He sees it, but lust has blinded him. Poverty back home is rife and I’ve heard of enough fathers offering their daughters up for polygamous unions so that the fathers have one less mouth to feed and their daughter gets a steady paycheck from her Western husband, meanwhile it’s his children in the West who will pick up the pieces as their dad is away months at a time.
Yaab! 30 year old Farax wants advice from xalimos on how to tell wife #1 he wants a second wife.
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It’s because religious Faraxs are exposed to the idea of polygamy being their God-given rights and since they believe it is ‘God’ ordained they think that trumps the health of the family and even the well-being of their kids. I see that a lot with some Salafi, even the speakers. Common sense and emotional intelligence goes out the window and sometimes the Quranic ethos of aqal and rahma also disappears. It’s interesting to observe.
If you want a second wife, it's best to have moved to Somalia with your first wife from the very beginning. Don't bring this mentality here as it doesn't work and causes family and societal problems. This has now become a generational issue. Can you imagine your grandkids being suckered into such arrangements?
I personally stopped sending remittances after last month after like 5 years of doing so. I send it to the food bank in my city and I get a tax receipt now lol. Having more than a spiritual connection to Somalia just causes personal problems in your life. It started to create an issue for me. Integrating in the west could have resolved many of Somali peoples' problems like family dysfunction.
If a person seriously thinks about getting a 2nd wife, he wouldn’t consult the help of R/Somalia. It could be possible that this is true but Im very sceptical.
This same topic was posted last year https://www.somalispot.com/threads/...ut-burning-bridges-with-the-first-one.128037/
You guys need to find new stuff to talk about
You guys need to find new stuff to talk about
How is he not loyal? He's still married to herIn the words of the great Kariis Baraawn, “These Faraxs ain’t loyal.”
Even after wifey gave him 2 children and they had a happy marriage… he gets married when on vacation.
No man with a second wife is on reddit anyway. Its probably some 15 year old kid trollingWho plans for a second wife and thinks "hmm let me run it by r/somalia first"
Now you lot are gonna make a 10 page thread over some bored faraax trolling
Fake story
They never will because they need their cushy Western jobs and lifestyle which allows them to go back home and marry again. The vast majority of men cannot practice polygamy properly because they simply can’t afford it.
no, he isn’t loyal whatsoever. Rushing into a polygamous marriage with a woman half way across the world shows he not only has 0 loyalty towards his wife but also his kids.
How is he meant to treat them equally? How are his kids going to fare when he is months on end away? He didn’t think of that. Why? Because he put his lust before his family. A loyal man that wants to be polygamous will think about the pros and cons, talks his wife about the adjusted situation and think about how he could still see his children most days.
One of the biggest lie sold to men is that polygamy is their right. It isnt, it’s a privilege for men that can afford it and have the time to do so. Many neither have the time nor money, but they’ve allowed their entitlement into thinking that this is God ordained.
How is he a cheater?Wife current mood + child support
Another day of this cheater taking L
Plus child support doesn't happen if u didn't get legally married.
Win Win for farax
Its not about loyalty then its about responsibility
You don't know his full family situation, alot of men have to travel for work months on end anyway, and they make it work. Plus this entire post is probably fake and used to trigger people, I don't believe it
It is loyalty. If someone is loyal, they put you first. This man is clearly only putting himself first.
Loyalty is about being loyal to the person you are with and not betraying them or backstabing them.
Working months on end isn’t a luxury. It is an adjustment families need to endure for the sake of having food on the table. Usually, it’s temporary and the goal is for the wife to move to where the husband is. Also, its a sacrifice of her Islamic rights since a man cannot be away for more than 4 months.
Can we say the same about polygamy? No. He doesn’t have to marry from abroad, hence putting a strain on his family.
Also I doubt this guy hasn't commit zina before, your lust cannot control your decisions that much if you are marrying a girl after thinking she looks pretty for a couple weeks.
