There’s nothing sexist about asking for a date and paying for it. I’m not paying to be dated, or prematurely investing in a stranger. If I were actually chasing men, god forbid, you’d have a point and I’d have the bills.
Think of it this way: If you invite/ask people somewhere (as in, per your request) either to your home or to an outing, are you supposed to be their host, or are they meant to bring their own refreshments and be their own host?
If a guy asks you out and expects you to split from the get go, imo he’s not it. Something’s wrong. I know some people accept it as normal, but I trust my observations/instincts. It’s a dupe to have women essentially paying to be dated, and many times it’s a downfall.