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You finish university at 21. So someone who is 23 and normal already has two years of work experience. What are they waiting for? They should have married after graduating, not years after. Unless of course they care more about work than marriage. And they’re fulfilling their desires in a haram way. No guy would be interested in a woman like that.

You have a very simplistic outlook towards life which tells me you are pretty young.

The process of finding a decent husband, that you have a lot in common with can be a long one. Same applies for a man. Many women are not encouraged to look for the one whilst studying, so is he just going to pop out of nowhere?

Also, more importantly you have to take into account calaf. When we will marry is written for us. You can search night and day hoping to get married at a certain age. However, if it is written that you will marry later then nothing you can do will change that.

I know a few girls that got married later. No, they were not fornicating authobillah and it wasn't a case of them not wanting to. It was a case of not finding a suitable mate and meeting someone special unexpectedly later. I've noticed in life you tend to meet great people when you least expect it.
 
I thought you were being insulting with your assessment of Somali women having masculine personalities. I mean as a woman having masculine qualities isn't exactly flattering.

Also, never new the Samaroon have arab blood? They are Dir right? Pure original Somalis.

I like to express my opinions because Allah has given me brain and a tongue, I wouldn't allow a man/woman to walk all over me or disrespect me. However, i do not regard that as a masculine temperament. It is merely having dignity and a backbone. All humans male or female should have respect for themselves.


The word as a social construct is distinct from the male biological sex, but I see why you took such a view.

A lot of Wooqoyi is mixed with Arab blood and influence and there is no such thing as "pure Somali"

Every Samaroon women I have met over the years were distinctly different from the rest of the Somali women.

They don't have that fire in their bellies which is common with the rest, in fact they were all very soft and feminine in character obsessed with academia.

You just have to look at the way @sophisticate writes to see this, when you were ready to crucify me over a misunderstanding, she was pouring water over both.
 
The word as a social construct is distinct from the male biological sex, but I see why you took such a view.

A lot of Wooqoyi is mixed with Arab blood and influence and there is no such thing as "pure Somali"

Every Samaroon women I have met over the years were distinctly different from the rest of the Somali women.

They don't have that fire in their bellies which is common with the rest, in fact they were all very soft and feminine in character obsessed with academia.

You just have to look at the way @sophisticate writes to see this, when you were ready to crucify me over a misunderstanding, she was pouring water over both.

Yeah i would not get along with a controlling Arab or any controlling man for that matter.

I believe in gender roles and the idea that the man is the head of the household. However, as the head he needs to have enough common sense and trust that I can do things without him feeling the need to order me about. I find the idea of a man infantalizing a grown woman to be disrespectful, nor is it in accordance to the marriages I have seen around me.
 

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Obsession with academia or some form of higher learning. :samwelcome:


Samaroon women aren't part Arab, as far as I'm aware. :siilaanyolaugh: I've heard stereotypes where people say they make good wives and are quite even-tempered. Not sure if it's true but I suppose there is truth in numbers as people keep saying it.

I think it's because I'm a bit older and time has a tendency to make you more mellow and I am somewhat agreeable. :farmajoyaab: I've been on Somali Spot for some time, which has allowed me to interface with various members and form personality profiles. I try not to take anything too seriously on here. And I suppose that style works well for me.
 
:gucciwhat:

I am torn but I went out with him on couple dates. :what1:

I've been avoiding him but we went on dates twice already.:ummhmm:

this is not for gender karbaash:ulyin:

typical naag. waa iska caruur raad wayn.:mjkkk:


If you are serious, wanting to marry somali is not a good reason to call of everything.

this argagixiso yemeni could be better for u than any faarax ever could. think about it.
 
@Inquisitive_

Obsession with academia or some form of higher learning. :samwelcome:


Samaroon women aren't part Arab, as far as I'm aware. :siilaanyolaugh: I've heard stereotypes where people say they make good wives and are quite even-tempered. Not sure if it's true but I suppose there is truth in numbers as people keep saying it.

I think it's because I'm a bit older and time has a tendency to make you more mellow and I am somewhat agreeable. :farmajoyaab: I've been on Somali Spot for some time, which has allowed me to interface with various members and form personality profiles. I try not to take anything too seriously on here. And I suppose that style works well for me.

Has very little to do with age, it's a common shared trait that differs from other Somali women, the most well rounded Somali women I met in Europe were mostly Samaroon.

But the problem with them is the same problems that generally plague most Wooqoyi women in general in comparison to other Somali's; extreme levels of materialism, high maintenance and poignant jealousy.

The materialistic aspect is one I revile the most as a minimalist, but I understand it's a give or take and a case of pick your poison depending where you are in this world.

If I was forced to get married in matriarchal Europe, no doubt they are by far the best Somali women unlike my Southern Xaalimo's who are quick to crucify you, challenge your authority until you become toothless, then subsequently throw you out.

Such women are only good when you marry them back home or in a patriarchal land were they are dissuaded from these kinds of things and you can stomp your authority on them when they transgress.

The stereotypes have always been that Wooqoyi women are far greater with their husbands in comparison to Southern Xaalimo's who tend to neglect them after the honeymoon phase.

But the Southerner Xaalimo resoundingly beats the Wooqoyi women when it comes to child-rearing and raising strong children with high self-esteem.

