Ethnicity vs Compatibility when having kids

Mozart

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Somali people born in the west seem to have ideological differences. To me, the men are socially conservative whilst the women are socially liberal.

So, when having kids why do most people make a Somali partner their baseline requirement when in reality, you could be in a better situation with someone who you are more similar to.

I can imagine picking a partner based on such criteria and then later falling out on many decisions for your kids.
 
Yep, this absolutely true.

The only thing that is dividing Faraxs and Xalimos isn't ethnicity, but rather a difference in ideology.
 

Shogun

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For marriage purposes, I don't differentiate between Somalis and other ethnic groups anymore. I have realised that the local Muslim culture is the same across ethnicities and only varies slightly between those born and raised here. It is background noise.

I didn't understand at first either, but a lot of Somalis do not acknowledge the fundamental difference in ideology. Once that inevitably sets in, things will start to make more sense.

We are entering a pseudo post-ethnicity future. I'm noticing a lot of marriages between different Muslim communities. I can see that being an American Muslim will be a stronger identity than being a Somali-American, Pakistani-American or any other hyphenated people.
 

greyhound stone

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100% true western abdis and xalimos are not compatible. Were generally different in terms of view. This probably the main reason why abdi and xalimo exit is good. We don't have to fight when we could leave eachother alone.
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Somali people born in the west seem to have ideological differences. To me, the men are socially conservative whilst the women are socially liberal.

So, when having kids why do most people make a Somali partner their baseline requirement when in reality, you could be in a better situation with someone who you are more similar to.

I can imagine picking a partner based on such criteria and then later falling out on many decisions for your kids.
I’d agree but I think it’s flipped the guys are more liberal girls more conservative.
 

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Sxb , first and foremost I am politically a revolutionist , I put faith to the Somali People's Liberation Front , the voice of the peoples and we are growing in numbers.
The people advocate for the rights of the marginalised and voiceless communities , we are the voice for the voiceless , we believe sacrifices should be made in order to salvage whatever is left of Somalia.
Our core beliefs are to abolish qabyaalad , eradicate religious extremism , destroy whatever cancers that are festering inside the country like fanaticism, counter the activities of terrorism , disarm illegal firearms and disband millias , construct mass institution of detention facilities, rehabilitation centers , bringing resolution , banning people older than 50 years old interfering with local and political affairs, our goal is to prevent the activities of elders intervening in delicate situation, if they are out of the picture I believe we can play major roles on how to decide how cases should be adjudicated,
our aim is to bring Somalis together in ways that can transcend and ignore clan activities, to objectify and demolish clan affairs, raise awareness , promote education , introduce equality and serve justice, tackle poverty , deter corruption , put the peoples interests first , separate religion from the state , secularism, establishing a middle ground and putting differences aside, boosting the national curriculum systems and prohibiting any foreign related curriculums , Somalia needs it's own curriculum. Addressing poverty , destroying the chains of reliance , which destroyed families that made them rely on handouts, our aim is to create national labour and train people with skills our goal is ensue that it's the people that can develop the country not sitting their asses and waiting for Khadiija or Ahmed in America for monthly bills , in Somali we have an old saying " nimaan shaqeysan shaah wa ka xaaraam" hopefully we can make that a reality , I would fill the entire page with all these necessary criteria to make the perfect recipe , but that's another debate , right now we are wanting change.
Our aim is to fight for tranquility if our needs aren't met , if that happens then expect a Somali Che Guevara in the making, but then again let's not advocate for that just yet , that's only if we are left out of options.

Okay humans are already witnessing a Somali Che Guevara.
Our goal is to make a difference.
I'm no affiliated with medieval clan ties and no I don't have any interests of that clan sickness and illness , I am not tolerant to boistering it should be gone I hope you understand.

My ideology is neither Socialism nor Capitalism , when it comes to what ideology am I alligned with them it has to be centrism.
taking good things from either side, somewhere in between.

When it comes to relationships then it has to be someone I share compatible similarities with.

I can't marry a Somali Wahabbist or a Somali BLM because we share nothing in common.
 
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100% true western abdis and xalimos are not compatible. Were generally different in terms of view. This probably the main reason why abdi and xalimo exit is good. We don't have to fight when we could leave eachother alone.
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You're not very intelligent, if you base reality off of social media, where all the people with crazy veiws become noticed, while the normal quiet ones are ignored.
 

greyhound stone

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You're not very intelligent, if you base reality off of social media, where all the people with crazy veiws become noticed, while the normal quiet ones are ignored.
Yes and no. People express there real feelings online because of being annonmus. It is a facts genz abdis and xalimos just are not compatible for the future. Somalis in the west will mix at an unimaginable rate in the future. Its becoming more accepted and less looked down upon. So yes abdis and xalimos are kind of like oil and water they will never mix. Alhamdullilah i and many more will mingle with ajanabis

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Yes and no. People express there real feelings online because of being annonmus. It is a facts genz abdis and xalimos just are not compatible for the future. Somalis in the west will mix at an unimaginable rate in the future. Its becoming more accepted and less looked down upon. So yes abdis and xalimos are kind of like oil and water they will never mix. Alhamdullilah i and many more will mingle with ajanabis
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Thank god self hating morons like you will forever remain a miserable minority ;)
 

greyhound stone

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Thank god self hating morons like you will forever remain a miserable minority ;)
How im a self hater. I'm a proud somalilander 😁😉mixing is good. And will create beautiful and exotic kids who aren't abdi lugo basto and will also become widespread by the will of the most high. Allah Made us Muslims alhamdulilah
 
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