Abdisamad
VIP
I see, so are you planning to grow old alone?I wouldn’t be single for this long if that was the case. The married Somali women have a full time job with no pay or healthcare I feel for them. Peace
I see, so are you planning to grow old alone?I wouldn’t be single for this long if that was the case. The married Somali women have a full time job with no pay or healthcare I feel for them. Peace
A normal husband will allow his wife to leave and do what she needs to do because they trust each other, but ultimately he has the final say diiniyanWhy does 'allow' mean? How do you allow a grown-up what to do, or not to do? It sounds as if you are talking about a child.
First if I am not alone I have my familyI see, so are you planning to grow old alone?
We all have our family but that doesn't mean you can't start your own..First if I am not alone I have my family![]()
Not every woman wants a family with a man who thinks he owns her.we vet and we vet well even if means not having babies at all.We all have our family but that doesn't mean you can't start your own..
You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.
We all have our family but that doesn't mean you can't start your own..
You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.
Nuffin wrong what he said. Facts actually, any halimo thinking she can live without a husband will die sad and lonelyAbdisa, I never would've expected you to be as so shameless as to say that.
![]()
Abdisa, I never would've expected you to be as so shameless as to say that.
![]()
this thought makes more sense. Some guys need to understand the health is important. If they don't want her going to the gym, then they gotta bring the gym equipments to the homeSure I don't mind, as long as she's not wearing any revealing clothe also I'll go with her to the gym.. There aren't any only females gym where I live.. But if I can I might make her an own gym at our house then she doesn't have to the gym.
All guys are not abusive abaayo, Insha'Allah you'll fine a good man who'll treat you with respect and you can both prosper together.Not every woman wants a family with a man who thinks he owns her.we vet and we vet well even if means not having babies at all.
Some guys think as soon as their wife steps a foot outside the house another nigga will take herthis thought makes more sense. Some guys need to understand the health is important. If they don't want her going to the gym, then they gotta bring the gym equipments to the home
the insanity of these menSome guys think as soon as their wife steps a foot outside the house another nigga will take her![]()
I would be more concerned about my wife being harassed I don't have that concern with myself even if I go in with a khameesI think it is quite irrational to not allow your wife to go to a mixed gym if you live in the west. If you live somewhere fortunate enough where there are gender segregated gyms, then sure I think that would be a reasonable standard. But I think this is unlikely to happen in the US/Europe. Plus, making your own gym at home for your wife to use can be expensive and you'd need to buy/rent a house first.
As men living in the west we are already going to mixed gyms ourselves because there are no segregated gyms. The inverse worry of a husband cheating on a wife by seeing good looking girl in the gym could be applied to this thread as well, and using the same logic by users here, females in this thread could argue that Somali men should never go to the gym.
I think the main problem with other men here is that they have trust issues with their future spouses. Look at this from a risk/benefit analysis. I think the long term potential physical impacts of a women NOT going to the gym (obesity, diabetes, heart disease, etc) from lack of physical exercise and reduced muscle mass outweigh the slight risks of your wife somehow leaving you. Your wife is an adult, she can cover her awrah with less revealing clothing, and tell other men at the gym who ask her out that she is married. If you can't trust your wife, I think you married the wrong person. And if you are still nervous, make sure you have enough money to buy a house and make a home gym before you get married so you don't have to deal with this.
Hohohoho someone asking my wife out is too far sahiibI think it is quite irrational to not allow your wife to go to a mixed gym if you live in the west. If you live somewhere fortunate enough where there are gender segregated gyms, then sure I think that would be a reasonable standard. But I think this is unlikely to happen in the US/Europe. Plus, making your own gym at home for your wife to use can be expensive and you'd need to buy/rent a house first.
As men living in the west we are already going to mixed gyms ourselves because there are no segregated gyms. The inverse worry of a husband cheating on a wife by seeing good looking girl in the gym could be applied to this thread as well, and using the same logic by users here, females in this thread could argue that Somali men should never go to the gym.
I think the main problem with other men here is that they have trust issues with their future spouses. Look at this from a risk/benefit analysis. I think the long term potential physical impacts of a women NOT going to the gym (obesity, diabetes, heart disease, etc) from lack of physical exercise and reduced muscle mass outweigh the slight risks of your wife somehow leaving you. Your wife is an adult, she can cover her awrah with less revealing clothing, and tell other men at the gym who ask her out that she is married. If you can't trust your wife, I think you married the wrong person. And if you are still nervous, make sure you have enough money to buy a house and make a home gym before you get married so you don't have to deal with this.
It’s just that I know what my odds are. Thanks walalAll guys are not abusive abaayo, Insha'Allah you'll fine a good man who'll treat you with respect and you can both prosper together.
You are welcome abaayo, in the ultimate end as Muslims only Allah knows what our futuee brings, just make lost of dua and be optimistic.It’s just that I know what my odds are. Thanks walal