Everything has an up/down side, this high-self esteem we instil in our daughters is what unfortunately causes most of them to not look after themselves in terms of beauty, appearance and looks or even take it serious.

While the much less-secure Wooqoyi chick is obsessed about beauty, looks and appearance and they tend to take these aspects seriously, hence why Wooqoyi women in general look much better for these reasons.

I like to view people from a cultural and group psychology level going as far back as possible, of course there are always exceptions to the norm especially with those who are mixed, and also some regions are more extreme then others. (mudug being the worst)

But again stereotypes like these don't materialise out of thin air, they are grounded in countless experiences of many and as a result are based upon realities.
 
Has very little to do with age, it's a common shared trait that differs from other Somali women, the most well rounded Somali women I met in Europe were mostly Samaroon.

But the problem with them is the same problems that generally plague most Wooqoyi women in general in comparison to other Somali's; extreme levels of materialism, high maintenance and poignant jealousy.

The materialistic aspect is one I revile the most as a minimalist, but I understand it's a give or take and a case of pick your poison depending where you are in this world.

If I was forced to get married in matriarchal Europe, no doubt they are by far the best Somali women unlike my Southern Xaalimo's who are quick to crucify you, challenge your authority until you become toothless, then subsequently throw you out.

Such women are only good when you marry them back home or in a patriarchal land were they are dissuaded from these kinds of things and you can stomp your authority on them when they transgress.

The stereotypes have always been that Wooqoyi women are far greater with their husbands in comparison to Southern Xaalimo's who tend to neglect them after the honeymoon phase.

But the Southerner Xaalimo resoundingly beats the Wooqoyi women when it comes to child-rearing and raising strong children with high self-esteem.

Everything has an up/down side, this high-self esteem we instil in our daughters is what unfortunately causes most of them to not look after themselves in terms of beauty, appearance and looks or even take it serious.

While the much less-secure Wooqoyi chick is obsessed about beauty, looks and appearance and they tend to take these aspects seriously, hence why Wooqoyi women in general look much better for these reasons.

I like to view people from a cultural and group psychology level going as far back as possible, of course there are always exceptions to the norm especially with those who are mixed, and also some regions are more extreme then others. (mudug being the worst)

But again stereotypes like these don't materialise out of thin air, they are grounded in countless experiences of many and as a result are based upon realities.
Interesting. But mudug people look the best imo
 
Interesting. But mudug people look the best imo

Much of "looks" is in your own hands, and depends on how well you take care of yourself in all aspects of beauty.

The fundamental problem with women from mudug is that they are the most fierce and hot-headed out of all Somali women, they also come with the highest self-esteem out of the whole group.

This is both a blessing and a curse, women with very high self-esteems often neglect themselves in terms of beauty, appearance, dress, style etc. because they are already very content about their appearance.

Unlike the less secure women who struggles and strives and goes above and beyond with her appearance, beauty, looks, style, spending far more time on these aspects.

This has become a great disaster in the diaspora due to the terrible food choices and sedentary life-style, as result the gap in terms of beauty has become very great, but only as a result of this neglect.

It's very rare for me to come across a Mudug female in the diaspora that hasn't neglected herself in terms of appearance.
 
Much of "looks" is in your own hands, and depends on how well you take care of yourself in all aspects of beauty.

The fundamental problem with women from mudug is that they are the most fierce and hot-headed out of all Somali women, they also come with the highest self-esteem out of the whole group.

This is both a blessing and a curse, women with very high self-esteems often neglect themselves in terms of beauty, appearance, dress, style etc. because they are already very content about their appearance.

Unlike the less secure women who struggles and strives and goes above and beyond with her appearance, beauty, looks, style, spending far more time on these aspects.

This has become a great disaster in the diaspora due to the terrible food choices and sedentary life-style, as result the gap in terms of beauty has become very great, but only as a result of this neglect.

It's very rare for me to come across a Mudug female in the diaspora that hasn't neglected herself in terms of appearance.

I have very high self esteem, yet i'm obsessed with looking good
 

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Suprise suprise HalimaJamaica is dating an ajnabi. Ive accussed you of being with a foreigner when you joined the site. I can smell your kind miles away.

Kulaha I am torn by this. She knows we will find the wedding pics and 20+ pages of insults will pour in.
 

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Hypothetically if I was to marry him, why would I expect random people to call my kids 'abti'. He or she's real abtis will call them that and acknowledge them.

He or shes real abti? You've been hanging out with too many Jamaicans instead of learning possessive pronouns
 
Suprise suprise HalimaJamaica is dating an ajnabi. Ive accussed you of being with a foreigner when you joined the site. I can smell your kind miles away.

Kulaha I am torn by this. She knows we will find the wedding pics and 20+ pages of insults will pour in.

He isn't Jamaican though? You predicted that I would be with a hardened criminal revert, who possibly has multiple yardie baby mothers, hiden away in the mean streets of Brixton.

But alas, this young man is a successful professional with good manners to boot. Do not worry Abdulla for if I do marry this biracial Yemeni, rest be assured that I will not disgrace our race by accepting anything less than 10k for a Mehr.

Why would anyone insult me? How can anyone accuse me of being cheap and clean? For I might have ventured and married into a different ethnicity, but this man is a catch in every way and as a woman prone to hypergamy this is hard to resist. Hence, this is the reason for why I feel torn.
 
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