Samaalic Era
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Its not torture sxb. My grandchildren will grow up in stable and wealthy environment with two parents. There deen and akhlaq will be on point
Arranged marriage is good, so are casual relationships.
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Samaalic Era
QurboExit
My children will not be raised in the west. I know what awaits those who raise children in the shithole of Europe
Somalia or another developed Muslim country like Turkey or Malaysia, never the west tho
Idk even somalia is gonna be more liberal, definitely turkey or malaysia. Internet culture spreads and is changing cultures. The world is only gettin more globalized baby.My children will not be raised in the west. I know what awaits those who raise children in the shithole of Europe
Somalia or another developed Muslim country like Turkey or Malaysia, never the west tho
Samaalic Era
QurboExit
The difference is you can homeschool and then marry them off while in the west, you have to put your children in an indoctrination site aka school who turn them against you. Even in the US, you can homeschool but Europe is more secular and atheistic.
Also in Somalia, that process is only in major cities. The rural areas and small towns are disconnected from the world and they cant even use modern tech properly in rural areas but not the same for the small towns
Do you ever feel like you're robbing them off opportunities? and it kinda sucks that your trying so hard to think for people who aren't born yet. If Islam is right for them they'll find it and stick to it. I am not against raising your kid with religion but its gross that you're so blatantly for indoctrination yourself. At least western schools show different belief systems and religions, you want total control forever. DONT SEE, TASTE OR HEAR. Marrying them to your own nephew and all hahaha
so many people try to run from Somalia each year and honestly if you ask me, i think climate change is gonna hit bad over there.
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Samaalic Era
QurboExit
Children are meant to carry on the legacy of their forefathers. My children are my investment and they will live a good life under Islam
You can stick to Liberalism which produces the most suicidal amount of people in earth
I'll be the master of arranged marriages. All my children will be married by 15 and to either the children of my brothers or the children of my cousins. Only elite families practise arranged marriages
Please don't do this. Think about the future genes of your family. You need fresh blood.
Okie DokeyChildren are meant to carry on the legacy of their forefathers. My children are my investment and they will live a good life under Islam
You can stick to Liberalism which produces the most suicidal amount of people in earth
I don’t understand your post, why would you marry your best friend if you are not attracted to them? Why can’t you support and love each other as friends?
Arranged marriage works, I have seen it but you have to do it in a way that actually works in today’s society, give the people the option to get to know each other before pressuring them for an answer sometimes our friends and family knows us better than we know ourselves.
Arranged marriage works, I have seen it but you have to do it in a way that actually works in today’s society, give the people the option to get to know each other before pressuring them for an answer sometimes our friends and family knows us better than we know ourselves.
Samaalic Era
QurboExit
It will be in 1 generation so no harm. Im not married to my first cousin sadly
i was imagining it be like the relationships our parents and grandparents had and not an actual 2k19 friendship. You're kinda forced to stay together by your elders, but lowkey know its better for you: kids, money, a good home and stability. This time cold hard logic is the driving force. I think that feelings and love can ruin a relationship, other things can too but its not good to base anything on this if the goal is commitment.
You already know each other well and aren't brought together by family.
i know everything doesn't make sense i was just bored and liked the video
It will be in 1 generation so no harm. Im not married to my first cousin sadly
Since you will try and implement it, after a while it will be a family tradition like the Pakistanis and Khaleejis. Next thing you know you have high rates of diseases and disabilities. Its a huge problem in the gulf. Never knew how much of an issue it is until i saw it with my own eyes. I even said Alhamdulliah we don't have a long standing tradition of that nature as Somalis.
Ina abti, why don't you introduce your kids to children of good friends who are distant from you. Fresh genes ect, mix it up a bit.
One main reason why I dislike cousin marriages is that often friction can happen within marriages and its a bit awks if your own nephew is mistreating your daughter. It severs family ties at times. You might want to start arguing/fighting your own brother/cousin.
This is something you cannot predict.
Also, what if your kids are not attracted to their cousins?? What if they are repulsed??
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What’s up with your obsession with cousin marriages? Are your cousins that hotIt will be in 1 generation so no harm. Im not married to my first cousin sadly
Wlhi I am starting to think that you’re pakistani
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Samaalic Era
QurboExit
I cant force my children to marry someone who they find ugly but I will introduce other relatives till there is one they like. Also introducing them to children of friends is good idea but it is better when their some sort of blood ties as they are harder to break
Samaalic Era
QurboExit
Cousin marriages are more blessed and smarter. All wealthy families marry within to keep the wealth between them and it strengths the family bond and influence
That is precisely why I would avoid family as ties of kinship is haraam to break.
Think about it, what if you were to find out your own nephew was abusing your daughter? How would you feel about his father/mother who could be your bro/sis or cousin? Some people have a bad habit of defending their kids even when they know their kid is a rotten apple.
You're completely free to have your preferences walaal, i just want you to think about all sides.
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Cousin marriages are more blessed and smarter. All wealthy families marry within to keep the wealth between them and it strengths the family bond and influence
Aqqqhhhh tuff
Adam Salah is not someone to take knowlegde from
My immediate thought after watching this is, why not both?
see If you have a best friend that you get along with, who shares the same values and world views and economical dreams, why don't you come together under marriage? you don't necessarily have sex or intimate feelings. Just be partners that support each other emotionally and economically- marriage is a contract that you promise to keep since it's based on this thought out, stable reasoning and not fleeting emotions, it doesn't get broken if someone loses feelings, a dead bedroom or a fling.... think about it- friends and acquaintances often last longer because the personality traits you like about them don't change. You simply have a good time, you can fight and disagree with your friends but don't need to check in to see if you like them any less after. You don't have feelings for these people, you're their friend because you have a good time. If you're laughing together next week it's okay since this little vault of emotions isn't being affected.
if you are in love, however, fighting too much means that you eventually break up. It doesn't matter if you're okay a week later. Each little argument tears at the romance between you till its completely torn and you leave since that's the only reason you were married. compatibility and love are not the same, love is emotions, therefore love is inherently unstable since emotions are as well.
idk
on the other side, you're free to get a significant other that you love, the one you actually have feelings for. The idea of a relationship can change. We don't have to keep dating if we don't feel happy RIGHT NOW. our feelings are in the center. we're not extrapolating and thinking about whether or not this is someone we could marry, someone that can provide for us financially, can cook for us don't need to pick and choose a partner based on rationality: that person support blanks and is blank so i shouldn't go for them since its more likely that we will break up. This doesn't matter, you just want passion and love in its purest form - the moment it's gone you leave. You don't keep wasting your time on couple therapy because "we've known each other for so long :/ let's keep it going". The only relationships based purely on love are the ones where both partner's feelings always are there, not almost gone or pending. Most marriages aren't like this since people fall in and out of it but force it for commitment's sake, no one experiences the honeymoon twice lol. Casual relationships are purer.
this video just made me curious, what do you guys think?? I am just rambling so I bet a lot of this isn't logically consistent.
i mean our parents are definitely right about some things
i am not muslim so i'll be having a lot of short but good-times (WINK WINK) either way
but maybe arranged marriage wasn't that bad?? idk
