Why do Somali men take pride in being

[HalimaJ]

No wallahi. I speak a couple of different dialects. Told them i was from Kismayo. I def didnt want a gold digger.. Ma walantahy. I left America because of that shit.

Women back home are back home are 100% much more likely to be golddiggers, simply because they are poorer.

Here in the west, we are too busy being independent women. *clicks fingers

 

[Suldaanka]

Women back home are back home are 100% much more likely to be golddiggers, simply because they are poorer.

Here in the west, we are too busy being independent women. *clicks fingers

Nah. Its the opposite. I been thru both. Naag qurba joogta waa lacag. Na somalia joogta waa caruurteeda. Even if they were gold diggers my kids will grow up good and her gold digging cost is less than 500 a month.
Independent my ass.

 

[HalimaJ]

Emotional men are new western thing. Men are 'emotionally unavailable' as normal worldwide. Fathers are supposed to be stoic and reserved not crying and whining like women

Not a western phenomenon, a lot have a such a hard time expressing themselves that they commit sucide, engage in delinquent behaviour, have violent outbursts ect you name it.

No one expects them to be emotional cry babies that blabber, you just need to express yourselves in private in the comfort of your homes at times, so you can face the world.

 

[AussieHustler]

Emotionally unavailable. What's wrong with men talking about their feelings?

How come Somali men find it easy to say I love you on the first date but pretend to be emotionally unavailable for the rest of their lives. Smh.

@Reiko

I you.

 

[HalimaJ]

Nah. Its the opposite. I been thru both. Naag qurba joogta waa lacag. Na somalia joogta waa caruurteeda. Even if they were gold diggers my kids will grow up good and her gold digging cost is less than 500 a month.
Independent my ass.

Loool, you've proved my point. They expect less, simply because they have less.

 

[Suldaanka]

Lol, it is fact girls born and raised in the west are doing better not only academically, but also job wise, compared to Abdis. It is a problem, but now Somali guys are catching up Alhamdulliah.

Therefore, obviously their requirements in a man is going to change.

I know it might sound shallow, but there are certain types of guys i'm not really going to consider to be stable, where as a girl in Somalia isn't going to have the same mindset.

There are certain women i will never consider after my first mistake. As for somali girla back home are more educated then the west. Ask anyone who has been back home. What we look for in women is a women who will raise raise kids to be tough and outstanding in life. Not soft entitled snowflakes qurba women are known to produce

 

[Suldaanka]

Loool, you've proved my point. They expect less, simply because they have less.

No actually life is cheaper and proportionate.
Just as 100 wont do shit back home 2k in the US is nothing. Fahanyey ma fahantay

 

[HalimaJ]

No actually life is cheaper and proportionate.
Just as 100 wont do shit back home 2k in the US is nothing. Fahanyey ma fahantay

I've been back home, and due to the poverty and the level of responsibility the girls feel towards their family, money is a very important factor when choosing a spouse, so much so, i found their mindset very crazy.

Did i judge? No, because if I was raised there I would be the same or more. I'm not saying they are all like that, but many are. But is human nature, love and all that malarky comes 2nd as securing a positive future is more important.

Somali women back home are not only hardworking and resourceful, but also very, very intelligent. They can make a man feel as though she loves him for him when really and truly she only cares about his wallet. Seeing them showed me how maskeen and not smooth western Xalimos are. like, i was looking at them like, i could learn a thing or two.

I have two cousins that have been burnt and I have had countless of conversations with young Somali women from back home. The difference between my experience and yours is that they can talk to me honestly as I am a woman, whilst you are a man, you're not obviously going to have a real understanding of their mindset as you are a potential target.

Again, not all are like that though. But it is still a common phenomenon. I have countless tales of family members and family friends being used.

 

[halwa]

Somali men are emotionally unavailable because they lack coping strategies. They always look for excuses when it comes to their shortfalls and when they see no way out of the situation they turn the blame back to the woman. They are most likely to become the biggest sociopaths. I’ve seen some firsthand.

