You will never be someone's 1st choice.

[Basra]

"
You will never be someone's 1st choice."


Honestly i do not want to be # 1 to anyone. It comes with a lot of pressure. Anxiety? What if i disappoint them? Will they take a gun and say-- YOU IS DEAD???


No i am happy with # 5...lets just cuddle

 

[Juliet]

This sounds like the title of a thread if there was such thing as a forum for incels

 

[Sloane Ranger]

What if one of them said no thanks to him, leaving him with no choice but to go with his #2, or worse #7. Then what?

So is this at the same time he's been seeing me or will that be from his past ?

 

[Karats]

This take does not make sense. To be a first choice u don't have to be the first one in their life, just be selected over another option.

Also the whole idea of wanting to be the first S/O is a weird fetish. Nun is wrong with divorcees. That is all.

 

[Bronco]

So is this at the same time he's been seeing me or will that be from his past ?

As in someone rejected him, and as the trooper he is - he continued his search. 3 months later, he meets you. What does @Halimo Supremist do?

 

[Lostbox]

Unless you meet someone in your teens while you're both virgins and then get marry, you'll never truly be someone's first choice.

It's a bitter pill to swallow but I thought everyone over a certain age understood this. Evidently not lol

My friend's about to do his nikkah and we were discussing the subject, he proceeded to start autistically screeching like some socially inept 15yr old.

If you've been in previous relationships, 9/10 the person you end up marrying isn't exactly your first choice, they're just the right choice for you at that particular time.
That concept's never bothered me, but people in relationships seem to freak the f*ck out if you suggest that's the case.

That's why is called a partnership. Love is just your Brain telling you it's time to make babies. If you believe the world is inherently selfish then it becomes easy to be a producer, to understand people only are about the value you provide them am so on.

 

[Mr.Haggis]

Take the L sxb.

 

[Angelina]

Unless i'm misunderstanding @Nak Muay's point, surely being a man/woman's first infatuation isn't necessarily a good thing?

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[Villainess]

Some of us were not even dating anyone in high school let alone 'undergrad' so why assume?

Anyway, first selection doesn't infer best fit. And it's all based on availability and viability of the prospect not necessarily the most optimal.

The most favoured one is a bit different. They might not be the first person you talk to. But this individual likely presents to you a feeling of openness, transparency and capacity to be yourself that is unparalleled to those you've met before or so you think. Who knows maybe it's real and difficult to encapsulate? One will never know unless they have a repertoire of relationship experiences with which to compare.

I swear you talk like a fortune card.

 

[Sophisticate]

I swear you talk like a fortune card.

I haven't heard that before.

 

[Happy_]

Did a girl break your heart? I remember your other post about jeceel huuno, I hope you heal from your hurt I believe in the Qadr of Allah that brings two ppl (male iyo female!!!) together, then Allah places affection and mercy in their hearts. Nac nac naga daaya. Who cares markaa if you‘re their first choice or not?!

 

[ReerVanCadde]

Aha, guys the poster above me just used the *who hurt you* card or a variation of it. This is legit like every other response they say, like a broken cassette tape.

@Happy_ , i too believe in Qadr. However, the way guys love and girls love is different. Girls love conditionally, so if a guy is broke but hes pretty no way in hell she's getting together with him. That's how it should be women want to have kids so there's nothing wrong with that.

With guys its like idc if your broke lets live in a cardboard box.

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Are you talking about people who been in relationships before.

I will make sure who I ever marry has never married or had a girlfriend in his life.

I believe good people are for good people aka virgins for virgins

 

[Happy_]

Aha, guys the poster above me just used the *who hurt you* card or a variation of it. This is legit like every other response they say, like a broken cassette tape.

@Happy_ , i too believe in Qadr. However, the way guys love and girls love is different. Girls love conditionally, so if a guy is broke but hes pretty no way in hell she's getting together with him. That's how it should be women want to have kids so there's nothing wrong with that.

With guys its like idc if your broke lets live in a cardboard box.

I have a feeling he has a sad love story, call it... intuition, iska faham nooh

anyways, I don‘t agree with your statement. Lol, the narrative that men are very humble and don‘t want much from their spouse is not true, there‘s always an exchange going on in relationships. Traditionally men are the providers while women are the nurturers, that‘s how we were made. So a guy wouldn‘t care if his wife is loaded or not or if and how she gonna provide, waryada stop being content with the bare minimum and struggle lifestyle, go out and work hard and strive to be wealthy. Women who want to be with a guy who got his ish together and is able to provide are NOT golddiggers, peace and love