratch your back and you scratch mine. If one fails to do so by saying "I won't be submissive" then he won't treat you like a queen, because you're not treating him like a king by being submissive.

    A man doesn't want a woman to be arrogant, rebelling, disrespectful and argumentative. They want an acquiescent wife. Hence Islam made the husband the protector and maintainer of the wife and gave him the responsibility of heading the household as the leader.

    A lot of girls say they want alpha males but they don't realize alpha males dominate you in a relationship. They act like a leader and expect you to be obedient and submissive.
     
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  9. sophisticate

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    Waryaa, my suggestion to you is to focus on the underage. :ftw9nwa: Why don't you try that on the little ones your age. Dominance, kulaha.
     
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  10. Inquisitive_

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    I see the need as to why these words have to be uttered in the diaspora but back home it's all subconscious

    The male that can exercise power and authority in his household will find his wife to be submissive to him naturally even those he mistreats, she is biologically predisposed to this.

    The problem in the west is that not only has this authority been stripped away from the male, but they also have everything to lose while she has none.

    She is rewarded with social housing, welfare, half his assets and alimony, which is why "submissiveness" is verbalised today.

    This is why I argue against marriage in such societies unless you have very strong robust communities to counteract these negatives which as Somali's we don't have.

    A lot of male's are fooled during the relationship/courting stages prior to marriage were they do hold authority and power (to walk away) and as a result they are shown signs of "submissiveness" which they falsely believe carries over into marriage. (never does)

    If you do not understand the psychology of power/authority and how this governs human behaviour, relationships etc. you will forever be lost and always wallowing in lose/lose propositions.

    On the flip side if your a person that has no regard for the hereafter and no fear of Allah, this is the best time to be alive as a degenerate, because much of the females here are public property and cheap, you can just hop from one to the other with relative ease.
     
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  11. sophisticate

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    It's slightly less creepy but still creepy. It's sounds like baby talk.:damn:
     
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  12. sophisticate

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    Why is submissiveness a paragon of feminity? :yacadiim: What you described is more so mutualistic, rather than the bondage stuff that comes to mind from its word usage.
     
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    I would value a women who respects me more then a yes person
     
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  14. Doctor farxaan

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    I swear these chicks are hypocritical. follow the deen when it suits u, collecting that meher money etc but when the deen says that u should obey your husband, they all disagree smh
     
  15. Doctor farxaan

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    When a man and a woman come together in marriage and live together, there are bound to be differences in opinion between them, and one party must have the final say in order to resolve the issue, otherwise the differences will multiply and disputes will increase. So there has to be someone in charge, otherwise the marriage will founder.

    Hence Islam made the husband the protector and maintainer of the wife and gave him the responsibility of heading the household, because he is more perfect in rational thinking than her in most cases. This means that it is obligatory for her to obey him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” [al-Nisaa’ 4:34]

    https://www.google.dk/amp/s/islamqa.info/amp/en/answers/13661
     
  16. VixR

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    There are no “rates”.

    I go with the flow. I don’t insist on paying half or offer to pay, unless he asks or I sense the bill amount is eating at him, but all that tells me is that he asked for a date and came unprepared. If I’m not worth the dinner, how was I worth the call? If I payed half, we’re friends who went out to eat.

    I’m not working currently bc I sustained a hand injury, and I am a student, but one who when I got into an minor accident had enough to not work for 6 months if I wanted to, and still be able to pay my school and other bills. At one point I was working two jobs and going to school full time when all I have to take care of is myself. I already have a daddy who still spoils me. But as a potential, if I’m not worth it to him, I’m happy to remain platonic friends. Going Dutch is pretty common in the US, so it’s not just an Aussie thing.
     
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  17. Reiko

    Reiko Queen of Bari Staff Member Moderator

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    The biggest hypocrite on somalispot. All you do is spew hatred in every thread. I’ve never seen you contribute anything value to this forum. You hide behind religion when you don’t even practice religion in the first place. You hate Somali women too much, is it because your mom refuses to breastfeed you? Is that why you’re always bringing a dark cloud in every thread you reply to? You’re the number one degenerate. Allah swt hates hypocrites. I will pray for you because I know hurt people hurt others. You’re beyond hurt.

    FOH with your pseudo-psychology analysis.
     
  18. Factz

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    Being submissive is a feminine trait. Being dominant is a masculine trait. It's very simple because masculine energy is about governing the relationship and feminine energy is only submissive in the presence of masculine strength, not weakness.

    By submissive woman, I am referring to the more traditional type of woman. She might have a job and even do financially well, but she prioritizes her family and her relationships. In the relationship she tends to defer more to her man, be less opinionated and, overall, be more submissive.

    Healthy submissive relationships are conscious and consensual. In other words, one party has agreed to hold more power of one kind or another. The other party has agreed to submit which is Islamically encouraged.
     
  19. saredochani10

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    Marriage is more than that. Maybe your kind gets married just to dominate but mariage is about companionship something that islam has explained. Somali couples in the west are actually very happy. Degenerate people that you see on youtube or twitter represent a few compared to the normal and decent somalis out there working hard while keeping their religion . It Must hurt to be negative 24/7. Drink some tea.
     
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  20. Farhiya 687

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    No one should be forced to be submissive. Many guys will treat you like an equal.
    It’s about finding those you click with.
     
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