Wife in UAE seeks divorce because Husband is too nice.

[Basra]

I am waiting

 

[Jaydaan]

Inquisitive, you are a one trick pony and as soon as I saw this article I was able to predict the argument you will present.

You have no idea of female biological disposition and you are fueled mostly by your dislike of women. Not arguing with your wife, helping her and being kind is indeed good treatment and is part of the Sunnah. That was how our beloved prophet S.A.W treated his wives.

You are using this article, about a woman who was probably raised in a dysfunctional household as an example as to why you shouldn't be loving towards a woman.

The whole treat them mean, keep them keen mantra illustrates a man's deep rooted low self esteem and is very childish. Grow up.

But its either treat her bad or she leves. She is wired certain way. Some women dont like nice guys and is turned off by it. I even had a girl tell me to my face I dont like nuce guys

 

[VixR]

@Inquisitive_ that is a low blow and tells me everything I need to know about you.

He died in a car wreck. He’s really equating getting over dating/past relationships with sudden death.

He also said middle class women don’t witness/experience abuse. I mean, that is just asinine.

I think either he had a dysfunctional home and saw his mother get pounded, or he resents women because his father was polygamous or divorced his mother.

 

[Muji]

@Basra didn’t know you were from the UAE

 

[HalimaJ]

But its either treat her bad or she leves. She is wired certain way. Some women dont like nice guys and is turned off by it. I even had a girl tell me to my face I dont like nuce guys

Such women are dysfunctional. Some men are into fiery abusive women. Does that mean their preference is healthy?

Some people need therapy and time to find themselves before entering relationships, instead of getting with her escort her to the nearest psychologist.

 

[Inquisitive_]

Inquisitive, you are a one trick pony and as soon as I saw this article I was able to predict the argument you will present.

You have no idea of female biological disposition and you are fueled mostly by your dislike of women. Not arguing with your wife, helping her and being kind is indeed good treatment and is part of the Sunnah. That was how our beloved prophet S.A.W treated his wives.

You are using this article, about a woman who was probably raised in a dysfunctional household as an example as to why you shouldn't be loving towards a woman.

The whole treat them mean, keep them keen mantra illustrates a man's deep rooted low self esteem and is very childish. Grow up.

You didn't predict anything, you have only made ridiculous assumptions about me thus far without any proof.

I do not even believe in that bold parts your trying to spoon feed me with, there is a reason why we have two ears and a single mouth.

You should be listening twice as much as you speak, but as always you perfectly fit the angry black female stereotype, always quick to judge and accuse without assessing the facts frist.

I’ve seen it happen with my own eyes. Our next door neighbors used to slam dunk each other, now their daughter’s getting beat up and their son has been away for assault.

I could only guess men like @Inquisitive_ equally grew up in dysfunctional homes.

You talking about working class or as we call the chav's in the UK, your a first generation Somali immigrant from refugee parents, your family can't afford to live in the middle/upper-class areas to even observe this.

As for your insult about dysfunction, if your comments were true, I would have never had the aspirations to go back home to get married.

Especially when there is an overabundance of desperate dysfunctional Xaalimo's here in the UK.

If your going to make something up, at least make it plausible because dysfunction seeks dysfunction and filth seeks filth.

 

[NotMyL]

He died in a car wreck. He’s really equating getting over dating/past relationships with sudden death.

He also said middle class women don’t witness/experience abuse. I mean, that is just asinine.

I think either he had a dysfunctional home, or he resents women because his father was polygamous or divorced his mother.

@Inquisitive_ is just looking for an excuse to be a prick to his wife, normal women don’t want an abusive husband.

 

[Muji]

@Inquisitive_ would read a whole book and look at the snippet that agrees with him and tell us that was what the whole story was about.

What about the millions of women who have divorced their husbands because of abuse, neglect and adultery. That doesn’t matter because some woman with Stockholm syndrome in an Arab state agrees that you should abuse women.

 

[Jaydaan]

Such women are dysfunctional. Some men are into fiery abusive women. Does that mean their preference is healthy?

Some people need therapy and time to find themselves before entering relationships, instead of getting with her escort her to the nearest psychologist.

You cant fix everyone. For some people this is just who they are. Messing with their make up trying to fix everyone to be the same will.mess them up even more. Im still suspicious.....what kind of arab man isnt abusive to his woman?

 

[VixR]

Again you comparing working class or as we call the chav's in the UK, your a first generation Somali immigrant from refugee parents, your family can't afford to live in the middle/upper-class areas to even observe this.

As for your insult about dysfunction, if your comments were true, I would have never had the aspirations to go back home to get married.

Especially when there is an overabundance of desperate dysfunctional Xaalimo's here in the UK.

If your going to make something up, at least make it plausible because dysfunction seeks dysfunction and filth seeks filth.

My family aren’t refugees. And they’re upper middle class.

As per your last statement, you’re seeking dysfunction in women, which is why I think you’re dysfunctional. There must be a reason for it.

 

[HalimaJ]

He died in a car wreck. He’s really equating getting over dating/past relationships with sudden death.

He also said middle class women don’t witness/experience abuse. I mean, that is just asinine.

I think either he had a dysfunctional home and saw his mother get pounded, or he resents women because his father was polygamous or divorced his mother.

That is why I am so disgusted with his comment. You've talked about your relationship and trying to deal with his death ect and the fact that he is comparing women being in toxic relationships to a girl finding it difficult to come to terms with a loved one's death, which is a normal human reaction is absolute madness.

He prides himself in being logical, yet there is no logic to his arguments. He just hides behind long vocab and his articulate way of writing.

