My immediate thought after watching this is, why not both?
see If you have a best friend that you get along with, who shares the same values and world views and economical dreams, why don't you come together under marriage? you don't necessarily have sex or intimate feelings. Just be partners that support each other emotionally and economically- marriage is a contract that you promise to keep since it's based on this thought out, stable reasoning and not fleeting emotions, it doesn't get broken if someone loses feelings, a dead bedroom or a fling.... think about it- friends and acquaintances often last longer because the personality traits you like about them don't change. You simply have a good time, you can fight and disagree with your friends but don't need to check in to see if you like them any less after. You don't have feelings for these people, you're their friend because you have a good time. If you're laughing together next week it's okay since this little vault of emotions isn't being affected.
if you are in love, however, fighting too much means that you eventually break up. It doesn't matter if you're okay a week later. Each little argument tears at the romance between you till its completely torn and you leave since that's the only reason you were married. compatibility and love are not the same, love is emotions, therefore love is inherently unstable since emotions are as well.
idk
on the other side, you're free to get a significant other that you love, the one you actually have feelings for. The idea of a relationship can change. We don't have to keep dating if we don't feel happy RIGHT NOW. our feelings are in the center. we're not extrapolating and thinking about whether or not this is someone we could marry, someone that can provide for us financially, can cook for us don't need to pick and choose a partner based on rationality: that person support blanks and is blank so i shouldn't go for them since its more likely that we will break up. This doesn't matter, you just want passion and love in its purest form - the moment it's gone you leave. You don't keep wasting your time on couple therapy because "we've known each other for so long :/ let's keep it going". The only relationships based purely on love are the ones where both partner's feelings always are there, not almost gone or pending. Most marriages aren't like this since people fall in and out of it but force it for commitment's sake, no one experiences the honeymoon twice lol. Casual relationships are purer.
this video just made me curious, what do you guys think?? I am just rambling so I bet a lot of this isn't logically consistent.
i mean our parents are definitely right about some things
i am not muslim so i'll be having a lot of short but good-times (WINK WINK) either way
but maybe arranged marriage wasn't that bad?? idk
