why do somalis look down in single moms?

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  1. Halimo-2018

    Halimo-2018

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    I think we are super moms. they look at you like you have disease as if it the end if the world lol
    I need to start a single
    Mom somali support group.
     
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  2. Mehmet

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    More like they look down on guys even if they are looking for third,fourth or fifth husband but yet well under 40
     
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    Really? I feel like they glorify it. Somali women hate being tied down to a man so even when they are married it’s like they are single mothers with a second income. And then the men like being lazy and praise the girls doing every thing by themselves. I don’t even remember the last time a seen a household where the dad wasn’t (in the words inquisitive) a “toothless ceremonial figure” lol

    But the single mom group is a good idea. It’ll give the more isolated single mothers a chance to network, find baby sitters, daycares etc
     
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  4. babooshke

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    who doesn't look down on single moms?, it's a global thing, it's not confined to somalis
     
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  5. Halimo-2018

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    Why do you think somali women dont like being tied to a man? I've notice this in me as wells few others lol
    For me its the fear of losing my individuality and being reduced to so and so wife but i think there some other issues am not aware for now thats main reason.
     
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  6. Finesse

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    Any parent that is raising their child is a good person, whether they are single mothers or fathers.
    Hardly anyone goes into marriage hoping to get divorced, it happens but no need to judge people for it.

    Love to all the single parents out there
     
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  7. Mukhalas

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    Somali do look down on single moms with ajnabi kids.
     
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    Thats another topic. Must be very isolating
     
  9. babooshke

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    That's because Fathers tend to dictate the identity of the household. Pretty much every half-somali person I've seen completely rejects their somali side when they have an ajanbi father.
     
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  11. Jaydaan

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    The do not look down on single mums. If they did we wouldn’t have so many girls divorcing wile having babies. It’s like most of them marry just to have kids and look forward to raising kid on their own. Somali women like all black women love struggle. They want to be mum and dad
     
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  12. Halimo-2018

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    Because daddy loves women lol otherwise women wouldn't mind being with their men
     
  14. Jaydaan

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    are you talking from your own experience lol
     
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    @Halimo-2018

    No Thanks for the obligation sister.

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    For being a great mother.
     
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  16. Halimo-2018

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    And everyone around me...i have close aunties also neighbors who are over 50 that just got left for another women after having and raising 9+ kids each. Whats the point if his eventually leaving anyways might kick him out sooner lol jk seriously loyal men are very rare women dont need added stress to being a mom
     
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  17. Tameable Qumayo

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    I consider most somali married women single moms anyway, since lots of somali men are not family oriented.

    As for the divorced somali women looked down upon, it is depends with family and qabil. My close friend got alienated by her hooyo and older sisters coz they blame her for not perservering aka be a doormat and let her husband walk all over her.

    I've also seen this divorced somali mother remarry her fifth time, still desireable and pursued by men.
     
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  18. Jaydaan

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    women need men to raise kids. Why struggle yourself when a man can help you. The reason we have so many feminine and petty boys is fathers are being pushed aside and boys are being raised like girls
     
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    I can understand making shitty decisions in life but it's just too life changing for me to not think you're not great at thinking ahead.
     
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