 

[halwa]

Nah. Its the opposite. I been thru both. Naag qurba joogta waa lacag. Na somalia joogta waa caruurteeda. Even if they were gold diggers my kids will grow up good and her gold digging cost is less than 500 a month.
Independent my ass.

Just say you can’t afford western ladies rather than coming up with an excuse. The ones back home are gold diggers. Once they hear qurbaha and passport in one sentence they start with their good girl/miskiin/ nin u roon act. You men are easily fooled! Masakiin

 

[simulacrum]

Being stoic is an evolutionary advantage, especially in times of impending death. The geeljire were constantly under the threat of other aggressive tribes and the indifferent nature that could affect their livelihood.

 

[Kodeen]

The psychopath

1. Some genuinely have no emotions and could have a mild of form of psychopath tendencies. Hence saying 'I love you' on the first date is a way to lure in an attention starved Xalimo.

The emotionally retarded

2. The overally macho, dog eat dog Somali culture, irons out any emotional vulnerability in Somali kids, therefore, as adults it becomes exceedingly hard to express ones emotions. I believe, being emotionally unavailable is a problem with Xalimos as well.

The insecure

3. Severe neediness and low self esteem can have the opposite effect. Men may feel that expressing their real thoughts and feelings to their significant other will diminish their power. As a result they adopt a 'treat them mean, keep them keen' mentality so that they can always be in control of the situation. They wrongly believe this will make them look more masculine, therefore desirable in their partners eyes.

Most of it is #2 but I don't understand why you're making it sound like a bad thing

 

[HalimaJ]

Most of it is #2 but I don't understand why you're making it sound like a bad thing

Because it isn't healthy. Its why men are much more likely to commit suicide, why they end up having violent outbursts and uncontrollable fits of anger. Just toxic behaviour.

Parts of being a healthy adult is being able to manage your emotions. Just express yourselves, instead of bottling things up.

The prophet S.A.W is the best model to follow, he was the strongest of men, yet expressive.

 

[Kodeen]

Because it isn't healthy. Its why men are much more likely to commit suicide, why they end up having violent outbursts and uncontrollable fits of anger. Just toxic behaviour.

Parts of being a healthy adult is being able to manage your emotions. Just express yourselves, instead of bottling things up.

The prophet S.A.W is the best model to follow, he was the strongest of men, yet expressive.

So you're one of them, huh?


Some valid points, but in my honest opinion, as a man you should be selective with what, how and who you express/share with. This whole macho front is only to women, nothing wrong with having a deep conversation with your brother about how you feel every once in a while.


Also what do women back home say about Western faaraxs? You left it at a cliffhanger

 

[East side]

They are really trying to make all men like women....any masculinity is toxic. Honestly some of you would be better being with other women and just use a strap-on. You get your emotional nonsense everyday. Im old school farax as are all the men in my family.

 

[HalimaJ]

So you're one of them, huh?


Some valid points, but in my honest opinion, as a man you should be selective with what, how and who you express/share with. This whole macho front is only to women, nothing wrong with having a deep conversation with your brother about how you feel every once in a while.


Also what do women back home say about Western faaraxs? You left it at a cliffhanger

I 100% agree. Tbh, be yourselves be expressive with your wives. Thats the person who should have your back and keep all your secrets and vice versa

 

[HalimaJ]

They are really trying to make all men like women....any masculinity is toxic. Honestly some of you would be better being with other women and just use a strap-on. You get your emotional nonsense everyday. Im old school farax as are all the men in my family.

No, we want men to be men but be expressive when they need to be.

Nobody want a little cry baby.

Being expressive with your partner should be normal.

 

[East side]

No, we want men to be men but be expressive when they need to be.

Nobody want a little cry baby.

Being expressive with your partner should be normal.

And it is normal.....but people who constantly talk about men not being emotionally connected to them are usually looking for a crying partner or drama. Some women get off on drama and if you keep things simple and logical they will say you are expressing enough emotions. Most of us dont have enough emotions about most things.

 

[Qabille]

Emotions are for the mentally weak.

 

[bluebird]

Whether they are emotionally available or unavailable, they act the same. I've yet to meet one of those emotionally available saps who isn't a fraud.