 

[Basra]

But its either treat her bad or she leves. She is wired certain way. Some women dont like nice guys and is turned off by it. I even had a girl tell me to my face I dont like nuce guys

Jay hit the nail in the coffin. All these abuse and victim point of view is useless. No one mentioned abuse here, why are these xalimos inserting their stories into this????


The story is clear. The husband is "too nice"




Period. And NO, u dont have to abuse your wife to be removed from being 'nice'.


A woman needs to be stimulated by an opposite. The adage, opposite attract was not coined for no reason.


This reminds me of the Hadith of prophet muhammad pbuh. where two slave husband & wife came to the prophet pbuh to beg him to intercede into their marriage. She wanted to leave him as soon as they were free. She was point black asked by the prophet pbuh.


Did he hit you? No

Is he cruel to u? No

Then what is the problem??? U see the man is following u town and in tears . Have mercy woman.


She said-- is this a prophet command?


Prophet pbuh smiled and said, NO, i am not commanding.


Then i dont want him. I have nothing against my husband, i just dont want him. Maa qasaab baah?



The point of this story is-- he was nice to her, obviously suffocated her with love like this UEA husband.


A wife needs to look up to a man. Be mesmerized by him and mystified by him. Dont clean my home, u r disrespecting my territory. U need to be occupied with your hobby, your life. Dont walk around being happy u have me. U need to be brilliant in something to gain my respect. Just be complex.


This poor woman was begging for an argument, because at least an argument is not planned. She wants spontaneity. She wants to be real. A fight is unexpected and usually leads to hot, sweaty sex that is not nice but messy.

 

[HalimaJ]

You cant fix everyone. For some people this is just who they are. Messing with their make up trying to fix everyone to be the same will.mess them up even more. Im still suspicious.....what kind of arab man isnt abusive to his woman?

Jaydaan, there are many dysfunctional men. I've come across some before marrying. Ones that were argumentative and liked women shouting and screaming at them. Since I am normal and was raised in a home in which my parents spoke to each other like respectful civilised adults, i didn't entertain it. I walked away.

I could easily sit here and come up with your argument and come to the conclusion that in order for me to 'get a man' i need to slightly mistreat him. Its ludicrous.

 

[Inquisitive_]

Countless studies highlight the impact domestic violence has on children's development. Girls from abusive homes are more likely to chose abusive husbands due to their low self esteem and the normalisation of bad treatment.

When you have watched your mother being disrespected by your father, the idea of your husband being loving and helping you with the household becomes unusual.

Yes and I agree to an extend, but does this only apply to females? what about male's that are raised in those households? does dysfunction seek dysfunction? or are we only absolving the females in this?

I raised the exact same question to @IstarZ who chose to ignore it, and it's clear to see why she did this, let's see what you have to say.

Let’s put all the garbage aside, and go to brass tacks. Was your dad ever around for your childhood? Was he jumping from home to home?

There are explanations for how people turn out, and you’re included in that.

He was always around and we are best buddies, the same for my mum, in fact out of 8 I am there favourite, I even built them a retirement home contributing the majority, both parents have always been together under the same roof, anything else?

@Inquisitive_ that is a low blow and tells me everything I need to know about you.

She posted this on a public forum, I am just paraphrasing her word for word, how exactly is this a low blow?

As reprehensible as she is for her disbelief, she is at least consistent and online character wise better then the majority of the likes of you who are balls deep in hypocrisy and hate.

So far you have already made extraordinary false claims and lies about me, not even bothering to first enquire as she did.

 

[The alchemist]

Females like to stir shit up in a relationship when they're unhappy about something that didn't go as they hoped or planned. So they take the toxic behavior and channel it towards the man.

 

[Dr.Xayawaan]

This is why if you're married its good to have a couple of suuns in the wardrobe incase the says

" yOuR toO nICe tO mE ".

 

[VixR]

Jaydaan, there are many dysfunctional men. I've come across some before marrying. Ones that were argumentative and liked women shouting and screaming at them. Since I am normal and was raised in a home in which my parents spoke to each other like respectful civilised adults, i didn't entertain it. I walked away.

I could easily sit here and come up with your argument and come to the conclusion that in order for me to 'get a man' i need to slightly mistreat him. Its ludicrous.

I couldn’t have said it better. I’ve come across guys like that too.

 

[HalimaJ]

Yes and I agree to an extend, but does this only apply to females? what about male's that are raised in those households? does dysfunction seek dysfunction? or are we only absolving the females in this?

I raised the exact same question to @IstarZ who chose to ignore it, and it's clear to see why she did this, let's see what you have to say.

He was always around and we are best buddies, the same for my mum, in fact out of 8 I am there favourite, I even built them a retirement home contributing the majority, anything else?

She posted this on a public forum, I am just paraphrasing her word for word, how exactly is this a low blow?

As reprehensible as she is for her disbelief, she is at least consistent and online character wise better then the majority of the likes of you who are balls deep in hypocrisy and hate, so far you have already made extraordinary false claims about me.

What does getting over the death of a loved one have to do with women from toxic homes and choosing equally toxic men?

He died, she mourns him. Totally normal.

I'm very confused now.

 

[NotMyL]

This is why if you're married its good to have a couple of suuns in the wardrobe incase the says

" yOuR toO nICe tO mE ".

You couldn’t have picked a better username.

 

[HalimaJ]

Also, @Inquisitive_ i have come across dysfunctional men as well. From getting to know one i realised that he was probably from a home in which his mother was a loud mouth who bullied her partner and him.

Read my reply to @Jaydaan.