Why do many Muslim men act like Islam is only for Women?

[Somalaiklik]

Go ahead and marry Abu Tyrone he will slap those pancake cheeks red.

How vulgur. Go watch some pxrn nacas.

 

[Somalaiklik]

How vulgur. Go watch some nacas.

Noone cares

Clearly some of you do bc all u post abt is women this women that ffs.

 

[Angelina]

Who is responsible for the daughter if not other than her father and brother? I am not suggesting horrific stuff like honor killings but if they dont approve than she must confide.

This is not just about rejection of who she wants to marry.

-The brother would abuse them for not being conservative enough, despite having girlfriends and not even fearing Allah.

- The family forced the sister to marry her cousins.

- The parents did not check the brother and was allowed to sin rampantly. As a parent, if you love your son, you'd also enjoin the good and forbid the evil. Clearly, the deen isn't really a factor it simply culture.

- Stuff like that simply pushes young woman away from Islam. Now we have confused young girls believing that their abuses and double standards are Islamically sanctioned.

 

[Taij4an]

Clearly some of you do bc all u post abt is women this women that ffs.

I certainly do not

 

[Indeed]

Plenty of munafiqs within the Muslim communities, but this isn’t men only issues, some women are also equally munafiqs who are also capable of pretending to be a good Muslim, but equally, commit domestic violence etc within the household.

Munafiqs etc doesn’t discriminate on the basis of a gender.

 

[Username]

"Muslim men" you mean Asian men

 

[Queen Ati]

There is too many Abu Tyrone in the pond why look for farax lugo baasto.

Go look for a gusband and live your life.

Go get help for your condition.
Not once did I insult Somali men but here you come with your misogynist cape on.

 

[Angelina]

Plenty of munafiqs within the Muslim communities, but this isn’t men only issues, some women are also equally munafiqs who are also capable of pretending to be a good Muslim, but equally, commit domestic violence etc within the household.

Munafiqs etc doesn’t discriminate on the basis of a gender.

You're right, but women aren't the physically and emotionally dominant party who are the heads of the house. That is why, you'll find that it does become a gender issue as women don't usually have the power and authority to impose one sided rules.

 

[Username]

Okay but we dont have to listen to them. I am marrying who i want gaalo or not.

Depends on whether you're Muslim or not, if you aren't, go ahead, but if you are, then that is pretty weird, you cannot marry a "gaalo" and someone your family is against.

 

[Username]

So Pakistanis are incestuous people. Racist pos.

I mean they do have a high rate of honour killing and cousin marriage

 

[Indeed]

You're right, but women aren't the physically and emotionally dominant party who are the heads of the house. That is why, you'll find that it does become a gender issue as women don't usually have the power and authority to impose one sided rules.

@Angelina, I wholeheartedly disagree with you, women are far more likely to physically abuse their husband, you wanna know why? This is due to lax laws within the western countries. Laws that favour women, if a woman physically abuse the man , then the woman won’t get in trouble because she’s “ weak, miskeen” etc, but if a man does physically abuse a women, then whole hell would break loose, and that guy would get arrested.

All I’m saying is, laws favour women, which a small number of evil women takes advantage of it. All forms of abuse whether it’s from a man or a woman is bad, and should be treated as such equally.

 

[Username]

They cant force us to live by their rules we can just ignore all the men and donwhat we want with who want and say what we want. We can date who we want we can marry who want. We can dress how we want we can drink what we want and we can eat what we want. We can choose who we love. If they touch one girl we will beat those misogynistic incel women hating faarax’s within an inch of their life. MARK. MY. WORDS.

You go girl!

 

[Taij4an]

@Angelina, I wholeheartedly disagree with you, women are far more likely to physically abuse their husband, you wanna know why? This is due to lax laws within the western countries. Laws that favour women, if a woman physically abuse the man , then the woman won’t get in trouble because she’s “ weak, miskeen” etc, but if a man does physically abuse a women, then whole hell would break loose, and that guy would get arrested.

All I’m saying is, laws favour women, which a small number of evil women takes advantage of it. All forms of abuse whether it’s from a man or a woman is bad, and should be treated as such equally.

Evidence? Stats?

 

[Jeghbamjdb]

this is Cultural and it's all about upholding Patriarch

I don't get how this is a valid criticism.

Considering the fact that Islam itself upholds patriarchy.

I would say this is a case of extremely bad parenting and social norms that are against Islam.

Not here to contend the fact that these social are unfairly made to benefit the men in society, it's just how you portrayed the problem as a way of upholding the patriarchy, as if it was a bad thing.


Considering the fact that if the problem was indeed solved, and men were held accountable of their unislamic practices just as much as women are, it still wouldn't mean removing patriarchy's influence. In fact, it would increase it because the men would be more religiously aware.

So reducing the problem to 'upholding patriarchy' isn't going to help us properly understand the situation.

Unless you're a gaal that wants to strip men of their god given right to head their families and communities all together. Then in that case, your statement would make more sense.

 

[Username]

Excuse me, how is it fair that her sister was abused and forced to marry a cousin, whilst her brother gets to marry whoever he wants and would abuse the sisters to get them to be more practising whilst he commits zina and gets with gaals?

Yes, if I was abused and told I have to marry my fob cousin because i'm a woman whilst my brother has total freedom and on top of that I was abused by the hypocrite, i'd be 100% jealous and angry.

I thought Muslim women were not allowed to marry "gaals" so what's with the comparison? Don't like it? Take it up with your religion.

 

[Taij4an]

I thought Muslim women were not allowed to marry "gaals" so what's with the comparison? Don't like it? Take it up with your religion.

Men arent allowed to marry gaals either

 

[Indeed]

Evidence? Stats?

Differences in frequency of violence and reported injury between relationships with reciprocal and nonreciprocal intimate partner violence - PubMed

The context of the violence (reciprocal vs nonreciprocal) is a strong predictor of reported injury. Prevention approaches that address the escalation of partner violence may be needed to address reciprocal violence.

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

 

[Username]

Men arent allowed to marry gaals either

So Christians and Jews aren't considered gaals?

 

[Username]

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

“I was shown hell. I saw that most of its inhabitants were ungrateful women… The Prophet was asked: ‘Were they ungrateful to Allāh?’ He replied: ‘They were ungrateful to their husbands and for the favors and the good done to them. If you show benevolence to one of them and then she sees something in you not to her liking, she will say: ‘I have never seen any good in you.’”

I don't make the rules Xalimos, stop worrying about what the men do, as you can see from the hadith above, you should be worrying about your sisters

 

[Somalaiklik]

Depends on whether you're Muslim or not, if you aren't, go ahead, but if you are, then that is pretty weird, you cannot marry a "gaalo" and someone your family is against.

I wouldn’t personally but if another somali girl wants to let her.