Thinking of having a second wife

[Dino]

honestly feel bad for women in these types of situations
if he wants a stable relationship with her, he'd ask her beforehand, no?

Do you live in the West?

yes

 

[Dino]

https://www.alislam.org/question/islam-obedience-law-of-land/

In Islam you are required to follow the law of the land you live in so YOU should pipe down you egotistical maniac.

take islam out of your mouth coz clearly you haven't got a clue. The law here in the Uk says i am allowed to drink alcohol. Clearly i don't.

So long as my marriage is halal in the eyes of islam, i couldnt care less what the queen thinks

 

[Dino]

The thing is, western xalimos in general will not be 2nd wives. The only options you have are either get a Salafi xalimo with a past, bring a xalimo from back home or marry an ajnabi wife

There are no other choices sxb

xalimo with a past? lool i am not into the redemption change her culture
bringing a xalimo aint a problem
Ajnabi wife? hmmm lots of beautiful pious syrian women out there. Trouble is hoyo is going to flip. dont want the hassale

 

[Samaalic Era]

xalimo with a past? lool i am not into the redemption change her culture
bringing a xalimo aint a problem
Ajnabi wife? hmmm lots of beautiful pious syrian women out there. Trouble is hoyo is going to flip. dont want the hassale

If you really want to go 2nd wife, then Its better to get a xalimo from back home and then bring her. As long as you are not legally married to your 1st wife, then you can do it. Otherwise you will have to get an ajnabi 2nd wife

 

[Marcus]

xalimo with a past? lool i am not into the redemption change her culture
bringing a xalimo aint a problem
Ajnabi wife? hmmm lots of beautiful pious syrian women out there. Trouble is hoyo is going to flip. dont want the hassale

thinking about hoyos opinion but thinks he can get another wife?

How old are you akhi?

 

[Ghengis Kaarhis]

thinking about hoyos opinion but thinks he can get another wife?

How old are you akhi?

Your hoyo's opinion should matter still, but it can't be the end all be all of your decision making.

Ultimately I wouldn't enter a marriage if both sets of parents aren't cool with it. I want my kids to know both sets of their grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins same way I was able to.

 

[Marcus]

Your hoyo's opinion should matter still, but it can't be the end all be all of your decision making.

Ultimately I wouldn't enter a marriage if both sets of parents aren't cool with it. I want my kids to know both sets of their grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins same way I was able to.

I agree to an extent. I guess we all have different mothers. My mother advises me, but doesn't go beyond that.

Objecting a pious Muslim woman just because she isn't Somali, I think is excess. And you're not obligated to obey your parents if they contradict Islam.

 

[Ghengis Kaarhis]

I agree to an extent. I guess we all have different mothers. My mother advises me, but doesn't go beyond that.

Objecting a pious Muslim woman just because she isn't Somali, I think is excess. And you're not obligated to obey your parents if they contradict Islam.

My mother is the same way.

And personally I ain't trying to seed up no ajinabi.

 

[Hassan Garguute Buldanana]

Mashallah, go for it if you can but it aint something easy. My concern is the welfare of the kids, i would want to know daily activities of the kids i already have with the first wife. How are they doing in School? dugsi? Homework? who they hang out with? They need to see thier father in the house daily. This is how kids end up being qasaros.

 

[Dino]

thinking about hoyos opinion but thinks he can get another wife?

How old are you akhi?

there is no barakah is marriage without the duas from the parents

 

[Basra]

there is no barakah is marriage without the duas from the parents

 

[Mehdi Hassan]

Choose different wives from the rainbow. Experiment and have fun, but make sure you treat all of them fairly and live up to your duties as a husband.

What do you mean by that exactly???

 

[Dino]

Mashallah, go for it if you can but it aint something easy. My concern is the welfare of the kids, i would want to know daily activities of the kids i already have with the first wife. How are they doing in School? dugsi? Homework? who they hang out with? They need to see thier father in the house daily. This is how kids end up being qasaros.

yeah i think its the kids that's going to be the primary issue. dont want my kids to be qasaros at all

 

[Yahya]

What do you mean by that exactly???

Don't limit yourself.

 

[Mehdi Hassan]

But you're close to destroying it by thinking of marrying a second wife, that's going to bring jealously and hate ....never seen a happy families from polygamy marriage's....NEVER.

I don't even know why a man would want it even if he's capable, it's such a headache.

 

[Mehdi Hassan]

Don't limit yourself.

I see.

 

[Mehdi Hassan]

yeah i think its the kids that's going to be the primary issue. dont want my kids to be qasaros at all

I see you have your priorities in order.

 

[strawberrii]

One of my biggest fears is that the xalimos on here look like that.

Well you don’t need to worry because you’re not gonna meet one.... are you??

 

[Mehdi Hassan]

I wonder what it's like to have four wives..

 

[King Khufu]

I'll take my two wives after the paper sit rights. The Fee will Grant Access.